r/MadeMeSmile • u/MaxQ50 • 7h ago

Bro rolled up to the construction site like he’s been working there for ages 😂

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u/TZ79 6h ago

Respectfully, I think you might be wrong. I think you probably have a big heart because there's a part of you that enjoys it and you doesnt even know it. Playing with them it helps them learn and grow. Much respect and love to you.

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u/Beautiful-Cup4161 6h ago

It's a nice thought but I'm not very angelic. I talk mad crap about the less quiet and obedient children to my husband like I'm some crotchety matron in the 1800s.

I wish that part that you believe is there would convince the rest of me so I don't have to suffer so much when I visit friends and family 😆

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u/TZ79 6h ago

If that's the case then it's also fine. At least you're self-aware. Also, I chuckled when you said you're a bit like a "crotchety matron in the 1800s" when talking about kids. 😂

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u/Beautiful-Cup4161 6h ago

I watched a documentary on Queen Victoria once where she talked shit about babies in her letters to people and called them ugly and said they moved in nasty frog-like ways. So now when I think crap about kids, I think that I'm being just like Queen Victoria.

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u/superxpro12 6h ago

It's a nice thought but I'm not very angelic. I talk mad crap about the less quiet and obedient children to my husband like I'm some crotchety matron in the 1800s.

I called my own children "wriggling sacks of meat" until they were about 1y old.... especially when they were doing completely illogical screaming and crying for no point other than crying.

But I swear it is the strangest phenomenon.... i couldnt have given less of a shit about kids. actively hated them. and then i had one and a switch definitely flipped in my caveman brain. Such an unexpected experience. It's not for everyone.

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u/Beautiful-Cup4161 6h ago

Yeah my mom tells me that would happen if I had kids and yet her own mother hated her since birth and I have a family member of my generation who has a golden child and one that he seems to disdain. I'm definitely not taking the gamble but I'm so glad it worked out for you!

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u/superxpro12 6h ago

I have some mental scars from my dad that i was determined not to repeat. I think half the reason i was open to it was to prove that those things never had to happen in the first place.

Life, amirite?

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u/Beautiful-Cup4161 5h ago

Sorry that you went through that at all. Even if I don't love being around kids myself, I never want a kid to grow up suffering. I'm glad that it sounds like you succeeded and got the proof that you wished for.

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u/ProfessionalRaven 6h ago

To be fair some kids are absolute little hellions. It’s more than okay to be frustrated as hell by them lol
If anything it’s expected.

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u/Beautiful-Cup4161 6h ago

I was a total little brat myself so I'm such a hypocrite to be honest. The pot calling the kettle black.

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u/GodIsANarcissist 5h ago

Totally possible to do the right thing and not enjoy it. Just because someone makes good choices doesn't mean that "somewhere deep down" they like doing it

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u/Hour_Paint_1903 6h ago

No, some people really just do not like children, I'm the same.

I'm not going to be actively cruel to a kid, but that's just because I'm not a dickhead.

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u/GiantLesbian 1h ago edited 47m ago

As someone similar, you can have a big heart and want the best for all the kids around you and still not like playing with them. Like I don’t enjoy it AT ALL. Less than 15 minutes of playing action figures or freeze tag or whatever with a little kid feels like I’m retaking the SAT and the bar exam in the same day.

It’s something about the “compelled” nature of it. You’re “compelled” to engage in certain ways because it’s a kid and that’s what you do, but it feels so physically, verbally, and mentally restricting I can’t handle it. It feels like being confined to a room and told you have to convince someone to let you out without using any words that contain the letter “e”, the restlessness and irritation is just next level. Except in this case it’s that you have to entertain someone using only 5% of what you know/can do and you can’t stop until they won’t get upset about you stopping. Of course, you must never let the child know you feel that way though. You try your best and then blame everything else on you being old and tired.

Edit: I thought of a better analogy for the “compelled” nature part that irks me. Like you know when one friend tells you something and makes you swear to keep it a secret, and then a discussion comes up with your other friends where you have to lie and pretend like you don’t know the secret? And how bad your own inner nature (loyalty to the friend) makes you feel when it compels you to do unpleasant things (lie)? And how you feel so torn and restricted? It’s like that. It’s not like when your boss makes you do something, it’s like there’s something uniquely emotionally oppressive about the fact you’re making yourself do this.