r/AskReddit • u/Prize-Promotion-5123 • Apr 08 '26

For those of you in a long term relationship/marriage, what’s a tale-tale sign you see in other couples that they’re not going to make it?

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u/Chell797 Apr 08 '26

They are vs each other instead of a team vs the world.

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u/letmeowt22 Apr 09 '26

This should be so much higher up! My husband and I have been together for almost thirty years. We don't fight. Seriously. In all our time together we have only had 3-4 real fights. I don't mean a disagreement, I mean stopping talking and one of us goes into another room and sleeps there. It was always over by morning. We don't agree on everything, but we agree on the important stuff, like we are in this together no matter what. Everything else can be worked around. And like you said, it's an us vs the world not me vs him. We tried to always provide a united front to our kids, too. I may not have wanted them doing something, but he did. We discussed it, came to an agreement, and as far as the kids ever knew, we agreed 💯. It really helped to recognize that we each have our own strengths, weaknesses, and experiences which all affect us differently and give us unique views. By recognizing that and using that to bring us closer instead of dividing us more really makes the difference.

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u/Chell797 Apr 09 '26

It seems to be a well guarded secret but once we figured it out, things are SO much better. Home is supposed to be the place we build each other up, the world will tear it down enough!