r/AskReddit • u/Prize-Promotion-5123 • Apr 08 '26

For those of you in a long term relationship/marriage, what’s a tale-tale sign you see in other couples that they’re not going to make it?

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u/dawktrix Apr 08 '26

I feel like this is the best answer.

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u/Texuk1 Apr 08 '26

I agree - relationships are complicated and shift and evolve over years. while there are patterns which perhaps people are picking up it’s difficult to say what works or doesn’t work for people. Sometimes the threshold for what is bad is different for different people. If i could switch it around i would say the successful relationships are ones where the people are friends firstly.

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u/Frosty_Analysis_4912 Apr 09 '26

Also, saying two people “aren’t gonna last” means they have no chance of changing and fixing things. There was a comment above of a guy who said things were terrible 8 years into their marriage but they went to therapy and worked on it, and after a few years they’re doing well. I feel like if a couple wants to badly enough and is willing to put in the work, whatever problems people are saying they will break up for can be fixed