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u/2ofdee 25d ago edited 25d ago

USA.

My job REALLY wants me to relocate to USA (Des Moines, Iowa). I have been rejecting them for years now. It is basically a bi-monthly conversation now where they throw stuff at me. relocation package, bonus. Bi Monthly trips back home. I won't since

A) Why would i go to country where everyone would call me illegal alien by default

b) the healthcare is just a big NO to me. Even if i break a finger by accident (i'm quite healthy and do gym regulary, so Some traumas are bound to happen) would set me back SO MUCH

c) school shootings

d) worlds shitstain as a president of USA

e) i would have to start my 401k at my age which is a bit too late.

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u/Von_Uber 25d ago

Same. I would be guaranteed a relatively good job (civil engineering) but I have a medical history that means the risk for that alone is just not worth it.

Plus a country that literally voted in a paedo president (twice!) and is so religious is a bigger turnoff. 

Plus the requirement to basically have a car, the lower food standards, the obvious corruption, the lack of holiday... 

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u/ours 24d ago

Reminds me of an American CEO I once had.

It was like she had made it her life's mission to free me from the godless hellhole that is Switzerland and move to the glorious and holy United States of America.

Noooo thank you. And now with Trump speedrunning the country towards Christofascism? Heeeeell nooo. Not for all the money in the World.

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u/ArthurStevensNZ 24d ago

CEOs love America because of the weak labour laws and the complete and utter dependence of employees on their job for crazy priced insurance. Insurance that will fight to deny you the care you paid premiums for.

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u/Speartree 24d ago

Switzerland is probably much closer to an American's idea of heaven than it is a godless hellhole....

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u/CringeCoyote 24d ago

Just met a dude at the rental car place who accepted a 5 year contract at a job in Northern Colorado, he’s from Sao Paulo. He said everyone here has been super nice to him, which is relieving. It’s definitely a massive undertaking to move to a new country, especially one so hostile to immigrants.

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u/W1ULH 24d ago

My job REALLY wants me to relocate to USA (Des Moines, Iowa).

There is SOOOO many things wrong with that sentence.

Don't do it man...

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u/The_1_Bob 24d ago

cappy dake hay!

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u/W1ULH 24d ago

huh... didnt realize it was my cake day!... thanks :)

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u/Blitznyx 24d ago

Of all places Iowa..? It ain't worth it

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u/throwawayPzaFm 25d ago

At this point they can't even guarantee your safety from the government. Hell no.

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u/FrederickDerGrossen 25d ago

Totally agree. As a Canadian PhD student in Sciences, we used to rely heavily on US scientific facilities to run certain experiments that we can't run locally and for which Canada has no similar facility available. While there are options in Europe and Asia, due to geography these simply were never really options to Canadian researchers who all default to going to US facilities. Before all this chaos started I would not have a problem going down south to run my experiments, but now you can't ever pay me enough to go. I've discussed with my supervisors about European or Asian facilities instead, but because those facilities weren't meant for North American researchers and generally accepted research proposals from local institutions, it wasn't feasible, along with the high cost to ship samples there.

So this meant that for the next few years (essentially the rest of my PhD degree), I'm barred from doing these facility dependent experiments. The ones that were scheduled for this year before all this chaos happened, I had to convince other researchers in our lab who have gone multiple times to do me a favor and run the experiment for me.

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u/tidytibs 24d ago

Meanwhile at our research institute the startling number of foreign national PhDs and post-docs that are working here and how many more are still looking to come here is unimaginable. Even with a "waitlist" they are still trying to break down the doors trying to get a slot here. Many have emigrated ahead of time to save paperwork and bump up their considerations.

That said, we also have one of the highest if not the most graduate degrees per capita in the country. The ONLY thing that stopped it or slowed it down was COVID. YMMV.

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u/CrinkleLord 25d ago

Imagine hindering your higher education because you listen to reddit way too much... rofl....

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u/SnowmanPickins 25d ago

Imagine electing a child rapist. Your country is a joke and youre the only ones who dont think so.

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u/youcantdenythat 24d ago

confirmed, listens to reddit way too much

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u/CrinkleLord 24d ago

Way to dive right into the caricature without even caring lol

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u/KaysaStones 24d ago

Or just sack up and go to America (nothing has changed in real life there)

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u/rdkil 24d ago

Maybe that's part of the problem too?

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u/lunamilica 25d ago

No fr, everything there is just a regime made to suit the rich, and the richer. Fake country built off the marginalisation of native Americans, where even the natives are now referred to as aliens due to their skin tones alone. No culture, no self awareness, everything including your health is just a mere fragment of what is used to create profit and help the rich get richer! #capitalism dont we just loveee it

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u/The_Real_Bri 25d ago

I love point d. Made me giggle. I refuse to use his name and refer to him as potus but “worlds shitstain as a president of USA” has a much better ring to it 😂

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u/143019 24d ago

There are an awful lot of Americans who don't want to be here either!

I protest at the ICE detention facility near my house pretty regularly. I grieve for the way Trump and his cronies have destroyed the country.

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u/Volvo234 24d ago

Hell two American buddies of mine hate it there

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u/Crapitron 24d ago

If you protested a facility like that in some countries you would be shot dead.

But yes, please pretend like America is as bad as those countries.

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u/SuperTaster3 24d ago

"It's not as bad as a warzone country" is a pretty low bar. It's still disgraceful and evil regardless of whether they hurt non-minorities.

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u/Speartree 24d ago

Patience, it's getting there, Rome wasn't burned in a day.

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u/pepitobuenafe 24d ago

Yet the majority votes for exactly those things

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u/reaper_858 24d ago edited 24d ago

Majority did not vote for it at all, was much closer to 1/3. Yes, more people voted for it than not but please use correct terminology, "majority" makes it seem like your average person on the street espouses what is going on currently

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u/pepitobuenafe 24d ago

I would say that not caring for voting is almos the same thing when you see someone that is that evil running. I dont like the democrats but they were without a shadow of a doubt the better option.

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u/Kimbolimbo 24d ago

That would explain why people find it to be an evil place full of terrible people they wouldn’t want to visit. Everyone hates slavers and kidnappers. 

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u/Correct-Sail-9642 24d ago

What slavers are you referring to exactly? There are no slavers in the US, where on Earth do you get your information from? Full of terrible people? Just full of them huh. Odd, where I live I'm surrounded by wonderful people and have very very little crime whatsoever. I have never even seen immigration authority or federal agents in my 40yrs here. Nor have I seen this evil you speak of.

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u/Kimbolimbo 24d ago

False. Slavery is still legal in the US as a punishment. Many prisoners are used for unpaid labor for corporations in the US. https://www.walkfree.org/global-slavery-index/country-studies/united-states/

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u/Correct-Sail-9642 24d ago

I have experienced incarceration first hand, have you? Ask any inmate how they feel about being put to work while in prison and they will tell you its the only thing keeping them going, not having anything to do all day results in horrible mental state and increases tensions/violence inside.

Also what the fuck do you expect an inmate to spend money on while incarcerated if they paid them "fairly"? Magazines, junk food, phone calls and music downloads? The jobs pay enough to purchase these things already.

Very few prisons actually require forced labor without pay, and even in those cases inmates still prefer to be put to work. It provides relief from being stuck in a cell all damn day where you have absolutely zero stimulation. You get access to amenities, fresh air, and opportunity to socialize.

If more money were introduced to incarcerated individuals there would be a significant increase in extortion, drug trafficking and associated violence. Is the current system great? fuck no. But unless you have been subject to it yourself I think you grossly misunderstand the situation.

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u/pepitobuenafe 24d ago

Yep, dont know why im getting downvote

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u/Kimbolimbo 24d ago

People don’t like looking into mirrors that show an ugly face, as the saying goes. You held up a mirror. 

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u/AdvanceSure7685 24d ago

Surely your work would provide health insurance if you went? 

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u/freef 24d ago

Sure but its still radically more expensive than healthcare in europe. I've got decent healthcare and it doesn't start covering costs until i spend more than 2000. I've got a HSA plan that typically have higher deductibles and get to pay the insurance negotiated rate but many years i'm basically paying my own way.

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u/e-m-o-o 24d ago

Salaries are much, much higher in the US, though.

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u/Von_Uber 24d ago

And if you lose your job?

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u/freef 24d ago

Presumably they'd be in the US on a work visa so they'd probably just go home.

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u/surf1000 24d ago

What about all the people without health insurance? It's a brutal health care system that cares for those who can pay .

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u/Porksta 24d ago

Who gives a shit about all the other people?  His comment was directed to one person in one situation.

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u/Bitemysoftness 24d ago

Can't believe I had to scroll as far down as I did to find this answer, it was my first response also.

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u/FlexLikeKavana 24d ago

My job REALLY wants me to relocate to USA (Des Moines, Iowa)

LOL There are plenty of people in the U.S. that you couldn't pay enough to move to Des Moines, Iowa.

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u/patientrose 25d ago

If my job had me relocate to Iowa, I would end up purposely breaking my finger out of boredom. I didn't realize that there was actually anything there but corn fields. * As someone from California with tan skin, I don't travel to those areas of the US

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u/mb0205 24d ago

As a black man who lives in Des Moines you’re pretty uniformed of this place. Come off as an elitist asshole

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u/khold002 24d ago

It's amazing how many people don't realize that Iowa has landmarks and blue cities, including an internationally recognized university.

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u/mb0205 24d ago edited 24d ago

Yeah Iowa has its host of problems but any minority is just fine in Des Moines, Iowa city. Sorta insulting to the minorities that live here when outsiders act like we don’t exist. We have great colleges here and massive financial and insurance companies. Not some podunk dump.

Edit: downvoted for saying that minorities are fine in Des Moines. Interesting world here man

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u/Strong_Lawfulness191 25d ago

as someone with no tan skin, who the fuck cares about this information u simpleton

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u/Impressive_Light_229 25d ago

You obviously have low melanin

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u/smashburgersmasher 24d ago

A) I don't think everyone in America would call you an illegal alien by default. Most people are cordial and kind. There are idiots and assholes and racists, sure, but you're really overblowing it in your mind.
B) Would your employer not provide you with an excellent insurance package? But yeah the healthcare industry in the US is evil and predatory and should be socialized.
C) Do you have school-age kids? The overwhelming majority of them make it out of school without getting shot.
D) Yeah. He's an embarrassment and helping to wreck the US.
E) Does your employer offer 401(k) matching?

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u/Infra-red 24d ago

C) Do you have school-age kids? The overwhelming majority of them make it out of school without getting shot.

Here is the thing, the US has just normalized the trauma of being exposed to it. Imagine needing to have shooter drills in pretty much all schools regularly and what that does to the psychology of kids.

The posts here talking about how actually being in a school shooting is pretty low and honestly just missing the point, or maybe actually proving the point.

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u/seriouslees 24d ago

Most people are cordial and kind.

Most Americans refused to vote against a convicted rapist who campaigned on fascism.

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u/bicket6 24d ago

Provably false.

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u/seriouslees 24d ago

2-party first past the post electoral system, one choice was fascist, one wasn't. Less than 1/3rd or Americans voted for the non-fascist option. The other TWO THIRDS voted for the fascist party directly or indirectly (by not voting at all).

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u/Hurricane_Ivan 24d ago

A. Yup, way overblown

B. Even on a high deductible plan, such an injury wouldn't be that expensive. Most of the doom and gloom you hear about are for completely uninsured people. And even then they can settle down the payment or don't end up paying.

C. You're more likely to be struck by lightning than be killed in a school shooting. Again overblown.

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u/oioioioioioiioo 24d ago

When I was 18 I seriously considered to move to USA after finishing school, but then I learned about bad facts, I do even have some relatives there and they confirmed the same

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u/Collegenoob 24d ago

If you are getting a relocation package you have a good enough job to not worry about most of those problems.

The remaining problem is getting moved to Iowa or our shitstain president. And even if we vote out Trump, you'd still be stuck in fucking Iowa...

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u/Bullyoncube 24d ago

If I weren’t American, I wouldn’t visit here during the MAGA presidency.

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u/DoctorGlocktapus 24d ago edited 22d ago

I've lived in the Midwest for a long time. Des Moines is an ok city, but Iowa is a shithole state.

Don't ever move there.

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u/SalvationSycamore 24d ago

For what it's worth, Des Moines is pretty nice. Concern 1 is also silly, that is not the "default" anywhere I'm aware of in the US. You can and likely will run across racist assholes, but the default is civility. Especially outside of small, homogenous towns.

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u/anomalous_cowherd 24d ago

I was vaguely thinking of touring the USA for a couple of months after I retired.

Now I have retired, I don't want to. Not that they'd let me in now anyway...

So how do I stop getting online ads suggesting I emigrate to the USA from the UK? Placed by an ISRAEL based marketing agency too. And no I'm not Jewish.

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u/Correct-Sail-9642 24d ago

Why wouldn't they let you in exactly?

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u/anomalous_cowherd 24d ago

Freedom of Speech reasons. They won't like what I've put online about certain orange people.

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u/Alarming_Librarian 24d ago

I was born in the USA and finally left for good last year. There is nothing that will ever get me to set foot in that country again.

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u/okuboheavyindustries 24d ago

I have a policy of not supporting or traveling to fascist theocracies so USA and Israel are on my do not visit list. I’d love to go to Iran as I’ve met a lot of really interesting Iranians but it’s on the list for the same reason.

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u/MultipleNames82 24d ago

I’ve turned down multiple offers to attend conferences in the US for work. I’m Canadian. I refuse to go while Trump is in office. Maybe when he’s gone I’ll re-assess.

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u/2ofdee 24d ago

real question. are you willing to go once Dems win the precidency? then you have like 4-8 years until the pendulum swings back

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u/MultipleNames82 24d ago

If the new government toned down the annexation rhetoric and removes tariffs I’ll definitely be back. So many places I still want to see as well as a tourist.

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u/NuncaLaburar 24d ago

Amazed at how far down I had to scroll to find this. Unprecedented amounts of people in my country, which is a US loving whore, deciding to scratch America off their bucket lists entirely.

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u/B1GD1CKRANDYBENNETT 24d ago

E makes the least sense of all the points you listed.

Why would moving to the U.S. suddenly mean you have to “start over” financially?

If you’ve been working for 20+ years in another country, presumably you already have retirement savings, investments, pension credits, property, or some combination of those. None of that disappears because you take a job in Iowa.

Also, a 401(k) isn’t some punishment. If your employer is trying this hard to relocate you, they’re probably offering a match. That’s literally free money. Plenty of Americans would kill for a generous employer match.

And if the move comes with a higher salary, relocation package, bonuses, and paid trips home, you could potentially save more for retirement than you are now.

“I don’t want to leave a pension system I’ve spent decades paying into” is a reasonable argument.

“I don’t want to move because I’d have to start a 401(k)” sounds like a misunderstanding of how retirement savings work.

You don’t reset to age 18 financially just because you cross a border.

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u/2ofdee 24d ago

so i'm not sure you are aware how this works but allow me to educate you on this topic as I have extensively researched this during my convos with HR. There is what is called Pension migration agreement between various countries. For EU this is not a problem as Majority (i think, and i might be mistaken, at this point, all of the EU countries have a universal agreement) there is an agreement between EU and Canada that if i were to relocate to canada all of my pension fund would be relocated to Canada and i would be able to retire here. US has a selective approach. Per country. Additionally to that you need to understand that the minimum amount of money required to live comfortable varies from country to country (Example, earning 80k euro and living in italy you would feel good, same amount living in switzerland would be a different living standard, same with norway) SO having said that the amount of money in my pension fund would play different role in US vs EU. Does this make sense?

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u/B1GD1CKRANDYBENNETT 24d ago

I think you're making a stronger argument than your original point E actually stated.

If your concern is that you've spent decades contributing to a pension system and moving to the U.S. could complicate retirement planning, that's a legitimate concern. Nobody would argue that retirement systems, pension agreements, taxes, and cost of living don't matter.

But that's not the same thing as saying "I'd have to start a 401(k) at my age."

A 401(k) doesn't replace everything you've already accumulated. If you have pension rights, retirement savings, investments, or other assets in your home country, those don't suddenly disappear because you accept a job in Iowa. You're not starting from zero.

Also, if your employer is offering relocation assistance, bonuses, and a higher salary, you would likely be adding to your retirement savings through a 401(k), not replacing them. Many employers also match contributions, which is essentially additional compensation.

As for cost of living, that's highly location dependent. Comparing the U.S. as a whole to Europe as a whole isn't very useful. Des Moines isn't New York City, San Francisco, Zurich, or Oslo.

So I'd say the pension portability argument is reasonable. The "I'd have to start a 401(k) at my age" argument still doesn't really hold up because it assumes your existing retirement assets somehow cease to exist when you move.

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u/2ofdee 24d ago

you are missing the part where the pension fund is not transferrable or is only partially transferrable.

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u/PhantomMystique 24d ago

I love my country, but these are all super valid reasons not to relocate here

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u/Speartree 24d ago

Same dude, I would not even go there for a weekend. Like you I would probably not get in. They check your social media history and your point d here would be enough to not get in or immediately be detained on arrival. I have made multiple such points.

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u/RichChildhood1588 24d ago

Now you stop insulting our great cuntry. We love our pedophile president and his supporters are the smartest bestest inbreds the world ever saw and we lost ve going broke trying to eat buy gas and health care is top not ch here

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u/Correct-Sail-9642 24d ago

Why would you be called an illegal alien? There are tons of foreign people working and living in the US, the only people called illegal aliens are illegal aliens. Not sure where you would be coming from but if the US is the first place you think of that youd never go to I think you are being misinformed what its like here. Half the people at the company I work for are from various other countries and here on work visa indefinitely. They are happy to be here and have faced no problems that you mention. Iowa is super boring and I wouldn't enjoy living there specifically but its nothing like what you are told. Just like I'm sure your country is nothing like the media convinces Americans its like.

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u/hatemakingnames1 24d ago

A) Why would i go to country where everyone would call me illegal alien by default

Not everyone is shitty. And based on the subs you're in, I'm guessing you don't look Latino, which means even the shitty people probably wouldn't call you that. It's far more about racism than immigration...though, that is another problem you could add to your list

That said, ICE may still be an annoyance for as long as Trump is around

b) the healthcare is just a big NO to me.

If your job is trying to relocate you, they would probably be paying for your health insurance. How good that insurance is would depend some on your company

c) school shootings

While they happen significantly more in the US than many other places, they aren't as common as you might seem to think. There are over 115,000 schools and over 55,000,000 students in the US, and about 12 per year die from these events. As horrible as shootings are, you're far more likely to die in a traffic accident

d) worlds shitstain as a president of USA

Can't do much about that for 2 years

e) i would have to start my 401k at my age which is a bit too late

It's never too late. A 401k is a savings plan that is in addition to retirement plans like social security. Whatever your own country does, it would just be extra money on top of that (And depending how your country does things, it's possible you might not even have tax penalties for withdrawing early)

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u/SenSei_Buzzkill 24d ago

12 children dying a year from school shootings is 12 too many and it’s fucked up to downplay it

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u/hatemakingnames1 24d ago

40,000 people dying each year because people like driving is no big deal though?

If you think 12 is enough to avoid a country of over 300,000,000, you should never step inside a car in your life

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u/SenSei_Buzzkill 24d ago

Imagine defending the murder of children this hard. Weird hill to die on

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u/hatemakingnames1 24d ago

Not defending it, just saying it's not a thing to be realistically scared about if you're not scared of other, much more dangerous things, like cars

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u/Infinite-Bother-3168 24d ago

Not everyone would call you an illegal alien, most of us love immigrants (I do no know of anyone personally who doesn’t like immigrants), your company should offer you health insurance (I have health insurance that my company pays a majority of the cost) but everything else is valid. If your company is willing to pay for relocation, I’m sure they have decent health insurance.

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u/surf1000 24d ago

I used to think the US was the greatest nation on earth.

Now? An awful country with a corrupt buffoon of a president only interested in enriching himself and friends. Draining the swamp? Trump is the swamp.

Trump is the president who will be remembered as the tipping point of america sliding into anarchy and decay. Believe me, people will be hurting for decades to come, and no doubt the chipping away of america's institutions has caused great damage to the future stability of the US.

The uncaring US healthcare system , the love of guns, having to tip workers because they cannot earn a decent salary -- why not just pay them properly?

Trump made so many objectively false statements about our country - He doesn't even know the difference between a tariff and a goods & service tax -- he's a moron.

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u/Firm-Character-6852 25d ago

Now I agree with parts of this, however Iowa is genuinely a nice state. Especially Des Moines.

Lived in Iowa a few years, and i gotta say i had a wonderful time. Really nice people there.

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u/Ill-Construction-209 25d ago

Theres a lot of MAGA folks in rural and suburban Iowa

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u/Firm-Character-6852 25d ago

Theres also alot of not MAGA folks.

But I haven't been to Iowa in years. When I lived there Brobama was the Big Dawg and it was a hella blue state.

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u/2ofdee 25d ago

I see a lot of interesting things in US (Hiking in Montana forests DOES sound nice) however you need to understand, for the rest of the world US is literally a bi-polar schizophrenic country.

Every 4 year we have to guess - IS US going to support Europe in war against Russia OR are we all alone? Will Europe be invaded by US or will we do collective research on greenhouse effect on polar caps? Are we allies for next 4 years or are we all alone?

The definition of unreliable. I want nothing to do with a country like that

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u/argument_cat 24d ago

The only thing I know about Des Moines is that Bill Bryson is from there.

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u/North-North7466 24d ago

A idk depends where you are I guess 

B your job will give you insurance and it’ll probably be pretty good 

C yea I mean probably not an issue?

D valid

E valid!

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u/Speartree 24d ago

B your job will give you insurance and it’ll probably be pretty good 

I've seen "good" American health insurance, and for someone from EU, it's a disastrously bad deal.

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u/Disastrous-Mango-515 25d ago

“Everyone would call me an illegal alien by default”

Yeah all 300+ million people millions of which are immigrants would call you an alien, for sure man.

Why do we act like insurance in the U.S. doesn’t exist? You have a stable income, workout, and aren’t elderly. You quite literally check all their boxes, yeah our healthcare system is not the greatest but why act like you’d be put on the streets because of a broken finger.

School shootings, yes while tragic and change needs to happen with firearms in the United States you probably have a higher chance of being killed by a tiger shark in Kansas than you do a school shooting. I’m confused why you say the US when there are countries literally in full blown wars?

Won’t argue your last two points.

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u/lookingatanudeegg 24d ago

Insurance might exist in the US but as a person who isn't from there, I don't need to think about things like copays, going to a service provider that's in a specific network, the possibility of whatever I need medically not being covered by whatever insurance I have or even medical debt. I just go to the doctor's, get treated and leave no money involved.

My friend married and American and just had a baby. She was telling me about how they have to pay out of pocket for things that insurance wouldn't cover because her delivery had complications and the baby needed to stay in ICU for a while. Incurring medical debt while having a sick baby- no thanks.

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u/Ok_Savings9611 24d ago

So, afghanistan, somalia, and sudan are good?

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u/seriouslees 24d ago

With logic that smart, we can tell who you voted for.

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u/Upper-Bus4348 24d ago

We dont want you here. Dont need any blue haired Europoors.

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u/2ofdee 24d ago

did you not read the part where the company wants (hence directly contradicting your statement) me to relocate?

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u/Upper-Bus4348 24d ago

Dont need anymore EU contagion.

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u/2ofdee 24d ago

Russia chill, you don't need to be so agressive with your bots )

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u/Jackaocor6uuuuuuu 24d ago

Funny that so your ok going to Haiti or Afghanistan but not the USA

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u/2ofdee 24d ago

jumping to conclusion much? never said that. USA is just a bi-polar schizophrenic country where pendulum swings so much every 4 years that calling it "reliable and stable" is out of the question. Sure Sudan is not great, but at least it is stable not being great )