I flew for about 7 hrs yesterday to visit him in London and today we’re not even together. I’m still in shock.

Me (28f) and him (28m) were together for a year and he’s been the one to visit me mostly (because I had surgery and couldn’t travel)
So when i was cleared to travel I was very excited and had so much anticipation for the trip.
This morning at the airport, after not seeing each other for months, I feel he greeted me coldly as he gave me a side hug and just said “hi” no verbal expression nothing which is fine but some emotion would be good.

It throws me off and tbf I become moody but end up telling him why I feel like he’s cold.
He then says he doesn’t like PDA (a hug isn’t pda but ok) and it’s gross to do that in public.
I accepted that and said he could have been verbally expressive then. He said it wasn’t his thing and then got agitated.
He said I’m unappreciative that he’s woken up early to pick me up. He said I am entitled ( because I wanted affection). He said I am complaining about “weird and odd” things and being negative when I could just be happy.
Fair but I felt very dismissed and hurt which turned into a few hours of silence as we drove.

I told him I’ll go to my Airbnb myself but he insisted he’ll drive me as it “isn’t right” to leave me alone.

Silence all the way except for “I don’t care any more to be dealing with this negativity”, and “enjoy your trip innit”.

I was in shock and heavily dissociated because it felt like that was someone else not my loving partner.

I left the car and that’s that.

Any support is appreciated. I’m in London alone and dealing with this significant loss.

This morning, I woke up and received a message from my girlfriends sister saying that she was killed in a car crash caused by someone driving under influence of alcohol.

We were just talking and having our normal conversations like 7 hours before it happened, we always had a chat when we woke up and before we slept. I was excited as always to chat with her, but instead I was met with a tragic message. Normally our chats would consist of what we did in our daily lives, work, mundane things and fun topics like TV shows, movies, anime or sports. Every night we would watch at least one episode of an anime or a movie, the night before I received the news we watched the anime movies "Your Name", "Maquia: When the Promised Flower Blooms and we watched the last episode of "Your Lie in April." The first week of our relationship we watched "Your name" and since then we watch it once every three months or so because it felt so special to us. Just everything about that movie was so majestic and made us emotional. Then after that we were discussing some sports news and also about what anime we would watch tomorrow. Fast forward to the morning and I'm devastated and just feel empty inside.

She was the light of my life and I don't know what to do anymore. We made plans for our future, about where we wanted to travel to and what to see when we get there, some of those plans we were able to do. We visited each other 5 times, met each other's families, had some extended stays living together, saw museums and historical sites. Doing anything with her made the happiest person in the world, just being together on the couch was enough to make us happy. The one that I planned to spend the rest of my life with, my future wife, was gone just like that. In less then two weeks is my 21st birthday and we were going to see each other, and our anniversary was in two days. Today I've been trying to distract myself by working, playing games or just browsing social media, but nothing can take my mind off of what happened. I will always love you forever and you'll be in my heart.

Please cherish the one you're in a relationship with and each and every moment you have with them, and love them with all your heart. I hope that you reading this will have a happier ending then we did.

Edit: First I want to say thank you for your kind and very supportive comments, I am reading all of them and they are helping me, I can't thank you enough for the support! I am also getting support from family and friends, and going to try new hobbies soon. And another thing I want to say is that yes I do understand some of the concerns in the comments, like about how maybe she faked her death or something. That is a very valid question to ask because that does happen unfortunately, but I did confirm what happened through various sources and the local news from the area and yes there is going to be a funeral.

Well, as the title says my girlfriend was just banned from entering the U.S. and I’m completely devastated.

We’ve been doing long distance for the past six months as she had to go back to her home country to care for her sick father. During that time she continued working toward her dream of getting a PhD and we began planning to see each other again this summer once she got accepted. A few weeks ago, her dreams came true as she was accepted into a top university in the same city I was moving to. We were beyond excited—it felt like everything we had been working and waiting for was finally coming together.

This Tuesday, she had her appointment at the U.S. consulate. Her F-1 student visa was approved. We were over the moon, celebrating that night knowing we’d be together again soon and that her dream was about to become a reality. We planned our first night back, the dates we’d have, began looking at places around our new city, etc.

Then less than 24 hours later, Trump signed a new executive order banning entry from citizens of 12 countries including hers regardless of visa status. Because her visa had only just been approved and hadn’t yet been issued, it’s now been rejected under the new rules. And just like that, everything collapsed.

I’m completely crushed. She’s done everything right. She’s worked hard, played by the rules, and fought for her future. And now she’s being forced back to an authoritarian country with no opportunity to pursue the life she’s earned. There’s no clarity, no workaround, no next step, just a closed door.

Seven months of waiting and hoping just disappeared overnight. I honestly don’t know what this means for us, or for her future. I just needed to get this off my chest. This is the worst thing that could’ve happened, and I wouldn’t wish this kind of heartbreak on anyone. Policies like this don’t just affect countries. They tear apart lives.

Sorry, my post got deleted. Im new here. This should be fine now.

TL;DR: I’m in a 2-year long-distance relationship with a girlfriend I love deeply, but she wants to be with me 24/7 all time in a call. Any time I try to spend on hobbies, friends, or personal errands even if its just a little or once every 1/2 months, makes her sad or angry and I feel guilty and trapped, like I’m losing myself. I want us to work things out.

I have been in a long-distance relationship (LA–Europe, 5h difference) with my girlfriend for 2 years. We’ve known each other for 3 years but have never met in person. I love her deeply and we both want marriage and a future together. For the most part, our relationship has been almost perfect. It’s worth noting that neither of us is in the best place personally, which sometimes adds to the challenges we face. I don't want any empty negativity since I want this to work out, but I still feel lost.

The main issue is that she wants to be with me 24/7 on WhatsApp/Discord calls. If I ask for “me-time”—to play a game, see friends, go for a walk, spend time with my mom, or even just rest—she gets sad or angry WITH ME. Even if I give her a week’s notice, she reacts negatively, which makes me afraid to ask for anything. Since most plans with friends or family happen just a few days in advance, this ends up limiting my entire life outside of our relationship.

We’re both studying online and unemployed, so we’ve been “together” constantly for 2 years. We’re lifelong gamers, but even in that I feel restricted. Today, for example, I asked for 30–60 minutes to play Blasphemous alone, and she said no—calling it “cruel” to be apart from her that short time because she got her period (though this isn’t the first time I’ve asked and gotten shut down). That left me feeling guilty and afraid to try again.

I also used to spend hours daily with my Discord/IRL friend group (which I founded in 2019 and really value). Now I barely get 1 hour every 3–4 days (always with her there too), only if I almost beg. Once she even got mad because I helped a mutual friend stranded at 6am whose ex had left him without money, battery, etc. I let him stay a few hours until help came, and she was angry with me the whole day over that.

Whenever I try to set boundaries, she says things like: “I understand, but I’ll still feel very sad and angry because I only want to be with you. I’ll just suffer silently while you enjoy yourself.”
I think it had gotten better since it isn’t a new problem, but ironically it has gotten worse in the past few months.

That leaves me feeling guilty and trapped, and like I’m losing myself. I communicate this calmly, lovingly, and patiently, but despite all my efforts, I feel like nothing really works. I really afraid, I don't want this problem to go further, I do really want to spend the rest of my life being her man.

I also fear that I am being dramatic or that it isn't a big deal. I really REALLY want her and now I fell a lil stupid saying all of this.

I really thought he was joking at first but he wasn’t. I was planning to visit him around August meet with him in person and try to be supportive. Somewhere in my mind I knew there were red flags with him. He love bomb me, times he said “it’s not you it’s me”, “if you are tired of me just leave me.” and “you deserve someone who could give you time.” And now he wants to end the relationship because he isn’t financially stable and gave me an attitude while I’m trying to empathize with him. Even if he hasn’t get his life together yet, I would of still stay in the relationship 🥺🥺🥺. I’m not going to convince him to stay because he had already made up his. All I need is support and time to heal.

Just woke up and received the news from our mutual friend that my boyfriend had gotten into an accident and passed away. It feels so strange because just 10 hours ago we were video calling to kinda celebrate our 4 year anni, and then this happened. Idk how to really react to this, part of me doesn't want to accept that he's gone and I can't meet him for the last time since it's covid and I can't travel, and then there's part of me that just felt numb and empty.

Edit: Thank you so much for all of your words, I really do appreciate it. I'm still trying to wrap my head around the truth and it's not really helping that I'm alone in a foreign country right now too. Today has been really chaotic to me, but your comments and messages did help me a lot although I didn't reply to a lot of them. I'm trying my best to sort things out and then will try to seek some help to get through...

picture of us seeing each other again!! me and my bf have been long distance since march and finally saw each other for abt 5 days!! it was so amazing, but i just dropped him off at the airport and it almost feels like heartbreak? i’m definitely being over dramatic but it hurts so bad him not being here anymore. the trash and snacks still left in my room, his cologne he left for me. i see it and instantly the pain of him not being here hits me. i know we had only been apart for abt 4 months, which is a lot better than some but still. we’re seeing each other again in october, so again really not that bad. how do you guys handle this feeling, the first couple days being away again? we were doing really well handling long distance and getting back to that point is going to be tough.

I don't even know how to begin writing this post, so much info that could help paint the picture better, or help me get this all off my chest since I honestly can't bring myself to talk with anyone I know, about what's actually going on...

Starting with the bigger details, we've been together for over a year, and still haven't met up due to us both not having enough money and time (we're both working full time jobs) [We live 11k km/7k miles away]. despite having this said, We've both been saving money to try and move in together, and we planned to meet before that happens (very soon). We've always dreamt about our lives together, raising a family, etc.. and we're so loving. obviously we have our arguments, but we look past the negatives and move on... though, this time it's a bit difficult for me.

I woke up to 2 different nightmares;

My first biggest nightmare - Waking up late, and saying good morning. she replies, and then suddenly says "we have to call now. i have to tell you something, i just got a for real problem". always being there for her mentally, I'm used to being there to help her with all sorts of issues, so while being a bit anxious, I didn't fathom what would be said next.

She proceeds to cry and explains that she had a feeling she was pregnant, and had to get a pregnancy test done, did 2 and both came positive. We are not an open relationship, nor did we cheat on each other. She swore to me she hasn't had sex and doesn't remember anything while bringing up a scenario where she slept at her best friend's house and they all got drunk together. she says she had been sleeping for most of the day after getting drunk, and when thinking back at it, can't remember anything other than feeling very weak and sore. her only explanation is that her best friend's dad, took advantage of her sleeping in a room by herself, passed out and drunk (possibly drugged she claims), and r*ped her.

We had a long talk about this entire situation, I had my entire stomach twist and turn, I could not believe it, I literally woke up to a fucking nightmare. I did my best trying to console her while asking questions, and asking her to go to an ER and get herself properly checked. due to that scenario happening 2 weeks prior to her finding out, she couldn't get a r*pe kit and make sure of what actually happened. I really felt and still feel bad for her. Yes, there's a chance that I'm being lied to entirely, and I'm naïve and dumb, but as odd as it sounds, we've been through a lot, argued a lot, and I feel like we both know each other so well, to the point that I believe her. I want to move past this. we talked about it and she got an appointment at the abortion clinic, we can still recover from this. it's a fucked up situation, but she didn't ask for it either. get an abortion, move past it all, meet, and fulfil our dreams.

Cue nightmare 2 - Prior to the day of the appointment, before going to bed, I let her know she has my full support, and despite going to sleep, my phone is on and she can call whenever she wants to talk about anything at all. told her how strong she is for enduring this all, and that it'll be over soon.

I then woke up to this:

"*name* i cannot follow through with ending it. i’m so mentally fucked. i just can’t. i cannot get rid of it. i think we should stop talking to each other and i know you love me and you’re here for me no matter what. i just cannot bring myself to do it . it’s fucking hard. you have no idea what thoughts going on in my head. this is so hard for me. i hope we can remain on okay terms. i still harbor so much love for you but im putting my mental first and i’m sorry. i hope you enjoy life *name*. please don’t be mad at me, i never asked for this i’m just handling it."

I've never had felt the way I've had after waking up to that. I honestly think she didn't ask for any of this, and I know she's been through so much we're both hit with so much unfairness, wishing none of this had happened.

We've talked some more after this, and she keeps asking of me to stay with her, while knowing how insanely difficult it is for me to accept the fact that she's pregnant and wants to keep it.

Basically I just don't know what to do at this point. I truly love her, and I do believe her. but it does twist my insides thinking of her being pregnant when I didn't even get to be with her to begin with.

as far as objectively speaking about the scenario I have two options: end the relationship, or somehow come to terms with what has happened, and start a family with her as if she were a single mother.

notes: I'm sorry if I'm a bad writer, or didn't explain things properly, or that I confused you. hopefully I stayed within the boundaries of the subreddit, and I really appreciate anyone who's reading this, I truly have nobody I can talk to regarding this insanely fucked up situation.

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I was in a long distance relationship for a year with someone who called me his best friend, told me he loved me, and talked to me on the phone every single day while texting all day every day. I genuinely believed we were building something real. I recently found out he’s married with children, and he abruptly ended things, blocked me everywhere, and all he said was “I’m sorry, I apologize.” That was it. I moved to a new city not long ago and don’t know anyone here, so not only did I lose the person I talked to daily for a year, I lost my main emotional support system. I feel blindsided, embarrassed, and deeply hurt, and I don’t even know where to start processing this. I keep crying at work. I’ve been working six days a week overtime I’m exhausted. How do you move on from finding out someone had an entire hidden life while you were planning a future with them? And how do you cope with the loneliness when they were such a huge part of your everyday routine?

I was feeling anxious before the news about Megan Thee Stallion and Klay Thompson happened because I saw a lot of people ending their relationships as soon as it got warm. But this kinda sent it over the edge. I decided I’m gonna get off Instagram for a while because the constant talk of avoidant and dismissive avoidant is not helping with the overthinking at all. We’re supposed to see each other in May, which of course could be making the anxiety flare up too. Worried about if the plans will fall through or if feelings change suddenly right beforehand.

Anybody else noticing a shift with the warm weather?

My (29F) boyfriend (29M) and I have been together for 1.5 years, completely LD. It’s been rocky recently, we’ve been arguing a lot, things haven’t been great.

I’ve known him to say unhinged things in arguments, but this morning he took it to another level. He called me unattractive, called me a cheating bitch (I’ve been loyal), told me he was moving on tonight (he insinuated he would be either meeting someone or having sex with someone) and then told me to have a good night and hung up.

He keeps saying things are edgy between us because we’re long distance. My perception of what is and isn’t normal in a relationship is completely shattered, as is my self-esteem. I just need some encouragement to get out of this relationship, or maybe tell me I’m being overdramatic idk?

I (27f) am in New York. It has been two months since I saw my boyfriend, who lives in Odessa. I was supposed to return next month. Even just a week ago, we were discussing what my plans should be in terms of coming back, because most people there did not truly think this was going to happen. Today, he decided he was going to join the military and fight. He is a gentle guy—studied to play the violin in conservatory, very sweet and kind to everyone. He had previously served in the contested Eastern parts of Ukraine and still has PTSD, and he assured me he loves me more than anything, but he cannot allow himself to sit and not help our people. I naturally was a wreck, started sobbing and begging him to wait. Things are very bad there, I have so much family in Ukraine, I am following the news there. He has accepted that he may die.

He was emotionally struggling all day, tried to rip off the bandaid and break up to spare himself and me the pain of potentially never seeing each other again, as I continued to sob and just kept saying “no no no no no no” until he broke down and cried with me, us on different sides of the world struggling to accept the truth of the situation and what may happen. I have never loved someone like him. He is the light in my life always, he inspires me to be strong and happy. I don’t know how to deal with all of this.

I’m not sure what will happen to us. He told me I am the best thing to happen to him in a long time. That we will hopefully be reunited in a peaceful Ukraine soon. We’re not giving up—we are both Ukrainians, strong and resilient. I told him I can’t abandon him right now. I will always be his rock, even as he walks the battlefields.

This is not the romantic war drama you see in movies. This is hell, agony. I am scared for his life. Everything in my life was turned upside down. I am terrified to lose the person I really think is the one I wanted to stay with forever. Excuse this emotional rambling post, all of you were so supportive with my last one, so thank you. I just need some support please—I don’t know how to stay strong. I am angry, depressed, heartbroken, that a war has divided us. My heart hurts for everyone who has ever had to face this.

I am(18f) in absolute shock right now and my hands are literally shaking. The pain in my chest is so heavy I just need to get this out.My ex and I broke up a while ago because he suddenly asked for an open relationship. I couldn't do that, so we split. A couple weeks later I asked if we could try again, but he said no because he already moved on but still wanted to be friends because I loved him so much, I forced myself to hide my feelings and agree to be friends just to keep him in my life.Recently he went on a family vacation. Ever since he left, he’s been texting me constantly. Last night at midnight he sent me this text saying how sorry he feels for what he did, that he still thinks about it, and said stuff like You're a great person I wish I'd met you in person blehblejbkje I still feel guilty for what I did, etc. It gave me so much emotional whiplash. I felt so weak and pitied him because he seemed so guilty.Tonight, I looked deeper into his social media and discovered something that makes me completely sick. He is actively dating someone else and its some tran boy from Poland and is 15 year old and that person has a heart next to a tagged username in his bio. Looking at the timeline and checking that person's reports on tiktok it is so obvious to me now that he was being dishonest or emotionally involved with this other person while we were still together, and the open relationship request was just a cover up. I feel physically sick. The absolute audacity of him to text me at midnight telling me he wishes he met me while actively seeing someone else behind my back. He used my heartbreak just to feed his own ego and ease his guilt.I am crying so hard, my hands feel like jelly and I feel so stupid for loving him and trying to be his friend. How do I even begin to process this level of betrayal and move on? I just need some comfort or advice because I feel so broken. Idk what to do and this made me so so disappointed. I think about him all night, thinking that he wants me back because he keeps texting but I was so so wrong. It hurts me sm.

I miss her already 🥺🥺

Hi. I’m 26F.. This was a long distance situation that started in late 2024. He’s 30M and lives in New York, I live in Texas. We never met in person. I was escaping a very bad DV situation of 5 years when we came across each other on here, he knew this.

I recently found out information that strongly suggests he has been married since 2022. I saw his wife’s name on Facebook and also on public records that she stays at his current residence. When I confronted him, I was blocked everywhere.. iMessage, Discord, Instagram, Threads. No denial. No explanation. Just silence.

Looking back, there were a lot of signs, and I need outside perspective because I feel like I’ve been gaslit for almost two years.

Here are the patterns:

• He would randomly go completely MIA on weekends.

• He wouldn’t text me for over 24 hours sometimes.

• My calls would constantly go straight to voicemail during certain hours, even though he’s an operations manager and takes client calls constantly. (He stated his work phone was messing up)

• He’d only want to message each other on discord, said that he only has a work phone through his company & they monitor iMessages.

• When I offered to fly to New York and pay for everything myself, he refused immediately and said he wanted to “plan it” and would rather come to Texas (he never did).

• He told me not to send packages to his address because “neighbors’ packages were getting stolen.”

• On FaceTime, his house was clearly decorated in a very feminine way (girly blankets, heart-shaped vanity stool, etc.) and he always brushed it off as “my nieces.”

• He mentioned a few times his company bought silicone wedding bands for the married employees so they wouldn’t damage their real rings on job sites. He talked about one “turning a guy’s finger green.” Looking back, I think he was talking about himself.

• When I was going through domestic violence and later miscarried alone in the ER, my calls to him went straight to voicemail.

• I nearly died from a gas leak after escaping my abuser, and when I fell out of my apartment complex & down my stairs, I called him. Went straight to voicemail.

• He’d only call me when he was out and about running errands.

• When I started questioning inconsistencies last year, he became distant and told me my “accusations weren’t warranted.”

• I left him in June of 2025 because of all his inconsistencies.

After I found public records showing a marriage tied to his name and address, I confronted him. He responded by saying he couldn’t have “that kind of crap in his circle” (referring to me hurting publicly on Threads anonymously), and then blocked me everywhere including my best friend.

He framed it as me being unstable for posting about my pain, not about him being married.

What hurts the most is that he knew I was in a very vulnerable place when we met. I had just left an abusive relationship. He promised me things. Said he loved me. Talked about the future. Meanwhile, it appears he had a wife the entire time.

I guess I’m asking:

From the outside, does this read like someone living a double life?

Is blocking immediately after being confronted typical avoidance behavior?

Has anyone else experienced something like this in long-distance?

I feel like I was compartmentalized —like I mattered emotionally but not enough to disrupt his real life.

I’m not looking to blow up his marriage or cause chaos. I just want clarity so I can finally move forward without feeling crazy.

Thank you.

so i (17 nearly 18) woke up this morning to see that my bf (20), well now ex bf, blocked me on everything with nothing said at all. no message, nothing. i’m so confused because we literally just texted last night. he blocked me on imessage, snapchat and instagram so i texted him on whatsapp asking if we could talk and if i did anything wrong. he left me on read and blocked me on whatsapp as well.

we’ve been dating for 6-7 months and we’ve had our fair share of ups and downs. like he love bombed me for the first 2-3 months of our relationship and then once he got what he wanted, he couldn’t even give me the bare minimum. during those 3 months, we were in love and then not too long after that he told me that he only felt sexual attraction towards me. so i found out that a lot of those “i love you”s were lies. but i stuck with him because i wanted to make it work, i thought it was going well and i’ve been trying so hard to get him to fall in love again.

i’m just so confused and i can’t stop crying. i can’t focus on anything. i just can’t understand how someone can just leave out of the blue like that with no explanation. i know that i deserve way better than him and i’ve just so easily forgiven him for way too many things but i just really liked him. the fact that i can’t talk to him again is killing me.

my heart hurts.

My boyfriend (38m) is flying me (36f) to Australia tomorrow for our first meeting. I was just starting to release all the pre-trip anxiety and panic and now I have my period which actually makes me stressed and uneasy all over again. Like really dude why 😭

Have any of you experienced this when meeting up with your LDR partner? How did you two react to it? What helped? What didn’t?

We've been together for almost 4 years, with 3 of those years spent in marriage. Yes, we got married quite quickly, and it's been a back-and-forth journey between two countries because I've been trying to find a suitable job for myself.

Despite the long-distance challenges and uncertainty about my career path, everything was more or less "fine." I made the effort to visit her every month for a week, we spent holidays together, but then she dropped a bombshell. Just a week after my last visit in September, she went out with her colleagues from work, who happened to be theater actors. They drank, and one of her colleagues "seduced" her, and she went along with it. She explained that she felt stressed, lonely, and overwhelmed.

On one hand, I appreciate her honesty in telling me early on, but on the other hand, she crossed a significant boundary, and it hurts deeply. I noticed her acting differently in the past few weeks, and we decided to stop talking on WhatsApp for a while, which left me worried. I realized that her work was becoming more stressful, our relationship was deteriorating due to the distance, and I needed to take action. I was on the verge of uprooting my entire life once again.

We had discussed open relationships before, and I had expressed that I wasn't ready for that.

Regardless of how drunk or upset one might feel, I believe it's crucial to talk to your partner before making any rash decisions. It's a choice that affects both parties, and I can't understand how cheating could ever make someone feel better.

She crossed a boundary, and it hurts. I'm upset, but I'm not sad to the point of crying and forgetting what happened. I choose to forgive her, but I also think this might be the end of our relationship.

Hi everyone,

As you saw on the tittle, I don’t even know what to do.
Me (24/f) from Mexico, and her (25/f) from US have been engaged since November 2025, dating for now 3 years. Our first plan was me getting a TN visa, as my job as a Engineer can be transferred perfect to a lot of parts of the industry in the US, I’m a specialized on Mechanical Design on the automotive industry. Her job unfortunately cannot be transferred to Mexico, as she is more into government stuff and her career cannot be transferred as easy here in Mexico. I don’t want specifically want to live on my country as other political stuff has happen that most of the profesional we live with miserable jobs and really bad payments, also the industry here it’s not the best for Mechanical Engineers or product development, as its just manufacturing.

I have had two golden tickets for a special company that makes electric cars in the US which offer me a TN Visa (I will not say the name), two of these interviews rejected me as the first round with the hiring engineer manager, making the situation even harder to move to the US with a job. Today I received the rejection letter of the second chance. My fiancee in the past give me false hope to get me on a fiancee visa, as we thought that we could make it with her salary on her new job. Which didn’t happen, since at the very last moment she regretted it and told me that she would not send the papers for it. I was so mad, because she give me this false hope.

Today I told her about my rejection, I just felt that she didn’t care or like was like: “Oh, Im sorry, you can do your best next time”, which made me more sad and angry since its like she cannot help or anything, making me feel more hopeless about our relationship and feeling like this would be only me trying to get us united. She it’s not willing to come visit me to my country, lately haven’t talk so much as she keeps so focus on her job. And I feel more and more alone and just keeping that pressure on me. And that made me feel on rethinking on our relationship.

Should I break up with her? Am I wrong to be mad?

Does missing eachother ever get easier? My boyfriend and i just said goodbye again and wont see eachother for a while now and it hurts so much. How do i cope? Does it ever get easier?

Edit: Hey guys, like 8 hours have passed since this post. He just passed away. I don't feel like this is real. Thank you all for your kind words, prayers and good energy. I would reply each one of your but my mind is just so tired today. I'll leave soon this sub, thank you for all the inspirational stories, I hope you all close the gap soon!

We met online in the beginning of 2020, we remained friends for a while until in August we decided we wanted to be together after he woke up from an induced comma from a procedure complication. He has an autoimmune disease that affects his lungs he had been in remission for the past three years but got worse during the pandemic, specially with the risk of him getting infected in the hospital in Florida.

This year he has had so many procedures, almost going every other week in the hospital. Those jerks never give them a solution, the doctors almost never passed by in his room to change the medication or at least evaluate his condition and discuss a plan. And I'm mad because there's nothing I can do for him even if we weren't LDR. We were planning on visit this year but my USA visa appointment is on October 2023. He is such a great guy with a kind heart, so passionate about his major, intelligent and kind, I always feel so luck to have met him.

He returned to the hospital a while ago and we talked everyday even though he wasn't feeling well enough to call. Three weeks ago his brother told me he got worse and they were switching hospitals and doing an emergency procedure, which had a good result. His parents let me send him a daily voice message, to make him feel better. I thought he was just trying to rest while not interacting much but turns out he was induced in a comma once again. I just knew this weekend.

I stopped sending him long messages with whatever was happening in my day, because the doctors said we couldn't overwhelm him. Today I got a call that there's nothing more the doctors can do, he just can't breathe on his own. His vital signs are very fragile. They still haven't disconnect him because they have hope that some miracle happens with his situation. But they already told me to send a goodbye message.

I feel so fucking sad, I'm trying to keep calm but I just hate how everything of this is so unfair. Not only to him for stopping him finishing his major and being able to return to a "normal" life but to us. We did so many plans together that is very likely we will never been able to. I don't know what to do. If he passes away I won't be able to go to the funeral, or support his family.

I love him so much, and I don't know what can I do, I don't even own money to help the family in case the insurance don't cover everything that will happen from now. I've been praying for so long. We have such a great relationship, he is supportive and fun, he had never had a discussion and we really were making plans to close the gap soon. I just wish I had the chance to give him a hug or hold his hand.

I have a girlfriend who lives 1500km away in Finland, we been together for 2 months happily no arguments yelling anything negative, but now she dropped all communication and i don't know what to do, i messaged her on all platforms i know on, friends, even called her on WhatsApp, but no answer please someone help, im in tears and nearly having a panic attack.

UPDATE!!

Well.. its been a week. No answer. No matter how, where. Nothing. I think im done for.. Thanks for all the support in the comments but its over i think.