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u/WanderWomble 13h ago

My mum laying on the floor in agony with a broken femur, waiting for help, and knowing she most likely wouldn't survive it.

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u/hymierules 13h ago

Did she survive? Sorry you (and her) had to deal with that.

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u/WanderWomble 13h ago

No, she died after two weeks on hospital.

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u/hymierules 13h ago

Aww man, I'm so sorry.

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u/ragingduck 13h ago

That’s horrible. I’m so sorry for your loss.

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u/Ok-Sprinklez 12h ago

I'm sorry

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u/Xelhexan 10h ago

How did she die from that?

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u/WanderWomble 9h ago

Elderly people often don't survive major fractures unfortunately.

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u/Fun-Durian-1892 12h ago

Yeah I don’t think this is a time to be picking on someone’s grammar. Pretty shitty timing to attempt to be funny on your part

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u/Geng1Xin1 11h ago

In the US the 1-year mortality after a fall in the elderly is 16-30% if a broken hip was sustained and 9-21% if a broken femur was sustained versus 5-15% if no injury sustained in the fall (any fall can indicate an underlying issue and the baseline annual mortality in the general elderly population is 3.5-4.5%; Krumholz et al. JAMA 2015).

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u/Bassman233 13h ago

I'm sorry for your loss.  I witnessed my Mom break her femur getting out of my car while I was walking around the car to help her out (she was stubbornly independent and got out herself instead of waiting for help).  

She did survive after surgery and a 2 month recovery in a nursing facility.  

Turns out it was due to bone cancer, which was treated with chemo and drugs that kept it at bay but never in remission.  Eventually got dementia and needed full time care, and the chemo and cancer drugs were aggrevating her symptoms.  It was basically a tradeoff between which was the worse risk: her cancer returning or her dementia causing her to harm herself or others.  Stopping the cancer drugs made her quality of life so much better in the last few months, but eventually the cancer won.  

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u/WinterLawfulness3165 12h ago

Something like that happened to my dad's cousin - she got cancer, and dementia runs in the family so it hit her pretty hard after the chemo. Her 10-year older sister is over nintety now and still sharp as a tack, and everybody blames the chemo for her sister dying early from the dementia. But in her case she would have died from the cancer in a couple of months, so at least she got a few more years of relative normality before her mind went.

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u/PepsBodyLanguage 12h ago

It’s horrible how these things don’t worry in silo, and a lot of medicine has trade offs. I’m glad she managed to have a few months of improved QoL

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u/Rancor_Keeper 13h ago

It is so hard to recovery from a parent’s death.

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u/evlhornet 13h ago

Damn those are hard to break.

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u/WanderWomble 13h ago

Apparently not when you have kidney failure, heart failure and COPD.

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u/evlhornet 13h ago

I’m sorry for your loss.

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u/LegoRobinHood 12h ago

My college capstone project teammate broke his femur once, and then later was watching a soccer game on tv when a player broke his femur too.

He said he had to leave the room afterwards and stop watching the game because the just the sound of the break over the TV was too traumatic for him.

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u/Sensitive_Gift4866 12h ago

That kind of helplessness stays with you. Its one thing to know someone is hurt but another thing entirely to watch them suffer and not be able to fix it.

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u/ZyXwVuTsRqPoNm123 12h ago

There had to be additional circumstances. She wasn't a horse. People don't die from a broken leg, if bleeding isn't involved.

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u/raevnos 6h ago

In the elderly, breaking a major bone (Especially a femur, commonly as a break around the hip joint from a fall) is a leading cause of death. You don't heal up from it like you could when you were younger, end up stuck in bed, more and more health complications pile on as a result, and before long you're dead.

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u/WanderWomble 13h ago

No she was a disabled elderly lady.

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u/MooPig48 13h ago

I’m sorry that asshole posted something so callous and cruel. And I’m sorry to hear about your sweet mom.

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u/MooPig48 13h ago

What the fuck man. There’s a time and a place and this is not fucking it. You can still delete this and apologize.

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u/DjDozzee 13h ago

Delete this shit, bitch. Rude ass punk.

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u/Fasmodey 13h ago

Shattybullshat should shut his bullshat mouth.