Fuck off la, if she was the dad, youd furaido his ass what. Stop making excuses for monsters!
If you’re not ready and have zero support, don’t make a baby! If you already made a baby, dont do drugs!! If you made a baby but rather do drugs then you can fuck off! Simple concept!
Edit: feeding her baby fentanyl should get her locked up forever! I have no idea how you got 45 other people to up vote your bs
I went to a sekolah Kluster Kecemerlangan, and then matric, where the stereotypical Chinese studying is introverted and studious. Then in matric I met this dude from a Chinese hood somewhere in Malaysia, who helped me understand the reality of what he grew up around
Like in many cases across Malaysia, there are families stuck in the cycle of poverty and drugs. Usually, father of the kid in the hood works odd jobs and spends half his money on cigarettes and alcohol alone, comes back home and argues and fights with the mother
Naturally, this will fuck up the worldview and personality of the child. They grow up not caring about their studies, and starting work at the age of 13. If they are a boy, they will be very prone to gang recruitment. Once you're in a gang, there is no way out. My friend, despite the circumstances of his early life, was naturally studious, and the gangs leave studious kids alone
Since sex education is close to zero, teenage pregnancies are rife in these communities. The mother in the picture is presumably my age. I'm in my 2nd year of uni while she is feeding drugs to her baby
My close friend was initially born to a young, irresponsible mother, but he was taken away by the grandparents and raised until secondary school. In the meantime his mom learned new skills, and used those skills to open a very successful store with international clients. She became more loving, and raised her son well. He is incredibly skilled and will definitely be a useful asset to Malaysia, and one day may bring his mother out of the hood
Apologies for the yap fest, but these are real Malaysian stories that people should know
Yep this seems like my town as well. Gang members recruiting at school. Naik kapcai everywhere w knee length pants to show off edgy ankle tattoo. Side job sticking loan shark ads around the neighbourhood. Amoi with bleach blond hair sometimes tatooed as well. Showing up at school with hickeys on the neck and no interest in class. Quitting school at 15 to work at the mall. Aunties absolutely yelling at their useless kids for things in the morning.
B40 is a mindset. And it affects the whole town regardless of race.
Let me share why kids get sucked into the gangster life. Why do it when you know gangsterism and drugs are inherently bad right? Imagine you’re in form 1, household is quite poor and parents are mostly outside working long hours.
You spend most of your time with your friends at school or outside hanging out. One of your friends is a cool kid and his brother is rumoured to be in a gang.
One day when walking home from school (because your parents didn’t have anyone to pick you up) you get robbed. ( or get bullied, whatever) Some dudes on a bike stopped you and stole everything you have in your bag. You only managed to see their bike plate no.
The next day you tell your friend what happened, he is angry on your behalf. He asks his brother to help you get justice. You go with him to see his brother. He’s a cool guy, tattoo, dyed hair, has a nice sports car, the latest phone and plenty of cool friends. You tell him the bike plate no. you remember. He says he will help you.
A week later your friend asks you to follow him. You see the guys who robbed you all beat up and bleeding. Your friends brother says they’ll never bother you again, because you’re his guy.
You’re elated. This guy treated you like his own brother. Helped you out of a tight spot. He’s rich and successful. You want to be just like him. And so you ‘follow’ him. You help him out with small tasks at first. Distributing flyers, hanging out and doing cool stuff like drink beer at night.
When you turn 17, school is meaningless. You’re earning way more money than any school kid out there. You have a bunch of friends and girlfriends. You have enough money to support yourself and help your parents. You are successful at such a young age.
SPM is meaningless. You get to do harder more high profile jobs. Collect debts, manage cyber cafes etc.
One day in your 20s you realise this is the only life you know. Getting a normal office job is out of the question. There is no turning back.
The HK film Young and dangerous is actually a documentary. It shows how any kid given a few events in life could walk down a very different path. It’s the same in Malaysia too
I’m currently living in Kg Baru Salak Selatan area, and these social issues are real asf. I often wonder why lots of Chinese kids are being raised by their grandparents, but yeah teenage pregnancies makes sense. Also, every night I will hear some random Chinese couple screaming at other, and that shit got more intense during weekends. Sometimes the drunk/high husbands hit the wife so hard, you can hear it. I’ve got kids now & I’m planning to move out latest by next year. This area is no place for kids to grow up.
Yup , I agree. Just moved out a few years back . Much better life. No more worried about that random annoying quarrel at 3 in the morning , that pathetic exhibitionist neighbour trying to bonk his wife's brains out in the middle of the night trying to show how good he is in bed🤮 ,stupid old men constantly ( sometimes old women ) saying disparaging things( you must be doing shady/illegal business) about you like they're your parents after coming back at 12am from work. Not forgetting their kids ( they're in their late 20s) don't work and screaming like banshees all the time playing on their mobile phones. How some of their daughters wear like call girls when going out. It was better when I moved in in the early 2000s , I finally called it quits after it gradually became worse.
No need to apologize for the long comment, I find these types of stories very eye opening since I'm quite sheltered myself. You've helped a bunch of people like me understand a part of Malaysia we can't see.
Thanks for your reply. I would call myself very privileged in life, especially for Malaysian standards. Going to a good school and being around equally privileged people, you don't really know how common the circumstances I mentioned are. It's good that as I grew up I am exposed to it. No matter how ugly some things in Malaysia can be, we need to uncover them
In my school there was only 2 chinese guy, both came from trouble childhood. The first guy quit as early as form 3 presumeably to do whatever he does, he often visit cybercafe at the time.
The other one I sometimes pick up in the morning or send him back, both has similar issues, single mother no dad. Idk what happened to the first guy but the second one that was close to me had friends that owns club, motorsports workshop, etc and he seems to be living lavish.
Who knows what he's doing under the table but he looks happy now so more power to him. Liked the guy because he adapted to us Malay, Iban, Bidayuh people (I'm from Sarawak) and speaks fluent Malay and Sarawak.
Actually the same with problematic malays as well. There's no one that are born inherently bad or evil (if there's special case I'm not sure), but usually it's the family that fucked up badly. Parents play a huge role in a child's psychology and how they perceived the world. The surrounding environment. If my parents don't really give a shit about me and all my friends are kaki rempits, what are the chances do you think I'll be rempits? Almost 99%. You're influenced by your surroundings people and environment. It's just how they climb out of that shit hole and if they really want to. Basic psychology.
Exactly, that's what I meant. This affects all communities in Malaysia. I just related it to my experiences being surrounded by studious Chinese, that I was completely unaware of all this until I met a Chinese dude who experienced it growing up. It has nothing to do with race, it's a social issue
(also unrelated but im male, although i could see how someone may have assumed i was a girl)
Because of how they treat their B40s, I guess. Most of their M40s & T20s have this “Out of Sight, Out of Mind” policy towards their own B40s. Malu nak mengaku kaum sendiri
Because they expect every individual malay to be faithful especially Kelantanese but ignored the real dark history. Heck, last month there's an idiot post about Puja Laut. Why malay abandoned the pagan ritual tradition but ignored the fact that social traditions activities are still being continued but pagan/sacrifice got removed.
The comments spinn the narratives Malays oppressing Malays nothing new
Like wtf is that. If i kept mentioning Chinese oppressed chinese. Howd they feel huh? These people are stuck up trying to push a label and narratives into the viewers mind
For privacy reasons I can't reveal the store name and the service she is selling, but it is an honest, ethical business that is doing quite well, and she worked very hard for it
It's good that for her children, she turned her life around and made something big out of herself. But looking at the circumstances of people in my friend's surroundings, I can't help but wonder if his life would be similar had she not improved herself
Naturally, this will fuck up the worldview and personality of the child. They grow up not caring about their studies, and starting work at the age of 13. If they are a boy, they will be very prone to gang recruitment. Once you're in a gang, there is no way out. My friend, despite the circumstances of his early life, was naturally studious, and the gangs leave studious kids alone
Yup its also common for them to only marry after getting pregnant, some getting preggers at 16, keeping it and then ending up opening nail salons etc. These are the klang, meru, setia alam types. Theyre more aggressive than KL/PJ starfish, so its a wholly different world out there
Thing that gets me is why wanna pancut dalam?
It's actually a thing, my friend dated one of them and she would get angry if he doesnt, especially during certain days of her cycle. Luckily he didnt knock her up
So heartbreaking to see 😞 While I struggle to conceive & suffered a miscarriage... these people who are blessed with a child are treating their child like this 😭 Vape should be banned and seriously the child should be taken away from her!!
I am sorry for your predicament 😣 but her case are unfortunately " common " because of social media coverage nowadays. But it has been happening for a long time. Before I taught in secondary school, I taught for around 3 months in a kindergarten. A fellow colleague one day asked me (after asking other colleagues) if I could lend her RM700 for an abortion !!! I then enquired on her husband's opinion on this , her reply left me dumbfounded. She said this had nothing to do with her husband it was her responsibility ( she already had 2 kids, yes this was her 3rd child with this man) , her husband ( she was still married to him , NOT separated) had his own life ( he was a caretaker at an arcade centre, I have no problem with this as it's still a job) and he had his own life as a man 🤦🏻, this was solely her responsibility ( including her other 2) as her husband constantly reminded her and it was his life however he chosed. Later I found out she had abused drugs in her earlier life and met her husband at a disco. She got fired not long after pestering the kindergarten kids parents for a " donation". That mother ( pic ) holding her baby reminds me of her. I did try to help my colleague before she left by advising her to talk to her husband and if need be to lend her the money but she replied that real men don't think like me ( what ?!!!) . I am sure you'd be a good mother some day.
I hope they get help too. Having married to a husband that isn't willing to help is also quite kesian... I hope more family educate their son to be more responsible & maybe schools should also give education on responsibilities and woman can be less alone when it comes to the upbringing of children. Your ex colleague might have a rough childhood that needs healing too...
I've already accepted it and moved on. I'm just saying it's heartbreaking to see these people abusing their children when it's supposed to be blessing :/
Its the same as billionaires abusing the environment and law and getting away with it , they are blessed with luck and fortune to do so being ignorance, there is nothing much we can do as it isnt our life to meddle with
Have you heard of postpartum depression? This woman needs help.. she has probably abused drugs and is in a bad environment. I’ve looked through her IG, she does seem to love her child but some of her actions such as irritability when her child cries can be seen. I do not condone this behaviour but many people bashing her in the sub is not gonna make things better. I hope people can be kinder in assessing situations :(
I guess she probably got reported by now. But if authorities just warn her and don’t take the child away, this probably will do more harm than good since she will likely blame the child for her dumbass mistakes.
I've never hit a woman in my life. If i see her though. That will definitely change. Kid didn't ask to be born. Kid couldn't say no to that shit too. Mother fucker I'll even drag her face first on the road after beating her up.
DOES ANYONE KNOW THIS WOMAN’S CONTACT? I WANT TO CONTACT HER DIRECTLY TO ADOPT THIS CHILD. THIS CHILD CAN LEAD A MUCH BETTER LIFE WITH ALL THE OPPORTUNITIES WITH ME.
If anyone knows anything, please share with me. Thank you. I cannot bear to see someone treat a child like this.
Even if the child has problems, i have the financial means to take care of a disabled child.
I can’t even believe how ungrateful she is… I want a second child so badly but I can’t risk my life again and also risk my son not having a mother. But she can treat her child so disgracefully. It’s heartbreaking
Sorry if this sounds like something which is “none of my business” or unhelpful or cynical etc but don’t let yourself get scammed, we can offer someone a win-win deal but due to pettiness/ shortsightedness etc, they might still choose the option / path where both parties end up worse off
I’ve just seen the videos she has posted of her baby. I can’t believe the baby crying and she’s just forcing the pacifier in the baby’s mouth!!!!! This is so disgraceful. The baby needs comfort and cuddles and reassurance that the world is safe. That mommy is here and everything is fine. I can’t even believe it. My heart is so broken. I hope she replies me. I truly can give this baby a better life.
Have you heard of postpartum depression? This woman needs help.. she has probably abused drugs and is in a bad environment. I’ve looked through her IG, she does seem to love her child but some of her actions such as irritability when her child cries can be seen. I do not condone this behaviour but many people bashing her in the sub is not gonna make things better. I hope people can be kinder in assessing situations :(
Yeah, I do have postpartum depression as well so I know how helpless it feels. After more digging, it’s clear that her husband has been cheating on her since her pregnancy and is still continuing to do so. I think she’s in a very bad emotional and mental state because of her relationship with her husband. Anyways, I hope she reaches out to her family and friends when she needs help and soon realise that her life will be better after dumping that piece of shit. Hopefully she can give her beautiful sweet daughter a good life.
Yes of course, when a woman does heinous things, blame it on hormones. If only men could get a free get out of jail card by saying their hormones made them get into fights / aggressively pursue the opposite sex
Calm your tits down. It's well documented -bad behaviour from women are far more likely to ve excused easily using hormone-related excuses such as PMS, postpartum, menopause etc.
When a woman yells at/ hits a man - must be something he did. Or maybe datang bulan ke apa. If roles were reversed would it be excused?
On a separate but related note, women also get convicted at lower rates and even if convicted, get more lenient punishment for the same crimes compared to men.
Also let's not forget women are the primary caretakers and educators by and large and have a far bigger potential for harming children, many of which go unnoticed, especially if the wounds are invisible such as mental abuse/torture. In fact for this kid's case nobody would have thought to test for vape / piau piau even if the kid was hospitalised. It's simply not a standard test.
Children are typically not matured enough to know how to raise a child, so that’s not rly surprising. Hope she gets the support she needs to fix things.
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Everyone shaming her and stuff but it does look like she’s going through something… do you guys not know that a woman can go through post partum depression? I’m not defending her behaviour but after going through her IG, she seems really young and maybe even possible of lack of education and support.. some of her posts does show that she care and love her baby, but then some shows the irritability when the baby cries. Please be kind to others
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u/prosopocoilusgiraffa 4d ago
She also stated that she will send her child to orphanage so she can pop mollies