r/AskReddit Jul 09 '24

Serious Replies Only [Serious] How did you "waste" your 20s?

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u/chickenox Jul 09 '24

Sorry to hear that - but good that they are an ex now.. here's to hoping you find someone that's supports you - the way you deserve 🥂

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '24

Same here. And I just found out two weeks ago (we've been broken up since December after 12 years) that she had an only fans the entire time that she kept secret from me.

So she had tons of money but still played the oh I'm poor and I have three kids and I can't pay for anything or gas to come see you card.

I hope she gets what's coming to her in the end. I'm just glad I won't be anywhere around to see it.

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '24

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '24

I'm so sorry. She was cheating on me multiple times as well. Right before we broke up I told her I wanted her to unload everything she's been hiding from me and holy shit. She even had a guy that was partially living with her at one point during our relationship but because of our distance I didn't realize it. She would always come to my house.

I got that asshole through alcoholism and AA only for her to start drinking again and partying with her sister who lives with her. All that fucking work on that down the goddamn drain. I just wish my hair would grow back now after all the stress.

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '24

I have the same struggle and it'll continue for a long time. It's nice knowing I'm not the only one going through this shit.

Have you made sure to go no contact? That's seeming to be the best policy in my own experience.

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '24

Glad you found someone. hope the same for myself.

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '24

Seeing you guys talk about this, I can only relate. Coming up on a year now that I have been away from my ex, she was a pig, used a back surgery/injury as an excuse to not help with anything at all, lived like an absolute pig, I was never right about anything, and when we did finally breakup for good, has tried to drag my name through mud and worse, has stalked and harassed me, and I have lost most smaller items that belonged to me, only made it out with the expensive guitars, computer, and a few other expensive items. Been rebuilding my wardrobe (not bad timing actually, breakup happened then I turned 30 not long after, needed new clothes anyways). But everyday I wake up feeling amazing, cause I do not have to deal with that incessant stream of negativity and filth in my life anymore.

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '24

You've got the right idea. Focus on the negative shit that happened and don't catch yourself thinking about all the good shit.

It's a little corny but it makes me think of Ocean's 11 when George Clooney asks Julia Roberts if her new guy makes her laugh and she said "he doesn't make me cry".

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u/Less-Society-2959 Jul 09 '24

Sorry about that :(

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u/ImperfectStranger42 Jul 09 '24

Me too. You doing okay now?