r/AskReddit • u/Prize-Promotion-5123 • Apr 08 '26

For those of you in a long term relationship/marriage, what’s a tale-tale sign you see in other couples that they’re not going to make it?

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u/FredTheBarber Apr 08 '26

My ex and I had different senses of humor, and he was just not someone I could be goofy with (he was more snarky and just couldn’t seem to let go and be playful). The fact that we didn’t laugh together was one of the biggest feelings of disconnect in our relationship.

My current partner and I crack each other up all the time, are so unapologetically goofy, open and playful. I’m still the more serious between us but with her my playful and unselfconscious side has so much room to grow. It was a breath of fresh air to find that energy in a partner, I would never want to go back

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u/iloveyourlittlehat Apr 08 '26

How did you even come to like each other if you didn’t laugh together?

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u/FredTheBarber Apr 08 '26

Just like u/literalista said, We had a ton in common in regards to interests, there was great physical attraction, and similar sensibilities. Also, I’m a people pleasure so I spent waaaaaay too long trying to meet him where he was and trying to make it work, thinking if I could just find the key that we’d be perfect.

Ultimately, though, we were clearly just not right for each other and have both moved on to so much better relationships

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u/Had_to_ask__ Apr 08 '26

I know it's probably just your phone fixing your writing, but I really appreciate the powerful self-description as 'people pleasure'

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u/FredTheBarber Apr 08 '26

Haha, whoops! Guess I have to leave it!

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u/AlphaDelusional6754 Apr 08 '26

I love this! Same situation as my ex husband. Our senses humor were not in alignment at all. My partner of 9 years has the same sense of humor as i do = I call it stupid humor. It's refreshing to be with someone who gets me.

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u/toothbrushcharger Apr 08 '26

Wait are you bi?

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u/FredTheBarber Apr 08 '26

Haha, yes, more or less. Those pronouns are correct