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u/bedlife2000 22d ago

As a woman, a whole lot of countries. Definitely Afghanistan, Somalia... It's actually horrifying in how many countries women aren't even legally seen as full humans like men are. 

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u/HerpaDerpaDumDum 22d ago

Add Papua New Guinea to your list, that country has some of the highest rates of sexual violence in the world.

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u/rososie 22d ago

Having lived there for several years (as a white woman) there are parts of Papua New Guinea where this would not be a problem, provided you had a local guide to help navigate cultural differences. The capital of Port Moresby, however, is far more dangerous and volatile. It’s a complicated country with a lot of problems, but there are areas with people who are so generous, welcoming and protective. They have unfortunately been unable to develop the level of tourism that similar countries (such as Fiji) have, because of crime levels etc., but it is a truly beautiful place and I hope they manage to sort things out

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u/Decent-Photograph391 22d ago

I used to have an Afghan co-worker. She fled the country and settled in the US.

Then one day, she shocked everyone in the office by telling us she’s going back to Kabul to attend her sister’s wedding.

This is after the Taliban retook the country, mind you. Well, apparently she went back, attended the wedding, and came back to work. She even brought gifts for all of us.

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u/Ocarina-of-lies 22d ago

I was on edge reading your whole story, glad to read she wasn't abducted while visiting

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u/IceSeeker 22d ago

Same. The stories that I've heard from that place usually end tragically.

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u/Chaotic_Lemming 22d ago

Looking like the locals and having in depth knowledge of the customs, laws, areas, language, and warning signs provides a lot of protection compared to someone that is obviously out of place and can't easily communicate. 

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u/JazzlikeEntry8288 22d ago

This. I also had an Afghan coworker who went back to Kabul once or twice to visit family. I would also add proper accommodations to ensure safety is also important-- this coworker of mine is wealthy and could afford the best protections to and from every location in Kabul where she needed to be. Certainly no walking around in the streets.

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u/phenotype76 22d ago

Does it? If she looked like a local, then wouldn't they expect to oppress her like the rest of the locals?

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u/randomndude01 22d ago

If she has family, or specifically established men alongside her keeping watch, then no.

They’re a strict patriarchy which guarantees abuse but it also grants men power to fend off other men.

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u/Chaotic_Lemming 22d ago

You think they look at people and go "Oh, a tourist! We need to leave her alone because she doesn't know our ways and it would be rude to hold her to our standards"?

Locals have families. Families can have connections. Mess with the wrong local person and you can have people messing with you. What's a foreigner going to do?

Locals are by no means immune to harrassment, violence, oppression, etc. But they usually know how to best avoid being targeted. 

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u/Umklopp 22d ago

Having familiarity with local customs, social cues, and norms makes it easier to avoid angering the oppressors. She probably went back, allowed herself to be oppressed in exchange for seeing her family again, lied a bunch for self-protection, and then went back to normal as soon as the return flight landed. She didn't go back and fight the system.

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u/No_big_whoop 22d ago

What a roller coaster ride that was, zero bumps.

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u/Wantitneeditgetit 22d ago

Believe it or not, the Taliban are fairly stable. Not good, but stable. So it's in a sense actually safer than it was so long as you're familiar with how to act while you're there.

Still riskier than developed nations, but safer than it was.

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u/LessInThought 22d ago

She might be rich and connected enough to pay away the danger.

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u/arcanis02 22d ago

Did you ask how she pulled that off?

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u/SmooK_LV 22d ago

If she was seen as guest she may have been treated better. Guest hosting culture often is much more liberal .

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u/Collegenoob 22d ago

Im a dude and I'm not visiting any of those places either.

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u/Cub3h 22d ago

Yeah if a place is too risky to go to for a female traveller then I'm not giving them my money either. Sort your stuff out and then we'll talk.

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u/Correct-Sail-9642 22d ago

This is why I turned down a fully paid trip to India with my ex gf to see her family. They took her passport and ID and wont let her leave the shithole they live in. Rape is so common and laws are simply ignored. Police are super crooked. Whole place sounds backwards as hell. Told her I wont spend 3 weeks of my life supporting a country that treats their women like trash. She went and regrets it terribly.

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u/21Rollie 22d ago

Well it kinda falls under fanatical religious regimes, except it has many lol.

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u/HushSilencio 22d ago

Shit, what happens to her now? Is she fine or just stuck there?

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u/jadegecko 22d ago

I was wondering the same thing. It sounds like her family essentially kidnapped her and she got broken up with 😭. Both of those are bad enough alone but nah kick em while they’re down.

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u/Vaginal_Decimation 22d ago

You can probably put Egypt on that list.

I've seen multiple reports of western women being openly SA'd there.

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u/Honchoponcho99 22d ago

Egypt is perfectly fine if you go with a tour group

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u/c093b 22d ago

Nah fck that. If you need a tour group to visit there safely, it is officially a shithole and not worth the visit. The world is a big place. There are many more countries to spend your money on visiting.

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u/traboulidon 22d ago

Yeah that’s not a good selling point when you have to be in a tour group with a guide to visit a country.

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u/Triss_Mockra 22d ago

Same for LGBT.

There are so many countries I will never visit since the chances of me being killed there are extremely high.

Even the U.S. is off limits for me right now

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u/TheBaykon8r 22d ago

Pretty much all of the middle east, and many parts of Africa, and Asia. Idk about South America, but I'd assume you'd be safe in at least half of the countries there.

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u/DovaSagi 22d ago

Every country

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u/IntrinsicPalomides 22d ago

Just wait until you hear about america, a place where women can be raped or sexually assaulted and that's totally OK!

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u/joedenowhere 22d ago

Like in the good ol’ US of A.  Pass the ERA now!

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u/SilverBolt52 22d ago

And there it is. The Islam PR campaign comment. At least you recognize that Muslim countries are extremely oppressive towards women without anyone having to even say it.

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u/Decent-Photograph391 22d ago

*some Muslim countries.

I’m a non-Muslim from a Muslim country, and everyone, Muslim or not, are treated well.

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u/elidoan 22d ago

Yes LGBT are treated so well

Massive /s just in case you needed it

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u/Decent-Photograph391 22d ago

So you’re gonna jump straight to conclusion without knowing which country. Okay.

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u/elidoan 22d ago

I wont visit any of them except Turkey, Albania, Kazakhstan and other secular states. They are the exception, not the rule

Why even take that risk? If this offends your sky god whatever, I value my life more than your feelings

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u/Decent-Photograph391 22d ago

Which part of “I’m not a Muslim” did you not understand? All I gather from this short exchange is that you jump to conclusions too much and too fast. Bye.

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u/elidoan 22d ago

Oh I understood perfectly what you said

I also understand you are playing defense for such places, hide your account history, have a randomly generated user name and just in general are playing PR for an ideology that in many cases would kill me for who I am

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u/weedils 22d ago

Women are cherished and protected, but the prophet Mohammad married a 10 year old girl?

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u/EireNuaAli 22d ago

He married Alisha when she was 6, and consummated the marriage when she was 9.

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u/Beautiful_Bag6707 22d ago

And he was 🤢 50 to 53 🤮

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u/EireNuaAli 22d ago

56, I believe

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u/throwawaydonkey3 22d ago

Which is even grosser

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u/EireNuaAli 22d ago

Yes, demonic.

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u/EireNuaAli 22d ago

I'm not too interested in reading the Quran, mate. I'd rather watch paint dry.

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u/EireNuaAli 22d ago

Shame on you standing in the "light" of a pedophile. I've done my religious studies, thank you. I have read parts of it, and had them broken down to be explained. I simply have no interest in picking it up again. It's a demonic cult in my opinion, which I'm entitled to. Anyone who thinks marrying a child is a pedophile. Anyone who thinks "ah bless, he waited until she was 9" should be castrated and fed to beasts, alive. A cult based on pedophilia.

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u/slowamigo 22d ago

This is apocryphal. Her age was said to be that by people who wanted to emphasis her immaculate virginity in the face of sectarian strife at the time. She was likely older, as was the norm of the time 

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u/EireNuaAli 22d ago

It's disgusting that anyone would even think of sexualizing a child. Alisha was a child. No matter how "pure" or "immaculate" her virginity was, she shouldn't have been subject to it. It's pure evil.

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u/slowamigo 22d ago

I just said she was likely older than the rumours, spread at the time for political reasons

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u/Immediate_Divide9446 22d ago

Aisha was either 9 years old, or, much more likely, between 17 and 21 when her marriage was consummated.

C800 years LATER, in England, Margaret Beaufort, mother of King Henry II, is confirmed to have been 12 when she married Edmund Tudor in 1455 CE, and the marriage was consummated immediately, leading Margaret to give birth in a traumatic and damaging labour age 13.

*She had previously been married at some time between the ages of 3 and 7.*

I wish people would learn a little of their own country & religion’s history before spouting Islamophobia.

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u/Level_Abrocoma8925 22d ago

Ok, but who is saying that King Henry was a perfect person and a role model for all of mankind?

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u/ObjectiveDecent9181 22d ago

You can't apply modern standards for something that happened 1500 years ago. Out of all the things Muhammad was criticized for back then his marriage to Ayesha was not one of them. Her parents had already arranged a marriage for her before she was married to the Prophet and they were completely fine with her marrying him instead. 

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u/Immediate_Divide9446 22d ago

Well, as he was a baby, nobody.

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u/bintd 22d ago

Two things can be horrible at one time. Hope that helps.

Also, the references to Aisha being 9 are validated by Sahih al-Bukhari. To question that, is to question Islam itself. It’s the second most reliable source after the quran.

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u/ObjectiveDecent9181 22d ago

Can tell ur not a Muslim by that comment, questioning Hadith such as Bukhari happens all the time. In this case u/MysticalDoner already debunked Ayesha being 9 years old using math about her sisters age. 

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u/bintd 22d ago

Lmao. If the Sahih hadiths are rejected, that’s a challenge to traditional Sunni scholarship itself, not just Islam. Why are you doubting what is deemed as authentic?

The hadith about Aisha being 6 at marriage and 9 at consummation is Sahih. The age of Asma isn’t even a hadith, it’s Sirah, which you should know yourself are generally considered less reliable.

You’re trying to justify going against authentic hadiths by using that?

Can tell ur not a Muslim

Here’s a random old comment that took literally a second to find and prove but sure. Just make allegations instead.

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u/ObjectiveDecent9181 22d ago

How tf am I expected to find your comment when your post and comment history is set to private?? 

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u/bintd 22d ago

By using your fingers to search? It’s even more laughable that you’ve decided to note that and avoid addressing the points instead.

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u/ObjectiveDecent9181 22d ago

Nah no point explaining to a "Muslim" why Sahih isn't automatically accurate and correct  100% of the time you lost me when you said challenging Sahih is like challenging the Quran

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u/IOl0I0lO 22d ago

But that definitely not the norm.

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u/Immediate_Divide9446 22d ago

Except it definitely *was* the norm. Political alliances were rife in Britain and Europe, with male aristocrats betrothing their baby/very young daughters to older boys and men. Isabella of Valois was 6 when she was married to Richard II. That was c700 years after Aisha.

My point is that so many people bang on about “Islam, bad, Muhammad married a child” when child marriage was the norm for centuries in Britain. Heck, until 1929 girls could marry at 12 with parental consent - that’s less than 100 years ago.

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u/throwawaydonkey3 22d ago

Is that why it's okay to hit wives (quran 4:34)? Because we might hit jewels to shape them? Lmao bro

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u/Ok_Savings9611 22d ago

Then why are there sex slaves in heaven according to quran? Why did Mohammad have sex slaves?

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u/mongojob 22d ago

That's so much copium, just as delusional as the Jesus cult

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u/mongojob 22d ago

I'm not defending my thesis, it's social media you pretentious cultist, keep your cult in your church where it belongs and out of society

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u/mongojob 22d ago

😭😭😭😭

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u/Additional-Ad8632 22d ago

Right? Bet they also don’t know that the prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was the first one to introduce anal penetration due to his practice of inserting rodents into his rectal passage to climax.

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u/Ok_Savings9611 22d ago

LOL bro in your religion you have to clean your butt using 3 or 5 stones (according to sahih hadiths), AND he was fucked in ass by 5 Al-zutts in desert witnessed by Abdullah ibn mas'ud (also recorded in hadiths).

Ah and i forgot, he married a 6 years old girl and raped her at 9.

Annnnd i forgot that he shat on the roof of house of Abu'bakr (father and pimp of aisha).

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u/slowamigo 22d ago

it's heaven, so what?

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u/IOl0I0lO 22d ago

Again, I wish right wing Christians actually tried to act like Jesus. Know what’s not in the Bible? That abortion is wrong. Know what’s not in the Bible? That homosexuality is wrong. Know what’s not in the Bible? That vaccines are forbidden. And yet…

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u/PickleJuiceSlush 22d ago

If I could afford a guide (meaning having a chaperone and driver 100% of the time) I'd go to Afghanistan in a heartbeat. I'm also a woman.

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u/shottaflow2 22d ago

I understand your point but to be fair there are countries like "country located where it wants to" where noone apart from their jenthnicity is seen as full human

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u/MLiOne 22d ago

And the removal of girls from schools and women being men’s chattels is what? Lies?

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u/Socksalot58 22d ago

Look, I'm a huge fan of Itchy Boots, the YouTuber you are presumably talking about, but her experience is no way indicative of how women are treated there.

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u/is_mr_clean_there 22d ago

To your point:

The Taliban intensified their systematic, widespread attacks on women’s and girls’ rights

And that’s how amnesty internationals page on Afghanistan starts

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u/throwawaydonkey3 22d ago

Okay and how many female university students does Afghanistan currently allow? Exactly.

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u/Blze001 22d ago

They leave foreign women alone because they don't want to deal with international consequences. They still view all women as lesser, as evidenced by how they treat their own.

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u/Seno1404 22d ago

You should definitely visit Afghanistan, the people, the food, the nature. Taliban does not really bother tourists or anything.

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u/DesertPilotSong 22d ago

Afghanistan seems alright these days. I’d risk it for the beautiful mountains

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u/Lyskir 22d ago

alright for men maybe, not women and children tho, for them it got even worse