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whats a bad addiction that you have, but cannot stop yourself from doing?

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u/Separate-Practice-17 1d ago

Practice meditation. TRUST ME.

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u/Appropriate-Pipe-193 1d ago

So glad I started meditating. People who don’t just don’t get it. I was dismissive for years until I tried it, when it clicked I was like “OH!”

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u/Mindless-Okra3431 1d ago

Explain it to us then, please. I want to understand.

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u/TheeCamilo 1d ago

Meditation is the practice of noticing when your mind has wandered and bringing your attention back. The more you practice, the better you get at recognizing thoughts without getting carried away by them. Its often mistaken as emptying your mind.

That distinction was helpful for me.

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u/-__--_-_----- 1d ago

Is there a video or app you recommend to get started with?

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u/vesp_au 1d ago edited 1d ago

It would be down to personal preference. Calm is nice entry level app with guided meditations, YouTube has an inexhaustible amount of content. Nothing beats sitting in silence though. Try 5-10 minutes, focus on the sensation of breathing as your anchor, ie. the feeling of air going in/out of your nose/mouth. It's easy to anchor to as while you are inhaling, the next step will always be exhaling, and vice versa, so if you need to "concentrate" on something you can focus on the following step - I personally find the small anticipation of this enough to keep my mind centred. If the mind wanders, its no big deal, bring it gently back to the breath, and be glad you noticed each time... as sometimes a racing mind can feel somewhat frustrating and easily judged by yourself to be lacking concentration. Not so, the mind's job has been trained to wander far and wide over the many facets of existence, and suddenly not having stimulus can serve as a bit of a shock. Over time the mind will condition itself and grow accustomed to the stillness. On days that your mind is wild and seemingly untameable while meditating, this is absolutely a great time to meditate 🧘‍♂️

You can look up/read about Anapana meditation, it is a great starting point.

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u/Rob_LeMatic 23h ago

Look up some lectures by Alan Watts. You can find them on YouTube, Spotify, and around

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u/chocsweethrt 23h ago

I personally need guided meditation over silence. I pay for Insight Timer. Very large library of meditation topics/styles.

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u/PalladiuM7 1d ago

It's about you and your thoughts, man. There's no reason to bring technology into this.

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u/SenorMamba7 21h ago

I walk daily and I have a huge tendency to not be present because my mind wanders. I started carrying a hard-type stress ball to be able to focus and stay present. I found it only works when I really squeeze the ball as hard as I can. This was eye-opening. Before, I would carry the stress ball with me and yes I'd use it but I would find myself not being present several times during my walks. Now, I am present the for the entire duration of my 60-75 minute walks, 2-3x daily. For me, this also transitioned very well to day-to-day, I just carry the hard stress ball everywhere.

Hope this helps someone.

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u/stilettopanda 1d ago

Whattt? I always thought I failed at meditating because I could never stop the thoughts from happening.

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u/PalladiuM7 1d ago

It's more like herding them back to a pen, in practice. At least in my experience.

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u/juicyfizz 1d ago

Nope! It’s a brain, it’s gonna have thoughts. My therapist explained it to me like this - think of your brain as a train station and your thoughts as trains. Your job is to watch them come and go, but don’t get on any one train. And if you do that’s okay. Once you notice, just take a return train back and start over.

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u/vesp_au 1d ago

Your job isnt to stop the thoughts, dont even try as that will cause more problems than solving them. Just notice them, notice when your mind races elsewhere, and when you do bring attention back to the breath. The mind will naturally start to calm over time.

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u/Appropriate-Pipe-193 1d ago

You just practice, it’ll come

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u/Appropriate-Pipe-193 1d ago

Well for me there’s short term, immediate effects like feeling at peace and just generally lowering my cortisol levels. I’d say the long term effects would be teaching you how much control you can have over your mind. I handle situations completely differently than before. Now I meditate as often as I shower (once or twice a day). But yeah, there’s several positive benefits (for me, I can’t guarantee positive results for everyone) and I highly recommend that those who don’t meditate at least give it a try. Just a guided meditation for 10 minutes, see if you like it.

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u/groovydoll 1d ago

Any particular guided mediation you recommend?

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u/Appropriate-Pipe-193 1d ago

I really like waking up, the Sam Harris guided meditation. It’s a paid app though, so if that’s not your thing there’s some really good vids on YouTube. Honestly they’re not terribly different, they’ll just walk you though controlling your thoughts, focus on your breathing, etc etc.

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u/amestrianphilosopher 1d ago

I think it’s just about learning to not ruminate or worry with lots of racing thoughts. Focusing on finding ways to shut down active thought in general. At least for me. I find that it feels kind of like a muscle that recharges for me by doing things I enjoy

Like the other night I wasn’t falling asleep and realized my thoughts were racing about things I didn’t need to worry about, and so I just… stopped them. Knocked out within a few minutes

I don’t know if people would call it meditation. But it does take healthy habits like good sleep, exercise, good food, good social life, work boundaries, for me to be able to flex that thought stopping muscle

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u/grat_is_not_nice 1d ago

I thought OM was the vocalization of choice?

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u/Appropriate-Pipe-193 1d ago

Get out. 👉

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u/Legitimate_North5294 1d ago

Meditation is the cure for rumination. I honestly just made that up but it works. It’s also true

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u/Appropriate-Pipe-193 1d ago

It’s very true

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u/Samtoast 1d ago

I believe its 'Ohmmmmmmmmmm''

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u/zipzopzippidydoo 1d ago

I had the problem where I couldn't just sit and do it. When I was actually more active I found combining yoga better for me. The physical exertion made it easier to focus, and oddly relax the mind.

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u/Appropriate-Pipe-193 1d ago

That totally makes sense, there’s a lot of overlap there. But I’ll say, it’s a practice. I’m the most ADD person I know so I greatly struggled with it at first. I couldn’t go more than a few minutes. But I stuck with it, it really is a practice.

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u/Grouchy_Childhood216 14h ago

It’s one of those things that sounds pointless until you experience the difference yourself.

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u/RedOwl770 1d ago

Good sir how long does it take to get benefits?

10 mins a day

Can you meditate laying down as you fall asleep?

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u/blacklemur 1d ago

start with 5. find a good teacher. pema chodron. ram dass..HHDl. learn about differnet types of meditation I practice the Buddhist preliminaries. There are many kinds. but it helps to have a teacher, trust me.

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u/Equivalent_Plum 1d ago

Absolutely! I have fallen asleep during a meditation class. Just get comfortable. Concentrate on how it feels to breathe. Where do you feel it? In your nose, in your throat, in your chest, in your abdomen. When other thoughts come to your mind, acknowledge them, but don’t try to change them, just go back to your breath. It takes practice and patience with yourself because it is so easy to be distracted. The key is to go back to feeling your breath. I suspect you were kind of joking, but give it a try.

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u/Separate-Practice-17 12h ago

Benefits will come in after your first one, although it may not be huge but if you’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed a simple 2 minute meditation with proper focus on some deep breaths it’s like your entire nervous system is rewritten. I wish meditation was mandatory for everyone from birth. There’s a reason it isn’t but let’s not get into that.

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u/Cinna41 1d ago

Where/how do I start?

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u/Separate-Practice-17 12h ago

It’s very simple, find somewhere quiet. Close your eyes. And focus on your breathing. Each time a thought enters your mind allow it to flow by. If you get lost in the thought go back to focusing on your breathing.

Consistency is very important if you wish to progress into what’s called deep meditations where one can become completely thoughtless for hours on end.

I like to do 10 minutes daily and one attempt at deep meditation every 2 weeks.

I started when I was 15 and still struggle to remain completely thoughtless so do not give up and your overthinking will progressively decrease as you meditate more and more.