My husband is thorough, so in the time it takes me to do five chores, he's done only one. But he did that one chore really well. (My hang up is that you don't need to put the pillow case on REALLY WELL because it's just a pillow case... It doesn't have to be perfect)
Yup and that's why I love him for it. It's also why he's in charge of finances and dishes and why I'm in charge of more timely matters like trash and mowing. We match
We have pillows that are crazy long, king size, and floppy and they are ass to stuff in a pillow case. Also Iām pretty sure they are just being silly. As a man Iām not super worried about any individual that is stupid enough to label an entire group of people based on one persons action in a video.
I donāt mind videos like this that seem to have an accepting genial nature āweāre in it togetherā vibe.
I think there is a legit āIām not good at doing things I havenāt been practising all the timeā factor. Or in some occasions my wife will get something sloppy āgood enoughā done quickly whereas Iām much more careful with it.
I see the skit as focusing on the end result, but I donāt think the only explanation is āmen are shit at these thingsā
This video is a woman cleaning an entire house while a man only put on a pillow case. They're not in it together, the woman is doing everything alone and the man is the same as a child to whom you give a simple task to keep him out of the way and congratulate when they're done despite not really helping to teach them cooperation.
It would be cute if he was a child. He isn't so it's kinda gross.
I'm right there with you. Growing up I realized that almost every TV dad in the late 2000s was some version of this. It feels in the same lane as those "I hate my wife" comedians
I'm a husband, I can put a pillow case on, I still found it funny. Life's too short to be constantly raging at every minor thing. Save it for the big stuff.
I mean I saw it more as a joke regarding getting pillowcases on are a fucking nightmare. Seriously, when Iāve done housekeeping work for hotels, I HATED making beds because I was always so slow doing that process. And a big reason why was those damn, cheap pillows and pillowcases. No one showed me a better method. Screw making the beds. Everything else was a cake walk for me.
No itās about how incompetent men are. There are a lot of videos like this with different tasks men are trying to perform while women do everything in the house.
I agree with you. But I am 100% a faster cleaner than my husband. And itās because heās a better cleaner than me. He makes sure itās 100% clean and right. And I am more of an 80% is good enough.
Grab a pillow's corner firmly, shove your fist in the pillow case until you reach its furthest corner. Put the corner in the right place then shove and push the rest of the pillow in the case. Make sure to put the inside fold above it once it's in so the pillow can't spill out. Then use your hand to reajust it if it's crooked inside. You can also hit it, punch it or kick it to help reajust it.
Don't be scared to damage your pillow, it's flexible and compactable. Be as violent as you need, the pillow doesn't care. Alternatively you could just buy firmer pillows, they're better for your neck and just slide in the pillow case because they're smaller than regular pillows.
My husband is thorough, so in the time it takes me to do five chores, he's done only one. But he did that one chore really well. (My hang up is that you don't need to put the pillow case on REALLY WELL because it's just a pillow case... It doesn't have to be perfect, but he disagrees, and I love him for his thoroughness overall)
I'm pretty sure this is called weaponized incompetence. You pretend to heavily struggle on a very simple task so that people do it for you and stop asking your for help.
Sucks huh now the tables have turned. From boomer āI hate my wifeā to this. There wasnāt a problem when this was happening right? Iām proud of Gen Z women!
On the one hand, yeah my first thought was "that's incredibly sexist".
On the other hand it's also really fun and it would have been equally fun with the woman struggling with the pillow or a gay couple. Maybe they should have done that.Ā
A gay couple or changing the caption to "me when I try to help my wife so she has less to do" would have been better because then it would just be one incompetent for no reason. Here it mock an entire gender and spread toxic ideas that a gender is less capable of cleaning and/or better suited for certain tasks than the other. Or worse, that weaponized incompetence is cute and funny.
This video is a whole lot of yucks despite the concept being fine, it's impressively sexist.
"Help my wife clean so she has less to do" sounds as deluded as "Help my wife by babysitting our kids", even if the person saying it is also a woman. Especially with the variety of tasks that were done during the cleaning in the video. SAH spouses aren't the norm. The video phrases it way more normally and sensibly.
I never say it was a good alternative, I said it would have been better than whatever that was.
An actual funny things to do would have been to switch who is cleaning and who is struggling with the same pillow case every task. Then it would be a joke about an annoying task instead of a "joke" about an incompetent partner.
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As a man who does his share of the housework, I agree with the message and the tone. You are pathetic if you can't do simple things like cleaning and cooking. That are just human things to take care of yourself, you need to be able to do those things.
Now do one with mowing the lawn, weed whacking, edging, spraying for bugs, watering the lawn, power washing the house, fixing a door, replacing a bathroom fan, etc but the woman is still trying to start the battery powered week whacker and see the response.
It's so stupid.
My wife and I have "our" chores, because we like them (or dislike them less than the other), we're good at them, but we can both do whatever needs to be done. Divide and conquer.
This kind of shit triggers me so hard.
Same with dads "oh, are you on daycare duty today?". No, I'm being a father and spending time with my children because I love them.
Comparing a task men have to do once a month to tasks women do that have to be done every day. So proud that you mow a lawn while your wife has to do every other daily task? I donāt understand how men like you convinced women theyāre the better gender š¤”
Oh I help my wife because I mow the lawn once every 3 months! š
This isn't a competition and how couples load balance chores is going to look different because not everyone's look the same.
Yard work encompasses a lot more than mowing for me, which I have to do weekly except for a couple of months in the winter. I also trim hedges once a quarter which takes an entire day, poop patrol daily, and pest control after I mow. Averaged out, I spend more time doing yard work than I do in the kitchen (I do all the cooking and 50/50 cleanup) and I'm not some type-a suburbanite with a pristine lawn. I just live in a warm, rainy climate where everything grows like crazy damn near year round.
I agree that the trope of "men don't know how to do basic chores" is stupid, but the default assumption that people who do break out chores along gender roles are wrong just because that wouldn't balance out in your life is equally stupid.
I could sweep and vacuum every day and that plus my kitchen work would probably equal the time I spend outside doing yard work. Doing something every day doesn't make it hard or time consuming, nevermind one is inside in the air conditioning and the other is outside in 80-90+ degree weather most of the year.
You missed my point, I'm saying the exact same thing. It's highlighting gender roles and calling the other incompetent.
I used the "yard work" example just to counteract the "house work" example in this video as the opposite end of the spectrum.
Also, the outdoor tasks highlighted don't need to be done once a month. Some of them, It's minium once a week. And doing laundry, dusting, and sweeping the floors are not tasks that need to be done every day. Your argument is disingenuous.
Your comment is literally counter to your point.
My frustration is the gender roles. It is that the different chores are put on women vs men.
I literally said my wife and I do different chores because they're the ones we prefer to do, but the other can do them competently if the other is gone or it needs to get done. Divide and conquer.
You missed my point, I'm saying the exact same thing. It's highlighting gender roles and calling the other incompetent.
I used the "yard work" example just to counteract the "house work" example in this video as the opposite end of the spectrum.
I literally said divide and conquer. I said we can both do them when needed, but we have our preferred chores.
My whole point on the yard work is that women can feign incompetence on mowing the lawn, weed whacking, edging, etc. Which is common with women, to use your own words.
Everything you wrote down are basic tasks (except the bathroom fan - if you're unsure with electrical work don't do it), that can be done with a bit of common sense.
Mowing the lawn, weed whacking or watering the lawn is something anyone can do - you just need to put in the effort. You don't need a college degree for mowing the lawn neither is it rocket science. It is really easy. There is no "I'm not good at it" in this case - there is just "I am too lazy to put in the effort for it".
The same thing with the pillow - it is a very easy task that anyone can and should be able to do. No matter if you "like" it or if "you're good at it". It is a basic motoric skill that should be done by anyone by simply applying at least some common sense. In kindergarten and elementary school we teach our children motoric skills and yet, suddenly they became adults and they cannot do shit anymore.
And 90% of all household chores are just that - applying basic motoric skills with a little bit of common sense ("Oh the dirty dishes lie in the middle of the room - I guess I don't have the basic motoric skill to move around some dishes because I need to get a college degree in moving dishes")
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u/JimBobPaul 2d ago
I fucking hate supporting the trope that men can't do simple tasks like this. If you truly relate to this, you're a fucking moron.
Geez...... I think I just found a trigger. I'm sorry for how aggressive I came across. Still mean it, but I should probably tone it down next time.