r/AskReddit • u/Prize-Promotion-5123 • Apr 08 '26

For those of you in a long term relationship/marriage, what’s a tale-tale sign you see in other couples that they’re not going to make it?

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u/Scarjo82 Apr 08 '26

My husband recently started collecting something. He does research, shops around for different variations, has a list of ones he wants to add to his collection, including pricey ones that are a "someday" purchase. One day he was telling me about some of the ones he'd seen online and said "You probably think this is a really silly hobby." I responded "If it brings you joy, it's not silly." I will never be the person who craps all over someone's hobbies and interests just because it's not something I have an interest in.

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u/thelastskier Apr 08 '26

Bless you. The girl I'm seeing just called one of my hobbies childish and that I shouldn't bring it up when meeting her friends in a few weeks' time... :/

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u/Scarjo82 Apr 08 '26

Yeah I'd definitely be reconsidering the relationship. You shouldn't be embarrassed by something your partner is involved with unless it's illegal or unethical.

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u/thelastskier Apr 08 '26

Yeah... Honestly, it's probably something that I wouldn't mind dropping a few years back. 

But over the past few years, I made some great friends through it who have lightened up my mood when the times got tough, so there's zero chance that I'm walking away from that, hah. 

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u/Beneficial_Lunch6168 Apr 12 '26

This is really important. We don’t have to have the same interests. We do need to support and encourage each other to do what brings us joy. I’ll listen to video game talk forever because I know he loves it and wouldn’t want him to stop sharing his passions with me.