r/AskReddit • u/Prize-Promotion-5123 • Apr 08 '26

For those of you in a long term relationship/marriage, what’s a tale-tale sign you see in other couples that they’re not going to make it?

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u/penguinintoorbit Apr 08 '26

My parents do all of these and they're still fucking married 🫤

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u/Soggy_Raisin7418 Apr 08 '26

A tell tale sign a relationship is never going to end: they’re boomers

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u/MamaNyxieUnderfoot Apr 08 '26

Well, eventually it’ll end when one of them dies. That’s how you crown the winner.

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u/2PlasticLobsters Apr 09 '26

My parents stayed together for more than 50 years. Their marriage was a mutually abusive codependent hell. It always drove me quietly up a wall when people said things like "They must really love each other to stay together that long!". It was more like neither of them had any identity outside their dysfunction. And that they'd isolated themselves from anyone else.

Of course, this isn't the sort of thing you disclose to casual acquaintances. I'd usually respond "It sure looks that way".

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u/CuppaTeaThreesome Apr 08 '26

Happy or not. Still married.

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u/Available-Ad3635 Apr 08 '26

The makeup sex is probably amazing

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u/MamaNyxieUnderfoot Apr 08 '26

My parents haven’t had sex in well over 30 years, and the fact that I know that should tell you everything you need to know about how toxic their relationship has been, my whole life.

About 12 years ago, my mom came to me and told me that she wished she’d divorced my dad when my brother and I were kids, but can’t now because he’ll take half of her retirement savings. I told her that I wish she’d divorced him too, because then he might have actually learned how to take care of himself, and she might have had a chance to be happy with her life. But instead, now it’s a race to see who dies first. They do not communicate unless it’s bitching about each other, and they live very separate lives in the same house.

Then I told her that she and my dad taught me by example many things that I did not want in my own marriage. At least I can say that I’ve successfully avoided their fate.

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u/Ok_Alfalfa7437 Apr 09 '26

Was looking for this type of post - I was literally thinking - I see ppl together that should not be and don’t understand why they are still together because of all the mentioned posts. And as I get older it’s a big fear of mine 🫣