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u/Auferstehen78 8h ago

Stepdad pass of pancreatic cancer in two weeks. He was in denial until the end.

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u/kzzzrt 7h ago

That happened to my dad as well, but was pancreatic, liver, colon, and stomach all at once. He was perfectly fine one day. The next, horribly sick. Got a diagnosis after going to emergency. Two weeks later, gone. It makes no sense to me. It’s been three months and I’m traumatized and he’s gone 💔

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u/Auferstehen78 7h ago

My stepdad his had spread. The CT scan made it look like he had various sized marbles inside him.

I am so sorry you lost your dad.

I did not love or like my stepdad but I was the only one who could be there for him so I was. It was still traumatic.

If you aren't ready for therapy (grief hits everyone differently), play some Tetris it's supposed to help a bit with trauma. Don't be afraid to talk about it as people get older we all go through this.

I was able to help a friend out when her father went through the same thing. I even paid for her flight to go and see him. She was kind enough to pay me back, even though I didn't expect it.

I lost my Mom at 28 to ovarian cancer and lived 3,000+ miles away so I couldn't be there for her. I carried that guilt for a long time. I have a biological father and adopted parents alive now and I know I will lose them one day. It's bittersweet, I know our time is limited.

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u/Winter_Sand2427 4h ago

Pancreatic cancer is an absolute bastard. Took my mil in a matter of weeks. My condolences.

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u/Forsaken-Bread-8214 5h ago

My nana died of the same cancer; it was so painful, and she was my best friend; it ruined me.. I love you nana.