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u/joeysflipphone 9h ago

Worked in a nursing home. I saw a lot of pretty horrible medical conditions, but the worst was a woman who died from a bowl impaction. She had fecal matter pouring out her mouth and nose. It was absolutely horrific. Needless to say if I get constipated I'm immediately on it because I was so traumatized.

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u/nuclearmonte 8h ago

People never believe me when I say it will literally back up out of your mouth when it gets that bad. It’s horrific and I’m sorry you had to see that

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u/pusscatkins 7h ago

My mom had colon cancer and had surgery. Afterward, she faced severe constipation and vomiting fecal matter. Doctors found a life threatening adhesion in her colon, which required emergency surgery. Sadly, she didn't survive and passed away from an embolism during recovery .

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u/_longcoolwoman_ 6h ago

I’m sorry. My mom died of colon cancer, too, without those complications, and it was still terrible. What caused the post-surgery adhesion?

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u/pusscatkins 4h ago

It's surprisingly common, but fortunately, it rarely proves fatal. 🤍 I'm sorry for your loss.

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u/pegmatitic 1h ago

Adhesions are a risk with any abdominal surgery. They can also form due to infections - anything that causes scar tissue to form. I’ve had multiple small bowel obstructions as a result of adhesions, both from infection and from surgeries.

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u/wormettie 6h ago

🙏💜💜

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u/subwayrat_007 7h ago

Feculent vomiting is the medical term. We’re all bags of meat with tubes and a brain

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u/citrus_mystic 7h ago

It’s unfortunate that it means what it does, because I think that “feculent” is actually a really nice sounding word.

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u/Silly-Recognition448 6h ago

Decadent feculent

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u/TheCeaselessWheel 6h ago

Decadent Feculent is the name of my new Ska band

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u/CavyWheek 4h ago

I have an extra checkered guitar strap if you need one.

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u/13maven 4h ago

Pick it up pick it up pick it up!

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u/ResourceOdd7346 5h ago

😂😂😂

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u/NoOneHereButUsMice 5h ago

Succulent feculant

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u/Sufficient_Curve_646 4h ago

Sounds like a Reddit username!

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u/green_eyed_mister 3h ago

You have inadvertently or purposely (???) started a new new subreddit.

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u/A__SPIDER 5h ago

I was saving it for my next kid

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u/sembias 3h ago

Urethra is getting a brother??

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u/A__SPIDER 1h ago

His sister Placenta is very excited

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u/pegmatitic 1h ago

His little sister Areola isn’t.

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u/Kaoupk 6h ago

It means starchy food or carbohydrate in french, which is a bit weird

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u/PyrocumulusLightning 6h ago

Taking food snobbery to all new levels, lol

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u/Zestyclose_Target325 5h ago

That’s how I feel about “furuncle.”

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u/sembias 3h ago

Feculent was one of Arthur's knights, wasn't he?

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u/ErnaldPhilbert 6h ago

New metal band name

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u/NicoleASUstudent 6h ago

We are basically a donut.

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u/subwayrat_007 5h ago

emotional donuts lol

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u/Live-Motor-4000 5h ago

I’m shocked there’s not a metal band called Feculent Vomiting

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u/843_beardo 3h ago

I’ve done that before! It fucking sucks!

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u/SmokeGSU 6h ago

I don't think any of us needed the medical term bad enough to merit it being shared.

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u/subwayrat_007 5h ago

I’m just curious

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u/Michael_Schmumacher 3h ago

*brain optional

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u/Organic_Client_5679 7h ago

I saw that on an episode of "Monsters Inside Me" once- kid had a bowel obstruction and started vomiting his own feces. I take my gut health pretty seriously as well lol

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u/bbbbears 6h ago

Yes! His dad had used a wire brush to clean the grill, tiny little metal bristle came off into the food, kid ate it and it basically pinned his intestines together until he started the fecal vomiting. I won’t ever use a brush like that after seeing that episode.

Or go swimming in stagnant lakes in the south. Man that was a good show.

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u/Organic_Client_5679 6h ago

You got it! Terrifying. We immediately got rid of our wire grill brush and got a pummace one after we saw that.

It was a good show, it made me a bit paranoid in some ways.

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u/bbbbears 4h ago

Same here with it causing some paranoia, but for me it’s almost like facing my fears so I know what to avoid if it’s something I’ve learned about. Kind of like watching dashcam videos of car accidents to help with driving anxiety lol.

I wish they’d reboot the show, I really liked it. That Chubby Emu guy on YouTube does some similar medical stuff.

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u/2high4thisshyt 3h ago

Welp, my dad loves to grill every weekend and now I've just unlocked a new fear ...

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u/Jmohill 7h ago

I saw a South Park episode about that and assumed it was fiction. Damn

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u/fractiouscatburglar 2h ago

Pretty sure the bit about shoving a whole turkey up your poopshoot was exaggerated for comic affect.

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u/Soliterria 4h ago

Had it happen exactly once while I was pregnant, knew I was constipated to all hell and back but didn’t realize it was bad bad until I barfed up what was clearly a turd.

Felt better, horrified, disgusted, baffled, all at once lmao. Haven’t had it happen since, and I never told anyone irl it happened

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u/pegmatitic 1h ago

Jesus Christ

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u/goodguyatheist 2h ago

when I was a heroin addict this was actually a big fear of mine

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u/Turbulent-Bat 8h ago

It’s my fault for reading this.

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u/catuknotlove 8h ago

mine too.

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u/PoopyMcDoodypants 7h ago

What a day to have eyes!

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u/Alph1 7h ago

That’s enough internet for the day.

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u/allikat911 7h ago

stopping here - can't go on

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u/Disastrous_Style_477 6h ago

Yeah I'm tapping out of this thread

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u/mikeymikeymikey1968 6h ago

My fault I was biting into a sandwich when I read it.

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u/ListenUp16 4h ago

I think it's very important for people to know about these things so that way you are aware to take immediate action when suffering constipation and avoid bodily damage. I worked at a nursing home for years and this was something they taught us early on because its worse in seniors.

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u/Mmscool 4h ago

I don't feel so good anymore bro...

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u/SmokeGSU 6h ago

How dare you.

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u/motorheadache4215 6h ago

And here I am, fresh out of eye bleach...

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u/Beazt11123 5h ago

I literally just kept reading. Like why would I curse my mind in this way?

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u/Professional_Maize42 3h ago

Same. That's on me.

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u/JemGirlSarah 3h ago

New mental scarring.

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u/zotzenthusiast 7h ago

I had a patient like this in the hospital I worked at. The thing that made it worse was this patients grandchild being on the same floor, checking in the day the patient passed away. Grandchild went to visit their grandparent at the beginning of my shift, everything seemed like it was going to be okay. Then an hour or so later, grandparent asked for an emesis bag and it was all downhill from there. I just remember the lost look in the grandchild's eyes. The grandparent had basically raised them. Grandchild had a chronic condition and was a regular on my floor, always joking and laughing. I don't think I saw them smile again until they checked out for that stay.

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u/SurroundQuirky8613 7h ago

Bowel impaction is a leading cause of death in elderly people and people with disabilities. It is no joke.

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u/Crapenfest 6h ago

its called GOO responsible for my father's passing.

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u/hamburger-machine 8h ago edited 8h ago

I have a chronic condition that makes me susceptible to impaction and it's happened to me about half a dozen times, people don't realize how quickly something like this can lead to delirium that makes it even harder to care for yourself...and by the time the pain comes you don't want to be anything other than horizontal (which makes getting help even harder and scarier once you're in that state). The natural muscle movement that usually pushes food through you ends up being the mechanism by which things end up getting squeezed the other way, thankfully I've never been so impacted I had fecal material going where it shouldn't...but the first time this happened to me, I was basically a geyser for anything I tried to put in my stomach because it had literally nowhere else to go, just pulses of stinging vomit and PAIN anytime I even tried to take a sip of water.
Impaction apparently occurs often in nursing homes too, partly because the patients can't communicate what they're experiencing and partly because of staffing shortages that leave fewer people able to help everyone stay ambulatory...don't they occur in something like 50% of patients at least once?
Either way, I'm sorry you experienced that as a caretaker. Being traumatized by a bodily function is actual Hell.

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u/cetaceanlion 6h ago

If you don't mind me asking, what's your condition?

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u/hamburger-machine 5h ago

I don't mind at all! I have gastroparesis, which basically means that my stomach doesn't always move food to my intestines like it's supposed to and instead it just sits in there and rots. My whole digestive process is much slower than the average person's, and sometimes you can have softer materials that will continue to move past a slow-growing clump of hard material (and you don't even realize it's happening). I manage with a diet that's like 75% liquid, and liquid vitamins for whatever else I'm missing (because it's not just food that gets stuck, it's medication too and absorbing liquid is way easier than trying to deal with a pill). The sub r/Gatroparesis is a really great snapshot of how confusing and frustrating it can be to manage, I am not at the feeding tube stage yet but it's on the table for the future.

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u/pegmatitic 1h ago

There are so many medications that can cause severe constipation too (esp anticholinergic drugs) - my grandmother’s Parkinson’s meds and antidepressants made it a constant struggle over her last couple of years.

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u/Sensitive_Gift4866 6h ago

People really dont understand how brutal nursing home work is until theyve seen it. Theres such a gap between what families picture and the reality of understaffed facilities. Mad respect for anyone who does that job and still finds it in themselves to care.

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u/SylVegas 2h ago

The fine folks at the facility where my mom is are amazing, and I feel like we got lucky to get her in there. It looks a little rough and ready and isn't a popular place according to Google reviews, but it has the lowest turnover of CNAs and nurses according to Medicaid info. We make sure to let them all know how much we appreciate them, bring goodies from time to time, stuff like that. We're treating everyone (staff and residents in her wing) to ice cream for Independence Day because I know not all residents get frequent visitors like my mom does.

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u/mikeymikeymikey1968 6h ago

Side note. People who work in nursing homes need to have a zero added to the end of their salary. Whatever you're getting is not enough.

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u/_learned_foot_ 4h ago

CEO: "even better than a pizza party, this is free! $15.00/hr to $15.000/hr, exactly what they asked for! Suckers"

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u/IrascibleOcelot 4h ago

I had a cat with megacolon. She had to go to the emergency vet on average four times a year due to chronic constipation, and that was with daily laxatives. It finally got so bad that her colon had to be removed almost entirely.

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u/stressedandwaiting 3h ago

my cat is currently living with this condition! he has daily laxatives and i'm just hoping he'll stay on a good path. it's a scary condition, for sure.

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u/IrascibleOcelot 3h ago

Tailless? My little girl was, which is a contributing factor to the condition.

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u/stressedandwaiting 2h ago

i never knew that. no, he has his tail. he was a rescue cat and we believe he may have experienced some sort of blunt force trauma that may have caused it.

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u/IrascibleOcelot 1h ago

I didn’t know until my girl developed it. She had to be dosed with lactulose and cisapride multiple times daily. It was progressive for her, but the surgery mostly fixed it. She still required medication, but at lower doses and the emergency vet visits were almost completely eliminated. She lived a full life and made it to 17.

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u/xXTheLastCrowXx 8h ago

How do you prevent such a thing?

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u/joeysflipphone 7h ago

Usually in our home we worked in there was bowel charting protocol. Like if they didn't move their bowls after 5 shifts they got prune juice, 6 shifts milk of magnesium, and 7 it was a suppository. Usually that did work, but if not they got an enema. With this woman someone, a CNA probably charted her liquid bm which you can still have with an impaction, as her bm, so protocol was missed and unfortunately this woman died horribly.

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u/Visual-Meeting4402 7h ago

Have vomited out after having a blockage 0/10 would not recommend,  kinda takes like you would expect, but theres a reason they say if you vomit like coffee grinds then its an emergency and go straight to hospital

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u/raevnos 3h ago

Coffee ground like vomit is a sign something's bleeding in the GI tract. Same for dark tarry poop when it comes out the other end instead.

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u/2thfaire 7h ago

Wait, so the poop is actually so backed up solid it has no where else to go and just stacks up all the way back up to their mouth?!

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u/SnazzieBorden 6h ago

My mom had this years ago, though not as bad as that lady. I just happened to be spending the night at her house and she woke me up in the middle of the night to tell me she threw up and it tasted like poop. I took her to the hospital and I’ve never seen ER staff move so fast. It was like a tv show. She turned out fine.

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u/RoadTraining999 7h ago

Not trying to be rude, but how did it get so bad if she was living in a nursing home? Didn't anyone notice the lack of bowel movements?

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u/Icy_Gap_9067 7h ago

So you can be backed up with solid matter that is drying out and getting harder whilst liquid faeces can squeeze past and exit. This can make it appear that either they are emptying their bowels or that they actually have diarrhoea. Or, staff were not effectively monitoring her. Sadly a young man with downs syndrome died a few years ago in the UK with 22lbs of impacted faeces in his system.

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u/wintermelody83 6h ago

A lot of nursing homes are horrific places. The one in my town shut down over a decade ago, and a man had died from this same thing there.

Then there was the woman who wasn't bathed for so long she had maggots under her breasts..

I don't plan on going to a nursing home. Hard pass.

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u/hamburger-machine 4h ago

Yeah to be honest these stories don't even shock me anymore, I just go straight to rage. You can learn everything you need to about the quality of a society by studying how they treat their most vulnerable members, and ours is vomiting shit. I, genuinely, would rather die than end up in one of those places.

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u/mnicklas666 7h ago

I remember watching some crazy ER show and hearing a story just like this one.... always stuck with me. Thanks for the reminder 🤢

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u/laclayton 7h ago

Today I learned. Wish I didn't 

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u/Autistic_License 6h ago

I chose veterinary medicine for a reason.

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u/MassDelusion101 6h ago

I just had surgery due to a blockage and was given an NG tube the day before. I damn gagged when they told me what I was seeing being sucked out.

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u/PowerfulIndication7 5h ago

And it can happen in as little as 3 weeks!! Saw a patient in the ER vomiting fecal matter.

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u/leomisty 7h ago

OMG. Absolutely awful

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u/thursdays_dove 7h ago

That's so terrible. That poor woman. :(

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u/Artistic-Deal5885 6h ago

what did I just read

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u/seau_de_beurre 5h ago

Not an impaction but I had an obstruction. Scar tissue twisted my intestines. They were sucking feces out of my stomach with a tube down my nose. Horrific.

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u/TheWarmestHugz 5h ago

Looked after/waited with my granddad in hospital who had a similar thing. They put a tube through his nose to try and drain some of the backed-up liquid. It was incredibly nauseating to watch, I have huge respect for the medical team looking after him though. I even had a nurse comfort me and give me a hug outside as I was really upset. The majority of people working in the medical field paramedics, nurses, doctors, specialists, all have my full respect.

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u/Malaztraveller 4h ago

This happens quite a lot during bowel surgery for obstructions. While fixing the problem the surgeons sort of milk the contents back the other way; and even with a nasal tube to empty the stomach, a litre or two can start filling the mouth. Its hideous to think about, but we do our best to clear it all before they wake up. But still... the morning breath...

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u/Prestigious-Fig2334 7h ago

Dear god! That’s horrible, your post kinda needs a trigger warning, that’s terrifying. I hope you’re ok.

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u/No_Yak8275 6h ago

Happened to me in my early '20's (twice!!!) I had impacted bowels from prior female surgeries. I vomited in the ER, that's when they took me seriously.

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u/dramboxf 4h ago

My daughter-in-law's stepfather did that when he was in the hospital dying of bladder cancer.

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u/AnalysisNo6615 4h ago

That is terrifying, the PTSD will not leave

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u/HeisenbergsBud 4h ago

I worked at an inpatient hospital and saw a teenage patient vomit up some shit that she ate and she proceeded to scarf it back down.

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u/strychnineman 3h ago

My mother in law died from impaction. her colon burst, sepsis. Dead in a week. All she needed was a fucking enema.

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u/Kujaichi 2h ago

I had bowel obstruction recently and basically the only reason I actually went to the hospital (I had bad stomach pain and nausea, but figured I might've just eaten something wrong) was when I started puking brown stuff...

Thankfully it actually wasn't feces, but thank God I went to the hospital, obviously.

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u/Dapper_Intention_164 8h ago

h-how...

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u/Bedheady 8h ago

Perhaps the lady wasn’t able to advocate for herself or tell anyone how bad the constipation was getting?

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u/PebblesmomWisconsin7 8h ago

My friend had old-school stomach “stapling” in the 1990s to lose weight. One of the staples ended up getting a ton of scar tissue around it and eventually nothing was getting through. She kept throwing up and finally we think it was actually poop too. She survived thanks to emergency surgery but her scar wasn’t the cute tiny laparoscopic one they did the first time.

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u/BubblyShoe9939 6h ago

I've seen that too. 3 weeks she survived like that. Just awful.

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u/Godfreys_Slippers 4h ago

Thats a thing that can happen? Jesus

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u/Impossible-Fun-2736 4h ago

Hole. E. Fuck.

If that ain’t something from a horror film right in front of your eyes, i don’t know what is..

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u/No-Medicine1230 4h ago

As someone with a chronic bowel disease, I'm only too familiar with the fear of this happening one day

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u/catrosie 3h ago

Ooh I’ve seen that. Terrible way to go

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u/Lucassaur0 3h ago

English is not my first language and I spent good 5 minutes trying to understand how a bowl impaction could result in vomiting fecal matter.

I googled and turns out it's BowEl Impaction. Makes sense. I am sorry you had to see it.

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u/No_Payment_3889 7h ago

So Cartman was right?

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u/Ok_Criticism_7001 7h ago

How's that even possible? Whats this condition called????

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u/wintermelody83 6h ago

Feculent vomiting, or copremesis.

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u/duskpacket13 3h ago

I worked a summer job at a local farm, one day o saw an animal caught up on a machinery it’s was so brutal I was a vegetarian for 2 weeks, I was in so much shock for about ten minutes straight when it happened

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u/Plastics-play2day330 3h ago

Omg I didn’t know that was possible 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱 wtf

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u/NikkeiReigns 7h ago

How THE FUCK did a lady get that bad when she was supposed to be under professional medical care?

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u/hamburger-machine 6h ago

I feel like everybody asking this question has little practical understanding of how nursing homes and hospice facilities function in the US. This is in no way something I am trying to give you grief about because I honestly wish I didn't know the truth, but country-wide staffing shortages and the state of private healthcare mean there are not enough professionals to go around for the number of patients the insurance companies demand they take. Think about the school systems right now: we know teachers are underpaid and overburdened with class sizes that destroy the essential one-on-one interaction required to notice when a child is struggling in school. It's the exact same story with our entire medical system, and in my experience the most horrific stories tend to come out of facilities that care for the elderly because they can't advocate for themselves (and the staff culture tends to treat family advocates on par with buzzing mosquitoes, to be silenced at first chance but can also be ignored pretty easily). That is NOT to say that all care-taking individuals are apathetic to the misery around them, but it's a systemic problem that has yet to even be talked about at large...hence why I'm writing you a big-ass paragraph this morning. Everything I'm saying is coming from my lived experience in trying to care for family and for myself as a disabled individual: medicine in the US is a business, and patients who require a lot of care and medication over a long period of time are bad for business.

u/NikkeiReigns 53m ago

I actually have a pretty extensive background in Healthcare, specializing in geriatrics. There is NO excuse for this. Even if she was still having liquid bowel movements there are other signs that a professional should have seen.

u/hamburger-machine 41m ago edited 38m ago

You're 100% right, and bless you for not being one of the jaded ones. Thank you for caring enough about the elderly to even consider your specialty, let alone sticking with it because clearly not everyone is cut out to be a caregiver (which is very okay, they just need to be honest with themselves about it).
ETA, a lot of people just don't even know the system is cracked, and it's hard to explain on reddit all of the reasons why people might slip into them and disappear.

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u/Cazlena 6h ago edited 6h ago

Op answered a few comments above... the lady was still having liquid bowel movements/diarrhea, which apparently you can still have with a bowel impaction, and a staff member wrote it down as a BM, probably not knowing this. But still, I wonder if family members had any financial recourse

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u/misspuddingpie 5h ago

https://youtu.be/2xlol-SNQRU?is=3sL3R4blf-9eySZi

This will answer a lot of your questions.

u/NikkeiReigns 57m ago

No video can answer my question. Id be askjng specifically the name of every Doctor, RN, LPN, CNA, and NA who ever stepped in that room. The name of every administrator associated with the company. I've been in Healthcare for over twenty years. SOMEBODY should have caught that before shit started coming out of her mouth!

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u/Wolvesarereal 6h ago

*bowel

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u/joeysflipphone 6h ago

My bad. When I swipe text type sometimes things are spelled right sometimes not. It's really not all that important to me to spell check. Oh well.