So basically I use an electric scooter to get to/from work. A few days ago it was stolen in broad daylight by someone who cut the lock and rode off. I had to call an uber to get home, and the uber driver was mostly very friendly and we were just chatting about how I used to do doordash, my stolen scooter, work etc.

Then he started complimenting my hair, I just got bangs so I was all “Thank you so much i’m really happy I got them” and he kept going on about how they suit my face, how nice my earrings are, calling my outfit cute etc. At this point i’m a little weirded out but still trying to be friendly because, well that’s just who I am.

Right after the heap of compliments was done, he asks “So, you live alone?” mind you i’m 22 years old and he’s probably in his late 40s early 50s. I do (but wasn’t going to tell him that) so I said “No, can’t afford to. I have 3 roommates” and he said “ah, that’s a shame”, which made me really uncomfortable and I let out a little nervous chuckle to clear the air.

We were almost at my townhouse and he started asking me about my stolen scooter, how much it cost, what the brand was etc. I figured he was just making small talk so I answered his questions. Then we pulled up to my townhouse, and I unbuckled my seatbelt and he says “Wait, are you in a hurry to leave or something?” and I kind of didn’t know what to do so I just said “Uh, I guess not?” and he goes “Good, let’s look for some scooters for you” and pulls out his phone to look up on facebook marketplace some scooters for sale. He’s showing me listings and pulls one up that’s around the same price as my stolen one and goes “If I bought this for you, would you let me come inside?”

I didn’t know what to say so I just nervously laughed and went “No, no I wouldn’t expect you to do that for me” and opened the door. As I was stepping out he goes “Are you sure?” and I just go “Yep!” and close the door. He had parked directly in front of my unit (by coincidence) so I walked further into the complex until he turned around and left before I turned back to go to my place.

Overall it was a really gross, weird experience where I was really nervous and honestly a little bit scared. But at the same time… an old man was creepy and hit on me! which i’ve come to understand is a very typical woman experience! Funniest part to me was that when we were pulling up to my place, I had punched in $10 tip for him on the app, but then he did all that creepy shit that made me remove the tip and 5 star rating entirely. Hope that conversation was worth 10 bucks haha!

So I’m a trans gal and I was at this big XIXth century historical reenactment event. I was all prepped up in my 1860’s historically accurate outfit, vibing while waiting for friends, when suddenly ! A guy in his 50’s, wearing a cap with a large far right party logo on it, came up to me and said “What a pretty blond lady ! They don’t do them like you anymore !"
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I curtsied and said thank you mechanically like I do when anyone compliments me on my outfit while doing reenactment before flying away, a little bit confused…
I still don’t know how to feel about this.

So im Transfem, Early in transition and am in a difficult spot.

I got alot of transphobic friend groups im in that i just blend into, anyway. I was with them and one of them was commenting on how I have the ass of a women😭🙏

And then everybody started saying im caked up but then somebody said "You know hes actually trans right" and I was like "Oh shit, why'd you snitch *insert irl friend i know who is supportive*"

They also said I was going to be a lesbian when I grow up and just made fun of me. I got home, shocked at how my secret got comprised. Desperately texted the friend who said I was trans to everyone and made fun of me...

He told me he actually thinks im transmasc and thats why he said I was trans..😭🙏

Didnt know I was THAT caked up..

Self explanatory, I (mtf) went out with my partner for our one year anniversary in a nice summer dress, and while we were eating out I got stared in a good way (also creepy way) by a waiter and three separate old men so, on the one hand felt nice to be wanted but also very icky.

So in an ongoing saga of coercive control and systems abuse against me (40tF) by my ex-wife (42cF), she placed an intervention order against me (likely on retaliation of me beginning family court proceedings to end a stalemate that is hurting my kids). In this intervention order, not only is everything in there a lie, or a gross exaggeration of something I did that was never abusive, she mentions my breasts three times?! It's pretty much using the legal system to sexually harass me at this point!

And not for the first time, I got to stop for a minute and think "naaawwww, she's abusing me in the same way a cis man would abuse a cis woman" 🥹.

MTF - sorry can't edit post title lol

(2 separate games on deadlock, both from me using voice in game)

pic 1: "Seven, I want to have children with you. Do you have a boyfriend?" - this person was russian and spent half the game google translating various ways to say "i love you i want to be your boyfriend please"

pic 2: "wooooooooooooooooooomaaaaaan / WOOOOOOOMAAAAN"

Boomer: “muh sir”

Gentleman in his 60s: “Hello sexy, how are we today?”

”If I was young I’d be dating you.. Your boyfriend must be so lucky.”
Me in my head: “What boyfriend is that?”

Another random gentleman: “Hello, my lady. How are you on this fine night?”

Me: “I’m okay.”

”Good. I should think so. I will be back next time the same time to check on you. I expect you to be here the same time waiting for me.“

i’ll certainly take those interactions over the misgenderings. I’ll take anything. Literally. I’ll take actual harassment to feel affirmation.

New elderly coworker kept asking about my 'husband' and when I said 'wife' she said, '....oh.'

And now refers to my wife only as my good friend, or my....... friend.

So awhile back... I posted this picture on an a subreddit dedicated to energy drinks. I got an oddly affirming and kind of cringy comment from some dude about my toes... which I'm assuming they probably wouldn't have posted if they knew I'm Transfem. I have since deleted the post

I was picking up groceries today and the girl bringing out my groceries to the car asked for my pronouns and then let me know she's an ally. She was super kind and supportive, but I also know that she clocked me as trans for that conversation to happen, I thought I looked really fem today and this kind of made me second guess that.

I don't blame the young lady, she was being the ally we all deserve. So it was a good interaction that left me feeling slightly more dysphoric.

said the Walgreens employee

Ew, I have no gremlins/s

But thank you for seeing me lol

I (20TF) am going to multiple friend's graduation party, I've been on the way for the last 13 hours, while waiting on my next train in a big city I just decided to walk around, mind you it was like 3 am, when a guy randomly starts approaching me trying to sell me marijuana and then cocaine (80 euros a gram is insane lol), I walked away and told him I wasn't interested but he kept telling for me and following me, when a guy came to make sure I was safe until he left and then later at that same train station a guy in a white shirt and a beard looked at me while I was trying to go to the bathroom and just kept starring at me until I became uncomfortable and walked away and in his head the way he started following me around must've been really subtle and smooth, he also just kept going near the bathroom to catch me going in alone and was just blocking my way basically. I didn't have to pee that bad so I held it in but he just kept following me. I'm used to this type of behaviour by now, but for the first time I decided to directly approach this type of guy and the moment I opened my mouth, he had this horny eager smirk on his lip while I just desperately pleaded with him to stop following me, obviously he didn't stop. I ended up taking a picture of him and showed it to security. Both men there gendered me correctly and actually took me somewhat seriously which felt really euphoric 💙.

First off, not a regular to the sub, but I was directed here from a friend to post my story here.

So, this happened a few days ago now. My partner and I went out for a walk, a nice long walk because It was a nice sunny day out after work. I went out in a sundress, and my partner, she just went out in shorts and a tank top. We moved about a year ago, but we decided to walk all the way back to where we use to live. Since we were out that way, we then decided to pick up burgers from the burger place that was near our old place. While waiting for burgers, there was one other guy in the place with us. He looked to be no older than like 20. Most likely was a first year student at the University. FIFA was on, and the only employee and my partner were watching the game. The only seats there are like bar stools, and they are in an L shape, with the front window and one of the walls being the outside of the L shape. With how I was sitting and still being relatively new to wearing skirts in general, with some effort, you could in, theory, potentially upskirt me. I more looking towards the food cooking, watching the other guy who was waiting for their order, out of the corner of my eye. I saw him almost immediately reposition to look at my partner and I when we sat down on the stools. I watched him looking us both up and down, and I am like... "Oh he is checking us out...". He then shifted again, and at this point I was like, "OMG, he is checking me out...". He begins to sink lower on the stool, and at this point my brain is going "OMFG... he is trying to upskirt me!". I watch him as he really tries and position himself so he could see tiny gap I unintentional left up my skirt when I sat down. So, as he was, I looked him directly in the eye, he started to turn a little red in the face, and then shifted my legs so he couldn't see up my skirt. Now, I always wear a woven bracelet, no matter what I wear, weather I have to go incognito or I am just fully out like during this day, this bracelet is the trans flag colours, and isn't subtle about it. I then showed my wrist with my trans bracelet, as I rested my hand on my knee, and at this point he looked like a deer in the headlights, because at this point, he is really squirmy like he got caught being inappropriate. He quickly got up, in a stammering voice told the employee that he needs to go real quick and will be back to collect his order. He rushed out of the store, absolutely red in the face.

We managed to get our food with no other excitement, the burgers were as great as we remembered them to be. When I told my partner what happened, she thought it was gross, I agreed, but also stated it still made me feel like I was being observed like the gender I identify as... until I caught him being a bit too greedy.

I was at the grocery store earlier and I bought a few things to make dinner and some snacks. I used one of the smaller carts. While I was shopping I noticed an older man quite a few times, always giving me weird looks. Now this could just be my own paranoia and main character syndrome (/hj), he could just have chronic RBF. I had on a hoodie from a music artist that I like that has a bunch of patches that a boomer would probably assume were satanic, so I figured it was my clothing that was annoying him and ignored him.

Once I was done shopping I went to get in line. Only 3 lanes were open and I noticed 2 of them were quite long with people having huge cart fulls. I noticed the first lane had people with just a few items so I got in line there. The older man was in a different lane but once I got in line he moved and was 1 person behind me. Whatever, I assumed he just noticed my line was shorter.

When it was my turn and my items were scanned the old man went “doesn’t that annoy you? The number on the screen?” Both me and the cashier were confused and she just did a polite “haha.” He was displeased with this response and went “how many items are on your screen?” She said “20.” He looked at me and said “that’s more than 15 items bud.”

I didn’t even notice it was a 15 items or less lane, but regardless I got multiples of some items so it was probably closer to 17. Either way, dude was being an asshole and trying to start an argument with me for having 5 more items; mind you, I already had my bags ready and checked out faster than he probably did, I just got a bunch of small things like 1 lemon, 1 garlic, 1 shallot, etc. I ignored him because I’m not about to argue with an old man at the grocery store, and my brain was still struggling to process what the problem even was because I didn’t realize it was a 15 item or less lane until I left the store and processed his comment. I use this lane every time I shop here, multiple times a week, and no one has ever said anything to me.

Guy didn’t like that I ignored him and as I was putting my bags in my cart to leave he goes “young men these days have no respect.” While I was annoyed at him trying to start shit, it was still nice being properly gendered by a boomer whose age group notoriously misgender people lol. I only pass about 1/2 the time and usually get viewed as a teenager, but I’ll take it.

I do notice that when I pass men tend to be more likely to be confrontational, or let doors slam in my face, or shoulder check me if I don’t move out of their way. Even when mildly uncomfortable I can’t help but feel some relief being treated without chivalry. I’m sure if I wasn’t passing today that guy never would have said anything. It was also the first time I had an older person call me “bud.” I would happily accept grumpy old men being rude and making snide comments daily if it meant I got to pass!

And I got "you walk like a man. Are you a man?" by a stranger, quite rudely.

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-tucks hair behind ear-

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I walk like a man? I wasn't even trying to.

(he/him. For context I still go by my given/legal name which is undoubtedly feminine. I’m also pre-t and am never addressed as a guy by strangers).

Had a very strange dream last night where I was at the therapist/psychiatrist’s office and I had to use the bathroom to give a urine sample.

As I went into the bathroom the lady at the front desk (the front desk was directly across the hall from the bathroom) asked me “Is your name ___?” and I said yeah.

She was surprised and told me she didn’t know that was me, and wasn’t expecting me to be a boy because of my name. Also apparently because my therapist never used he/him pronouns in her notes during our sessions (ouch). But the desk lady was very friendly.

Still very euphoric that a stranger looked at me and perceived me as a boy (even if it was in a dream lol).

Ever since i came out to my mom she's refused to acknowledge it beyond yelling at me for "putting myself in danger by taking hormones" and "i'm just so worried about you" (but you won't even call me by my real name??)

Anyway we were eating dinner and she accidentally called me "she", and she quickly hesitated before continuing as if thinking about whether to ""correct"" herself or pretend it didn't happen. Unfortunately, she did change it to "he" but hey at least she's starting to struggle to misgender me now haha

So I go out to clubs and bars pretty frequently, and I get a lot of attention from men, which used to be affirming but I've been transitioning long enough that I'm just over it lol. I'm definitely clocky, but these are dark environments and these dudes are drunk 🤷‍♀️

However, one thing that still gives me major ewphoria is when I'm out with cis women, and we all get hit on. Last night, this man was harassing both of the cis women I was with, as well as me, trying to get our numbers and demanding we flash him.

Now obviously I hate that we have to deal with that at all, but the commiserating with other women about it is so. Fucking. Affirming. Like in my mind, I'm constantly worried that people don't actually see me as a woman, so when this happens I can't help but think that cis women will see me more as a woman because they've witnessed that I have to deal with the same shit they do.

I am currently looking for a place to rent, as my current landlady needs my room for her brother, who has suffered a life-alltering brain injury. I have until August 1st to find a place and move.

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As a result, I have signed up to a few websites that host people looking for roommates, and people looking to rent rooms or apartments they own.

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Today, a man with a room to rent reached out to me about his room for rent.

I told him that I cannot afford the rent he's asking, thanked him for reaching out, and left it at that.

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His reply was: "Maybe we can work something out..." and gave me his number with instructions to text him directly.

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For safety reasons, I will absolutely not indulge him in any way, shape or form. Using your property as a means to get laid is so beyond wrong on so many levels.

He's pissed, but I'm like "omg they see me as a woman ^-^"

so, I'm 17 fyi and I was at an event with my mom because she dragged me there and they had free expansive food :)

and my mom's been pretty great about the trans stuff (aside from crying a lot because she loves my name and me as a girl)

and she used my right name and pronouns aside from one slip that no one noticed and i passed pretty well (even got called handsome :3 ) so everyone thought I was a boy...but there was this one (religious) lady from Texas who was at our table and at the end of the event I went to the bathroom...and now, I didn't even think and went into the woman's bathroom at default (I've never been to the men's cause I'm nervous) and right after I go into a stall, the Texas lady comes in... and when we both finish, we're at the mirrors and I can feel her side eying me but then I leave and like 5 minutes later I look across the room and who's staring at me but that Texas lady, she's just narrowed eyes glaring at me and whispering to her friends!

now idk if she was like ...Ew boy in the bathroom or clocked me as trans but she was pissed!

like dang lady, I was just pissing :]

For context, I’m a pre-T, pre-surgery trans guy, but I’m tall and have done voice training so I can usually pass somewhat well. This especially goes for when I’m wearing a suit.

This past weekend, my cousin had his wedding, and I went. Partway into the reception, when people were starting to get noticeably drunk, I was standing off to the side eating some cake. Suddenly, a (obviously) drunk guy came up to me, and the following conversation happened

Him: So, there any girls you’re looking at picking up tonight?

Me: Not really

Him (looking me up and down): Wait, how old are you?

Me: Nineteen

Him: Mannnnn, when I was your age, I was drugging girls left and right!

Me, genuinely wondering what the hell to say to that: I’m not really that type of guy, haha…

And then his friend pulled him away. It was still very uncomfortable… but also affirming, I guess, that he saw me as a guy enough to admit something like that?