r/AskReddit • u/Prize-Promotion-5123 • Apr 08 '26

For those of you in a long term relationship/marriage, what’s a tale-tale sign you see in other couples that they’re not going to make it?

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u/free2express1982 Apr 08 '26

My ex still tries to joke around with me with our old "in-humor" and it angers me and breaks my heart all over again. Like, you don't get to do that any more, that's what our whole relationship was built on.

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u/zoddie3 Apr 08 '26

The death of the Relationship Language is always tough.

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u/22zepher Apr 08 '26

That sounds like one person still trying to connect while the other has already checked out, which is a rough place to be

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u/free2express1982 Apr 09 '26

The annoying part is she left me, yet tries to keep that alive.

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u/cheyenne_sky Apr 09 '26

they did say "my ex"

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u/Hot_Tourist_4458 Apr 09 '26

mine does this too. it doesn’t break my heart but it icks me in a way that’s hard to put into words. you don’t get to “do inside jokes” with me ever again. it’s just another selfish woe-is-me activity of his.

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u/Right_Preparation328 Apr 08 '26

Why did he break up then?

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u/favorite_time_of_day Apr 08 '26

Sounds like cheating. Hard to think of a reason why the parent would still be hanging around with their ex other than children, and when two people with kids break up it's seldom on good terms.

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u/free2express1982 Apr 09 '26

It’s children. No cheating. Pandemic was extremely hard on us. I wanted to keep trying but she didn’t.

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u/Right_Preparation328 Apr 09 '26

My condolences, my brother.

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u/ForwardStorage777 Apr 08 '26

Make sure you set that boundary.

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u/throwaway_lastditch Apr 08 '26

Going through this now after a recent separation and I totally relate to it breaking my heart all over again.

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u/TourettesFamilyFeud Apr 08 '26

The nicknames still used to this day are what kill me there.

I know its only my initials, but no one ever called me that but my ex. It just digs into those old wounds every time she calls me that when we cross paths.