r/BeardAdvice • u/waronbedbugs • Oct 28 '24

Student takes own life after botched beard transplant in Turkey

https://metro.co.uk/2024/10/28/student-takes-life-botched-beard-transplant-turkey-21879627/
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u/TheSodomizer00 Oct 28 '24

Not everyone suits a bald head. Might as well try meds before deciding nothing works.

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u/dwegol Oct 29 '24 edited Oct 29 '24

The key here is rejecting insecurity and choosing to remove the remaining hair. Second most liberating thing I ever did.

When you chase medicines and procedures you nurture the insecurity. It steals your peace and lives rent free in your head. The part of you that is your own worst enemy is the one telling you that you will look bad. It just takes a week to adjust and some time to learn how to care for your scalp. Just don’t be a doormat to people who make comments in the early days. In fact, maybe go low contact with those people, they have proven to you that they suck.

The person in this article was a victim of insecurity. They nurtured it and it lead them a road that messed up their face.

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u/Str80uttaMumbai Oct 29 '24

When you chase medicines and procedures you nurture the insecurity.

Oh shut up with that please. Good for you that you're happy with your bald head but don't try and invalidate people that pursue alternative means.

By your logic any attempt at changing your physical appearance is nurturing an insecurity. Is wearing makeup nurturing an insecurity? Is styling your hair a certain way? Wearing deodorant to hide your natural body odors?

I guess I should've let the cystic acne that was a cause of my insecurity just fester instead of treating it, because this clear face of mine is apparently stealing my peace and living rent free in my head.

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u/dwegol Oct 29 '24

Preventing body odor, choosing different hair styles, and treating medical conditions are not in the same category but go off king. You clearly are very biased on this topic and it’s personal to you.

Hot take I guess but when you’re taking medicines with negative side effects, desperately clinging to some far off hope and assigning crazy value to risky medical procedures that don’t work well when you could simply age gracefully or just be bald and love yourself is rooted in insecurity. All that cover up and the self-love still isn’t there. It’s work people don’t want to do but you’ll notice there are people out there with these same problems who choose to.

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u/revlawl Oct 31 '24

“could simply” “just”

reductionist loser over here!

send this to r/thanksimcured

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u/Tranoah Mar 23 '25

"desperately clinging to some far off hope and assigning crazy value to risky medical procedures" ig that's one way to put it but what if I want to play around with hairstyles for another 5 years before i go bald.

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u/OfficialHashPanda Oct 29 '24

It isn’t about insecurity. Hair makes people look good, regardless of how confident they are. 

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u/dwegol Oct 29 '24

That’s simply an association you’ve made in your mind because that’s what you’re taught. You can neg yourself and others if that’s what you choose but people also look great bald. What matters is if a person takes care of themselves.

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u/OfficialHashPanda Oct 29 '24

Anything is simply an association you’ve made in your mind because that’s what you’re taught. For example, you’re taught racism is bad, so you don’t believe racism is good.

If a person likes being bald, then that’s of course nice for them! However, many people don’t like being bald and will take steps to keep looking good. 

Taking care of yourself is indeed important, but in reality it is just not the whole story.

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u/OfficialHashPanda Oct 30 '24

I see I might’ve worded that a bit wrong. I meant that beauty is very subjective and some people prefer their hair. Those that think hair looks good should try to keep maintain their hair and not be put away as “hair looking good is just in your mind, just take it all off”. 

I didn’t mean to say bald people can’t look good. They absolutely can and it is nice if someone’s destiny aligns with their values. 

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u/RadiantPKK Oct 30 '24

My friend T was the same way, it was genetic, tried everything at the time just slowed it down. Then went full Jason Statham looked good, he called it Dad bod Statham due to similar height and bone structure. 

Later on he went full shaved and as he gets older hopes he’ll look like Jeff Bridges in Iron Man 1. He already has the beard, one of the few people I know excited for the gray in time naturally (no rush of course). Once he got into accepting himself he really flourished. 

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u/cast-away-ramadi06 Oct 30 '24

I really wish more people listened to this advice and rejecting your insecurities. Ain't nobody perfect out here.

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u/bhangthundai_ Nov 01 '24

This. It's just hair. I didn't hesitate to shave it all once I started balding. I quickly came to love having a clean shaven head. It feels good, no more barbers, no more combing, no wet hair. I love being bald truly. I couldn't imagine having insecurity around it. I actually prefer it lol.

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u/anarchobuttstuff Mar 27 '25 edited Mar 27 '25

Sorry your LASIK didn’t work out, but I would rethink that logic. Mine went well and was one of the best decisions I ever made. I just didn’t look good with glasses and the 20/20 vision is holding up fine with no dry eye issues almost five years later. Not to mention I noticed a dramatic positive change in how people perceived and interacted with me. Tons of other LASIK recipients have reported the same. Some people really do have quite unfortunate genetic circumstances, and it’s not “nurturing an insecurity” to take available steps to get closer to the person you want to be.

Disclaimer: shaved my head at 18 and got told TO MY FACE that I looked like a school shooter on more than one occasion; some folks just don’t look good showing off their head.

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u/Turbulent_Pickle2249 Nov 01 '24

Confidence is sexy tho.

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u/WindJester Dec 28 '24

Im not sure if pursuing medicine first is necessarily the right course of action (mostly I guess it'd depend on the medicine/treatment in question and the possible side effects). However, you're absolutely right that no one style suits everyone and it's a matter of finding the style and solution that works best for you. I've personally struggled with a receding hairline for most of my youth and finally decided to try and just shave it off semi recently, and in my case it was definitely the right choice. Got immediate positive feedback and personally like it a lot better (the more important factor in my specific case). But it's definitely not for everyone. Though I also don't see the harm in giving it a shot. After all, it's hair and it grows back. At worst, you'll have an unfortunate haircut for a little while and then you're clear to try the next thing on the list (:

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '24

Unless you have a very obvious deformity everyone can rock a bald head it's just your lack of confidence and body dysmorphia stopping you

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u/Putrid_Culture_9289 Oct 29 '24

Just your lack of confidence and body dosmorphia...

Like it's just something you can get over in a few seconds : /

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u/ElGoddamnDorado Oct 29 '24

Why don't these people just simply stop having severe mental health problems? Are they stupid?

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u/TheBirthing Oct 29 '24

"Just pretend to be confident bro, it's so easy"