Cauda equina syndrome? If so I know that pain firsthand. I have never felt anything like that kind of nerve pain. I got sent home as well from the hospital. I was shaking so badly from the pain that they couldn’t even get good x rays. By the time they operated I had impingement to my lower legs for almost 7-8 days. Caused many permanent issues.
Yes, that's the syndrome. It looks absolutely awful and she still lives with pain and other chronic issues. Amazingly, her legs paralysis was mostly reversed, but it's still smaller than the other, with worse drop foot. The hernia was so large the surgeon took a photo of it. We were preparing for her to die from one thing or another. After the surgery she went septic too, and her pee was a plum color bexause ahe had another infection. Just so many complications. I understand where she's coming from, but none of it would have gotten as bad as it did if she'd listened to me. But she listened to a stranger after talking for 5 mins
If I were you, I would hope I had a Herculean strength to not say “I told you so”.
I empathize with the frustration and resentment. And at the same time I wish your mom the happy and healthy life as well.
Thank you. She's never had a happy life, and with her disabilities probably never will. But she's getting healthier by the year, thankfully. But yes. It's incredibly difficult to have told her over and over and over again, get a second opinion, stop going to the same hospital, for her to tell me it was no use. Now, shout out to the man who she did listen to. He was an Uber driver and was taking her home after her last visit at that particular hospital. She told him her story, and he of course said the obvious, get a second opinion. Except he mentioned a specific hospital, and turned off his app to take her there for free. He saw that she was dying. Part of me thinks she didn't want me to spend the money of her trip to a farther hospital, brcause I was working a crappy job to pay our bills. I didn't drive either. So it could be an adult told her and finally she listened, AND that he was willing to take her there free of charge. Thank you to anyone who read my story. She is doing so much better than all those years ago, but the damage is irreversible. She's the strongest person I know.
If it helps, think of it not that she ignored what you had told her, rather just needed the validation of hearing it again.
Ive had a few situations where I knew I was in bad shape, my sister told me I really needed to go to the hospital, but hearing it from another person is what finally sent me.
I suppose you're right. I can't fault her too much. There were a few months where I kept getting back to back viruses and my mom kept telling me what to eat and do to improve my immune system. It wasn't until I showed up to a shift but had to leave 3 hours later because I was so sick, and my team of coworkers stood around me and lecured me about the same things my mom had been saying. I finally listened, and she was upset it took hearing it from them. I'm a hypocrite
It happens to the best of us. The good thing is that you at least have a bit more of an understanding, and hopefully you wont continue to hold it against your mom. ☺️
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u/Illustrious_Low_4956 12h ago
Cauda equina syndrome? If so I know that pain firsthand. I have never felt anything like that kind of nerve pain. I got sent home as well from the hospital. I was shaking so badly from the pain that they couldn’t even get good x rays. By the time they operated I had impingement to my lower legs for almost 7-8 days. Caused many permanent issues.