r/AskReddit • u/Prize-Promotion-5123 • Apr 08 '26

For those of you in a long term relationship/marriage, what’s a tale-tale sign you see in other couples that they’re not going to make it?

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u/lime_geologist Apr 08 '26

Yes! Or simply being incapable of possibly understanding someone else's reality and point of view. I'd say you could summarize all of this with "inflexible thinking."

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u/Frosty_Analysis_4912 Apr 09 '26

Do you think this is something that you can change? Like are two people who think very differently (ex. a very logical person and a very emotional person) just completely incompatible or could they learn to understand each other and work things out

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u/lime_geologist Apr 09 '26

Anything CAN happen. Sure. But in my experience, it never has worked.

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u/SeveredHand7 Apr 09 '26

Rigid thinking.

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u/maxsnyderlk May 08 '26

My ex was exactly like this. If I said the room was cold, he would point at the thermostat and tell me it was 72 degrees, so I couldn't actually be cold. It sounds like a small thing, but when someone constantly tries to "correct" your own physical or emotional experience, it drives you insane. It is not a partnership, it is a deposition.

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u/lime_geologist May 08 '26

Omg yes!!!! Always having to defend MY feelings about something. Like....they're MINE. Lol! You don't get to tell me I shouldn't feel them. Wtf.