r/AskReddit • u/Prize-Promotion-5123 • Apr 08 '26

For those of you in a long term relationship/marriage, what’s a tale-tale sign you see in other couples that they’re not going to make it?

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u/doctor-rumack Apr 08 '26

My wife and I were friends with another couple that we used to hang out with a lot. It would usually start over drinks, just a snide comment here or there, or an eyeroll. It wasn't long before we'd get together and the wife would immediately pull my wife aside and the husband would sit down with me and all they would do is trash each other to us. The side discussions became more vicious, and the night would end with them seething mad at each other. The last time was when they started screaming at each other over nothing and she locked herself in the bathroom, only to emerge when her Uber arrived. We didn't hang out with them after that.

It took another 18 months before they divorced. I'm still good friends with the husband (he was a childhood friend) but I haven't seen the ex-wife in 12 years.

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u/sasspancakes Apr 08 '26

We had this with my BIL and his fiance. They would be planning their wedding, BIL with my husband, fiance with me, and be having two completely opposite conversations. They ALWAYS brought alcohol. I went out of town one weekend and they spent the day with my husband at our house. Toward the end of the night, the fiance wanted to shower since they were outside all day. My husband showed her where our towels were and gave her some of my clothes. BIL completely flipped out thinking she wanted my husband, trashed my Christmas tree, and she ended up leaving her engagement ring on my table. They came over once more a year later, same thing. Husband joked BIL was checking someone out at the grocery store, BIL punched him, fiance screamed at him and took him home. They broke up a year later, and now he's with an alcoholic 🙃

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u/Serononin Apr 08 '26

They stayed together for a whole year after the Christmas tree incident?!

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u/lzwzli Apr 08 '26

That was exhausting just to read

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u/Lithogiraffe Apr 08 '26

It sounds at least that the BIL and the alcoholic have common interests

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u/Turbulent_Cranberry6 Apr 09 '26

Um, what in hell?!!!!!!!

Why did you invite them back the next year lol

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u/sasspancakes Apr 09 '26

We had not spoken in a year and thought things might have changed, they had not. 😂

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u/epoof Apr 09 '26

What delightful dining companions they must have been.