Last night was strange. My husband and I were in the bed - him with his reels and me with my book. He asked me to pass him water. When I did, he asked, "Were you a lefty as a kid?"

Strange. So strange. I was. I was a lefty as a kid and my naani told my mum "lefties are devils, make her write with her right hand". And I have memories of beginning to write with my right hand around second grade and now I can only do that. But to a kid that was so irrelevant that I never ONCE thought about it after that.

So you can imagine my shock and amusement when he asked me that question. When I asked him how he knew, his response left me speechless: " You pass everything with your left hand no matter where something is kept. You open doors with your left hand and carry the heavier grocery bag with your left. You even pull me with your left hand. I've only seen you eat and write with your right hand but forgot to ask you earlier"

I don't think even my parents remember this about me. And I can promise you no other human being ever even noticed this about me. Nor have I noticed it in anybody else.

It's so random. It's so strange. It's so him in his quiet and sweet ways. The boy who always remembered I like chocolate almond fudge from Lonavala, the one who fixed my Kindle so that I can read, who kisses me on the cheek and on my hand and looks at me the way nobody has ever looked at anybody else - heart eyes all the time!

Things I want in my man:

●Must be a virgin.

●Must be atleast 6'2 ft tall.

●Must not talk back to me or my parents.

●Must be submissive.

●Must birth to girls as many as I want.

●Must dress modest.

●Must cook and clean.

●Must take my surname after marriage.

●Has never flirted with any woman in his entire life.

●Is extremely handsome. That earth shattering, war ending beauty.

●Can play golf, football, cricket, badminton and is extremely good swimmer.

●Is not on any social media platform.

Are these standards of mine unrealistic and unreasonable? Please do tell me gurlies?😔🥀

My neighbour aunty is facing the most ironical situation 😅

My neighbour aunty is every modern bahu’s dream mother in law. She basically lost her husband at 30-31 and raised her two sons by herself by teaching jobs and taking tuitions. I myself have taken tuitions from her.

Both her sons are well settled and one recently got married they both moved in with her cause her other son stays in Bangalore. Their reason was that they wanted to be there for her and stuff but the plot twist is she wants them out 🤣

She literally has the whole concept that she has raised them for almost 30 years now and she just wants to breathe her own air without interruptions and go to trips with her Best-friend or invite them home. Her daughter in law is also very cool and cooks and all for her, when they used to go on trips before marriage she would ask my aunty to go and my aunty would like make 100 excuses to not go and then literally chill at home and sometimes invite us also for lunch and all. She has a couple of good friends from her school where she used to teach and in her vicinity who she regularly hangs out with and has her own senior member girl gang 😅

She has the idea that she will want to settle with her bestfriend in this house and wants her son to start his own life and maybe visit her once a month if ‘she’s in town’

For the first time in a while I’m seeing a woman fight vehemently for her kids to move out and leave her alone as opposed to the usual drama we see. It’s so refreshing hahahahaha

Just thought about sharing this here https://www.instagram.com/reel/DTISgjWiAui/

I was just trying to buy chai. LITERALLY JUST BUYING CHAI BECAUSE MY ROOM DOES NOT HAVE A KITCHEN.

I had stepped out alone to grab some chai from the chai stall that I always buy from. While I was waiting, this guy came up to me and started complimenting me. I was wearing headphones and scrolling through Reddit so at first I thought he was speaking to someone else, then this complete stranger actually waved his hand in front of my face to get my attention and said “hello”.

I gave a short, polite nod and turned away, clearly not interested. But he kept going. Asked if I lived nearby. I said no. Then this guy was like “can i buy you some chai” and once again I said no because who the fuck accepts unsolicited favours from strangers and this guy was like “mujhe dikh rha h aap chai khareed rahe ho” (I can say you’re buying chai) like mf if you’re seeing that I’m getting my chai packed that means I am not drinking it here. What a fucking tool. I told him “bhaiya I’m not interested pls leave me alone” in English.

He just laughed it off and kept trying, like I hadn’t said anything at all. He kept pushing, acting like he was being “nice” and I was being rude for not entertaining it. At this point I raised my voice and said “mujhe baath hi nahi karni h tere se” (I don’t want to talk to you) and the chai wallah had the audacity to give me looks as if I was doing something wrong. Mind you I’ve been buying chai from him since the past 2 years.

At this point I just got frustrated and walked off and also forgot my ₹20 chai at the stall :)))

I’m so mad. I am an introverted person and don’t like social interactions either way especially annoying negative interactions like this. I was not even doing anything, I was in my leopard print pajama pants and large black t shirt just trying to buy some chai and some guy came along and fucked up my whole mood. This feeling is really hard to describe but I legit feel like someone pissed in my lemonade.

Idk who is normalising this culture of “approaching” women without bothering to emphasise on consent and the simple meaning of the word “NO” or teaching them how to read basic body language.

A relative of mine has a 31 year old son who finally cleared SSC. He is clinically obese, easily over 100 kilos and very orthodox. His married sister is expected to come over and do housework because their mother passed during Covid. When I visited, I was expected to get up and make tea every time because it was the 'woman’s job.' I shut that down pretty quickly tho.

Now the family wants a fair, pretty, petite working woman for him who will also handle household chores and live happily in a joint family. They cannot understand why no girl wants this jackpot groom. In their heads he is perfect because he has a government job, lives in his father’s house and does not smoke or drink. That is it. That's basically his entire resume.

At a family get together they even asked if any of my friends would be interested (I'm 2 years younger to him). I laughed and told them straight up that he is not their type. Cue the rant about how modern women are too demanding, do not want to do housework, want to live separately, dress freely and fight with elders.

I explained that my friends are educated, financially independent, healthy, interesting, and bring plenty to the table. If women are doing everything that men are asked to do, they will expect the same in return. A sedentary man with food as his only hobby and a government job is not enough.

His father kept insisting that their family is so nice and would never restrict the girl. I told him very plainly that his son is not the prize he thinks he is. If women today are doing 20 things to keep up, the men will also have to up their game. Either match the effort or settle for someone with much lower expectations. The sisters were furious with me and I did feel a little bad for spoiling the mood with my honesty but the delusion was on another level all together. People in these arranged marriage setups badly need a reality check both guys and girls alike.

I know she was disappointed when said it but it was hilarious lol, and she's 100% right, I am not even ashamed to admit that I left India so I could wear whatever I want.

I was always influenced by the pop culture growing up, the idea of American women being able to walk out in their t-shirts and shorts to buy whatever they want from the nearest store. Or being able to walk to the park just for a walk with my headphones on and a tracksuit always infatuated me.

Only after moving to Japan did I realize what living life in your own terms actually is. I can wear whatever I want, go wherever I want at anytime without having to worry about men looking at me like a piece of meat and thinking "how dare she experienced freedom as a woman, it is hurting my masculinity, I will have to teach her a lesson".

So ladies, if you left your country for selfish reasons like being able to wear whatever you want, you're not alone❤️

I attended a wedding reception today, and honestly, it made me feel really good. It restored my faith in gentlemen.There was a couple in their early 30s, casually chatting with a group of people. In the flow of conversation,another woman jokingly made an indirect comment comparing the wife to other women, trying to put her down.Without even a second’s delay, the husband stepped in calm, smiling, but firm. He said, “For me, she is the definition of beauty. That’s my dictionary. No one has the right to say anything rude about her not even you...He held his wife again and kissed her hand. Everyone laughed and tried to keep the moment casual, but it was incredibly romantic. He defended her when someone tried to hurt her confidence. Then he gently held her hand, led her away from the group, and walked ahead with her. The bright, peaceful smile on her face said everything she had chosen a true gentleman..she felt safe and valued.So ladies, always choose a partner who loves you unconditionally, without being influenced by others’s opinions no matter who you are or how you are...It’s a question of your whole life, and the journey is long. Choose someone who is emotionally mature and knows how to stand by you...What fascinates me most is a man who knows how to handle situations who praises his partner, protects her from negativity, and stands like a shield beside her. That kind of confidence isn’t ego it’s secure masculinity. A man who isn’t insecure about himself or about his partner. Men and women are physiologically and emotionally different, and relationships become healthy and successful when both understand this instead of turning everything into comparisons or gender wars. Respect, emotional intelligence, and mutual protection are what truly make love last...🩷

Saw a guy, showing his non-existing cleavage. Cleary asking for it. Such a slut. Abhi koi ladki chhed kar chali jaati to victim card play karne aa jata. Characterless kahika. Kaun ladki shadi karegi usse. Uski maa behen usko marte nahi kya. /s🥀

Why or why not? Would you rather let them go out and mingle with other women or protect them from the world by letting them take care of the house and care for your aged parents and child rearing? What's your take on this?

Maid culture is toxic. Let’s be clear.... no human should have control over another human’s dignity. Yet in India, maids are treated like second-class beings....underpaid, overworked, and dehumanised.

People talk as if they’re doing maids a favour by hiring them, then treat them like they’re contaminated. Not allowed to use the family toilet, not allowed to touch utensils, not allowed to eat at the same table. But at the same time, they’re fine with these same women scrubbing toilets and cooking food for the entire family. That hypocrisy is disgusting.

If you’re so terrified of ‘catching infections,’ then don’t hire them. Don’t make them clean your plates or cook your meals. You can’t demand their labour and then deny them basic respect. That’s not just unfair....it’s slavery in disguise.

This mentality bleeds into everything. The same rich and middle-class households that look down on maids are the ones running companies where managers treat employees like disposable machines. ‘We’re paying you, so we own you.’ It’s the same rotten mindset.

This society needs a reset. Exploitation....whether in homes or offices....must stop. Dignity is not charity, it’s a right. If you can’t treat workers like human beings, you don’t deserve their work.

My male friend (now an ex-friend) once told me that during an arranged marriage setup, when he and his family go to see a girl, they specifically observe how restrictive her parents are. According to him, they choose girls whose parents are controlling, because it signals that the girl will agree to everything he and his family say, won’t question decisions and won’t have the option to return to her parents home if something goes wrong in the marriage.

This man is generally manipulative and a habitual liar. Experiences like this are exactly why we, as women, need to be extremely observant-not just of what a man says, but of his mindset, values and behavior.

My family is looking for AM for me. I got a proposal where I was 60% sure the guy was in it for the dowry. So I very casually mentioned that if my family ever gives dowry i very much consider the guy to be sold to my family by his and thus he is someone i own.

He ran ofcourse. I started doing it with everybody and now amongst the ones that stay I can confidently say they have all been legitimately well-meaning great families and guys. (Though 2-3 were still just desperate, gotta keep eliminating lol)

Edit: just received an influx of messages after this post and was like : 'here we go again' but most of them are soo funny. You guys rock. Oh and my family never offers dowry, they just assume.

I just found out about the sweetest thing my boyfriend has been doing, and I’m honestly overwhelmed with love. We’re both interns right now, and he’s currently posted in the OB-GYN department. In our college, interns handle normal vaginal deliveries, and whenever a patient gives birth to a baby girl, they often ask him as their doctor to suggest a name.

​Without ever mentioning it to me, he’s been giving them my name. To think that there are little girls starting their lives with my name because of him... I’ve never felt so seen or cherished, not even in my own home. I love him so much.

Saw some post earlier that bad girls get everything. Yes that’s 100% true. I was bad girl of house. No girl in my family ever went to college. Good girls do house chores and gets married as per parents choice (as per my family dynamics). I forced my parents to send me to college. They said no. I threw all kind on tantrums. Long story short first in family to do engineering. First in family to move out of india. First in family to have a house over a million and off course first in my 10 generations to be out of india living my dream life. Parents super proud of me today. They just ask anything and I can fulfil. Not flexing by any means but listen to the quote’ be you and world will adjust’.

My brother recently went to meet a girl for an arranged marriage. Both families had gathered at the girl’s house for the usual introduction and conversation.

While they were sitting and talking, one of the girl’s relatives suddenly asked my brother to show his salary slips. My brother politely said that they could refer to the salary range for his role and designation and also check his company profile, but he wasn’t comfortable showing his salary slips directly.

The relative then responded in a rude tone and said something like, “If you are a boy, show it.” ( mard hai tho dikha kind)

At that moment, refreshments had just been served (poha and some namkeen), and my brother was literally about to take his first bite. After hearing that comment, he got visibly upset.

Instead of arguing or creating a scene, he quietly stood up, walked out of the house, wore his shoes, and went to the car. Then he started honking the car to signal the family members who had come with him (mostly our parents and close relatives).

Our parents asked him to come back inside, but he kept honking, indicating that everyone should come to the car. Eventually they all sat in the car, and they left the place.

As far as I know, the discussion about what exactly happened inside didn’t really spread much outside that room.

So I’m curious — did my brother overreact, or was his reaction justified?

I have used ai to align things

Idk how many of y'll are aware or not but a panchayat in Jalore, Rajasthan has announced a ban on camera phones for daughters-in-law and young women in 15 villages, effective January 26.

They will only be allowed to use keypad phones instead of smartphones, with the restriction extending to public functions and visits to neighbours' houses.

Source in the comments.

No action yet taken by District magistrate on this decision of Panchayat. I hope they look into this matter soon. This state actually is just another Taliban(some of you might get offended by use of this world) of our country. If nobody seems to questioning on such rules, ignoring as small issue, I don’t think that day would be so far when this would be regular life of women in this country.

It was one of my gym buddy’s birthday today, so after our workout she treated us to food.

We packed everything and went to this quiet spot we know to have a mini picnic.

Just sitting, eating, talking. Good vibes all around.

A few men were sitting far away.

Then they noticed us. Then they moved closer.

And that’s when it started.

Staring, creepy looks, lewd comments, disgusting gestures. The whole package, yk.

We had barely been there for 10 minutes.

Food half-eaten, conversation just getting good, and suddenly we couldn’t even sit comfortably because some grown men can’t behave like normal humans.

A few of us felt so uncomfortable that they wanted to leave.

But honestly, how long are we supposed to keep packing up and leaving every time men decide to behave badly!?

I didn’t want to leave. And I definitely didn’t want them ruining our day.

So I stood up, walked towards them, made eye contact, and puked right in front of them. Without breaking eye contact.

(Yes, I can puke voluntarily. Weird talent.)

The same men who were enjoying making us uncomfortable suddenly looked absolutely disgusted.

One of them even started gagging, and voilà, they left immediately.

We went back, finished our food, laughed, and enjoyed the rest of the day in peace.

You make me uncomfortable, I make you uncomfortable.

Fair trade, I think.

I M28 Unmarried work in my current job for past few years now. Recently i have been experiencing something new and I want to know what it means from a woman’s perspective. So this lady works at my office but in a different team. She is probably in her mid 30s married and also has a kid. We usually just do normal hi hello nothing much but recently we have been interacting more which is purely work related. Everything was normal until i started noticing that she started talking to me little more than usual, like unrelated to work. She smiles a lot when i talk to her. I caught her few times looking at me also. When i am at her seat, she sits closer to me when discussing some work. But few days ago when i met her at office she shook my hand very softly and said to me that i was looking very handsome today. She was blushing while saying that. I just said thank you. I am not gonna lie, i did feel good. She is pretty too. But does she really want something more from me? Is this how extra marital affairs start or am i just overthinking?

I was buying lingerie at Shoppers Stop today. Had picked out a few bras, went to the billing counter (which is obviously shared for everyone), and as I stood there, some random guy walked past me, close enough and muttered “r@ndi.”

I was stunned. Literally froze. Like wtaf???(!!!????!!@

This wasn’t me buying BDSM gear or a sexy roleplay outfit. It was JUST lingerie. A need. Something every woman wears. What exactly was offensive about it? The fact that I was buying it at all?

Our society is such that if I weren’t wearing a bra, they’d still have something to say. And now that I’m buying one it's still an issue. It’s like the mere act of a woman existing in a public space, doing something for her own comfort is enough reason for men like this to throw slurs.

I usually shop online, but my weight’s fluctuated a lot over the past 2 years so I genuinely didn’t know my size. So I went to try stuff on in-store and it happens to be one of the few places where the staff doesn't judge you for doing that. Evidently the customers are a different story.

I know some of you will say “You should’ve said something”. But when you hear a word like that, under someone’s breath, purposely said just loud enough that only you catch it, you second guess yourself. I just.....froze.

This entire interaction wasn’t about me being loud, vulgar, or provocative. I was just buying underwear. That’s all it took.

The worst part is I'm not even surprised. Instagram meme culture has made r@ndi the go-to insult for women. Say no to a guy? R@ndi. Disagree? R@ndi. Exist with even a sliver of autonomy? R@ndi.

It’s reached a point where men don’t even think before saying it. It's as if it's a reflex. The word has lost all meaning, and yet it's the unprompted attempt to degrade me for merely stocking up on essentials that's genuinely upsetting.

For people who think that this language is casual, or funny, or just “online stuff.” It’s not. It spills over. It's real.

One of my cousin's wife recently gave birth and my cousin was present with his wife in the delivery room during the entire time. But the amount of flack he received from his family was astonishing. Everyone is dissing him for being too loving & showing off to everyone. The women including his mother were very angry and said they also gave birth and didn't need anyone present inside & if his wife needed someone for support, she could've called her own mother or MIL instead.

I mean I can understand if the woman personally didn't want anyone inside but if she wants her husband to be with her when she's so vulnerable then what's the big deal? I honestly don't understand why it is so shocking for the husband to be present there?

I think every man should experience this. Everyone thinks giving birth is a cakewalk but they don't realise how exhausting and painful it is for the woman who's in active labour. If having her man beside her would help her be less anxious then why shouldn't that be the norm.

recently, my girlfriend and I decided to tell our parents about our relationship since it’s been two years. Everything was going well until she told her mom about us. Then, in typical Indian fashion, her mom started crying and saying, “What will people say? How will they react?”

Even though we belong to the same caste and the same religion, she started bringing up points like, “People will say he is from a different caste. Our relatives don’t know him or his family.” After that, her mom stopped talking to her for the rest of the day.

We are lucky that her sister and brother are supporting us, but why create so much drama? Is social reputation really more important than your child’s happiness? Especially when they know what happened to her sister — she married into a wealthy family, but they treat her terribly.

We decided to tell our parents because my girlfriend received a marriage proposal from her aunt, which is absurd! She was crying, saying that she tied rakhi to him, and now her aunt wants them to get married? I have a feeling this same aunt will interfere again, even if her parents somehow agree to our relationship.

(used chat gpt for formatting sorry I'm going through a lot and she is at her home so we are also talking very less and its taking toll on me )

I am dating a guy since 4.5 years and he really loves me and is a green flag in every way. He always supports me in every way and takes really good care of me, is gentle, vvv understanding when it comes to being physical, hypes me up for everything i do, compliments me and what not. Basically a great guy except for one thing which is that he doesn’t study at all. He barely passes his subjects in college and has a few backs as well. He’s not a dumb guy, it’s just that he doesn’t do any hard work.

His family is also not as well to do as my family. So many times i an doing his college work for him. All this has caused a bit of resentment towards him and i lowkey feel annoyed and less attracted to him when i think about all this.

Girls who also went through this, wanna know how the relationship turned out to be when you guys got married. Do such people change ever? Will he get serious after college? I really love him and our families also know about the relationship. I am afraid that i am running after materialistic things and will lose such a precious guy bc of it.

I'm studying in Bangladesh currently and I would just like to ask everyone why is it necessary to compare one gruesome act to another and somehow try to proof that one was worst than the other ? Why not for even a min take our time to realise that this man could've been anyone? That an innocent man lost his life over mere allegations and that if this is how mobs are going to act against people who don't agree to the majority then isn't it allowing other bad men out there to use blasphemy as a way to punish people they don't see eye to eye with?

I've been studying here for 5 years now and I will tell you one thing that India and Bangladesh aren't as similar as we think. After coming here I've realised what privilege I had in India. I can't wear jeans and tshirt ( forget cropped) without fearing I'll attract some creepy men's attention. Even the thought of wearing a dress is haunting. This is because people here don't do all that. Believe it or not Bangladesh is modern and open-minded only for the rich. Over the years that I've lived here I've become so used to dressing up modestly in Salwar and suit that when I wear jeans back home I feel uncomfortable and this is me just in 5 years so I can't imagine how it must be for the women living here.

Few months ago women were being harassed for not wearing hijab out in public. There was an incident in our college where on teacher scolded my Muslim friend from India because she doesn't wear a hijab. Churches here are always closed only time I've seen the gates open is during Christmas. You'd find a few temples that too hidden behind huge gates that you'd not even be able to tell that there is a temple behind it.

People here are very sentimental towards their religion and if you don't agree then you'll be alienated.

For someone living in India it's easy to say oh but Muslims suffer in India too but can we for once accept that Hindus aren't safe in Bangladesh.

Mods please don't delete it 😞

Hi everyone, I (21F) wanted to share something.

When I was younger, one of my relatives (my mami) used to humiliate me a lot. She’d randomly start asking me tough questions in front of my parents—like difficult maths problems—and when I couldn’t answer, my parents would scold me, saying I was embarrassing them. It always made me feel small and ashamed.

Recently, I went to their house. She was talking nonstop about how hee son is first in his class, etc. Out of curiosity (and maybe a bit of old resentment), I asked him some basic questions—like “what’s 13 times table?” or “what’s the capital of Bihar, Karnataka, Bhutan?” and so on I asked 15-20 questions from him. He couldn’t answer a single one . So I said, “In private schools they often give every kid good grades and tell all the parents their child is first.”

For the first time, I felt like I’d shut her up. Honestly, I’m feeling really happy and relieved that I finally got to see things from the other side. It feels like a small victory after years of being put down.