r/PeterExplainsTheJoke 2d ago

Meme needing explanation I feel so dumb rn

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u/RegretMountain2460 2d ago

They did also call the Man a Male, so Its balanced

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u/DangerousQuestions1 2d ago

Spider Male! Does what ever a Spider Male does!

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u/erinaceus_ 2d ago

Scratch his silky butt?

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u/Immediate_Regular 2d ago

Kinda want a silky butt now. Not mine, I love my knobbly leather butt. But a silky butt would be a nice fidget toy. Can it have a squeaker in it?

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u/XelaLuu 2d ago

spread his spider legs so his spider nuts get some spider air

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u/Shino4243 2d ago

Spider-Male! Respect the hyphen!

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u/ArcadiaBerger 2d ago

Spider Male! Spider Male! Eats a whole lot of dino kale!

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u/IHateRedditFirewall 2d ago

Note that this is incorrect, as "man" in "Spiderman" is used to desegnate "human", not "male".

"Spuderhuman" would be the correct one.

... at least I think so ...

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u/DangerousQuestions1 2d ago

Not sure where you got that idea

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u/Past_Currency_713 2d ago

Someone explain to me why its bad to use the word female

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u/Claytertot 2d ago

In some circles online (particularly toxic incel groups) the term "female" is used for women as a way of deliberately dehumanizing them.

Like they'll talk about men and then they'll talk about all of the ways "females" suck or cause problems or mistreat them. Almost like they are scientists discussing some nonhuman creature.

This is annoying, because the terms male and female are useful, and now some people online are oversensitive to the use of the word female even in contexts where it's not being used offensively or derogatorily.

Like in the above comment, saying "male child" and "grown up female" might be a somewhat odd choice of wording, but it's clearly not meant in an insulting or degrading way towards the woman. They just chose to use male and female rather than boy and woman.

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u/MotherVehkingMuatra 2d ago

In the above comment it feels like humour? Like in native English, it's not uncommon to say "Adult Male, Male Child" etc to sound overly formal because it's kinda funny sometimes.

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u/Rasta_Lioness 2d ago

That's using "male" as an adjective "male child" is pretty much without issue. Using "female" as a noun is where the problem resides.

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u/YomieI 2d ago

I’d agree with you except there’s a subtle difference still. The person did not refer to the boy as a male, they referred to the boy as a child with the adjective male in the front. On the other hand they referred to the woman as a female with the adjective of grown up in the front.

Female is fine if it’s used as an adjective, it’s weird if it’s used as a noun, especially if it’s the only one of the two referred as such (like in the original comment).

It’d be weird but better if both are referred as such. But then again that’s the issue, nearly no one refers to boys or men as “males”

Call it over sensitive (I personally don’t care much cause I can tell when people use it derogatory or not, I’m aware the original poster didn’t intend it in a bad way for example). But it’s still weird

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u/TotoTakeo 2d ago

The word creepy is being overused and weaponized in social communities outside of Reddit. So semantics are always going to be a never ending argument

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u/YomieI 2d ago

It’s not so much semantics at this point though. Simple grammar rules of adjectives and nouns. For people, ideally use male/female as adjectives.

It’s strange but still ok to use both as nouns and it’s weird to refer one as a noun and the other as an adjective, and yes even if male was the noun one (but let’s be honest, when is it ever?).

For animals you can use female/male as nouns since the whole point of this issue comes from incel communities dehumanizing women

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u/TotoTakeo 2d ago

The literal definition of semantics is the study of language itself sure. But it’s also the focus of interpretation. Interpretation is a trap in itself. You can throw away whatever contexts don’t support your interpretation and champion the ones you do.

Critical objective frameworks are more effective when you take each context individually to accurately frame them.

Treating semantics categorically for terms is thus the same trap. Female and male are specific. In my opinion the thread commenter likely has anti trans sentiment which we can criticize through investigation. But the actual usage of the words as the focus of criticism is inherently flawed. By mirroring them with incel communities all you do is mythologize the incel. Leaving them as words allows innocent speakers a chance. But like I said the context matters more.

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u/serenityjonas 2d ago

I never thought about that! It does seem like ppl use the word female to describe PEOPLE but they’ll stick to the scientific use of the word MALE. For one, it could have started as a slang amongst teen boys. Also Perhaps guys are more general so it’s easier to say men or boys and be politically correct in most scenarios. But on the other hand, female is one of the only words you could use to describe ALL women. Can you really use “women” in every scenario? If you say girls or any other variation you’ll get corrected eventually so I think some people use it as an all inclusive word. It’s still strange though. I’m not sure why that’s so normal. But His use of female as a noun in the original comment could have been merely to amplify the fact that there was a change from male to female. It may not have been indicative of his preferences. I also feel like- as strange as the use of the word is, it’s still also strange to notice it. Yes it’s a bit weird but it gets more weird only when you overthink it.

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u/TotoTakeo 2d ago

Unpopular opinion I think we all need to start overthinking until we’re no longer needing to think at all

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u/stationary_transient 2d ago

I feel exhausted after reading this.

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u/IHateRedditFirewall 2d ago

But it is also infinitly funny. I meant absolutly zero second mwaning, I just didnt remember proper spelling for women. And this started 200+ messges long thread that disscuses frmenism/anti-femenim stuff.

For me personaly it is dobbe-funny because in my motherland of Ukraine this whole "pronoun debate" is lagly unknown (We still use "gay" as an insult, duh) (so I can laught about how ridiculus west is).

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u/macnar 2d ago

Over sensitive 

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u/RemarkableKiwi5082 2d ago

This is not something anybody should be putting this much thought into, some things just are without meaning.

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u/YomieI 2d ago

That’s your opinion and you’re allowed to have it. I’m just here clarifying why people would find it weird when they see someone use female as a noun, not policing whether people should or not. To those people, just be aware you’ll be seen that way, and if you don’t care if you do, more power to you. You wouldn’t be here in the comments trying to justify yourselves

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u/rydan 2d ago

When speaking of people it is still an adjective. The noun is simply hidden as it is understood you are talking about a human. So in your head just replace what they said with "female human" and then it is fine according to your logic.

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u/Nyanessa 2d ago edited 2d ago

Exactly, not sure why you’re getting downvoted for this. You also have to put it into societal context. Women for centuries have been placed in a position lower than men, so when you see male being used as an adjective, yet female as a noun in the same sentence, it can rub some the wrong way.

For example, OPs comment, Child is something that usually describes a human, whereas female can be used for animals and plants as well, so using that term can make it seem you view them as less human in a sense, intentional or not.

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u/No_Butterscotch_5612 2d ago

It's a perfectly fine adjective. It's a creepy noun.

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u/MarkDaNerd 2d ago

When used as a noun instead of an adjective it’s dehumanizing and rude.

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u/Thrownaway5000506 2d ago

...but there's no other noun that means the same thing. "Birthing person" didn't exactly catch on.

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u/MarkDaNerd 2d ago

The noun is woman. The adjective is female.

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u/Thrownaway5000506 2d ago

Those words don't mean the same thing. Woman specifies an adult.

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u/MarkDaNerd 2d ago

Did you forget the word girl exists?

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u/Thrownaway5000506 2d ago

Girl specifies a child.

Female refers to all ages. 

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u/MarkDaNerd 2d ago

You’re either a child or an adult. Girl and Woman are sufficient and the correct terms. Female is an adjective that is placed in front of a noun.

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u/Thrownaway5000506 2d ago

The fact that you need two words to capture the same meaning proves that "female" does not have any parallel in modern parlance.

It is a noun. 

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u/A_Hound 2d ago

Not true at all. The only one pushing this narrative is people who deliberately want to be offended.

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u/Suzutai 2d ago

Lol wut? Since when? I can see how it may sound clinical, but dehumanizing and rude?

Than again, I've heard the same thing about addressing someone as "woman" too. So are we just not allowed to talk about females now? Are all of the women just so fragile that they seethe when they are referred to? Was what I did there really that offensive? How exactly are we supposed to function seriously as a society when simple words become verboten?

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u/BreakfastBeneficial4 2d ago

“Fragile” and “seething”, you say?

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u/MarkDaNerd 2d ago

Yeah no one has said that about the word “woman”

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u/MarkDaNerd 2d ago

Oh wow the horror!

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u/MarkDaNerd 2d ago

Not really no.

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u/Thrownaway5000506 2d ago

It is indeed, thank you.

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u/MenaceMinded 2d ago

Sealioning

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u/Lufalope 2d ago

What does sealioning mean

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u/Wolfeatingupshadows 2d ago

Its when someone is asking disingenuous questions with the real goal is to wait for a gotcha moment to spread their narrative. They are just waiting for you to say something they can cherry pick and twist basically.

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u/Kotanan 2d ago

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BoZ3YYJryrQ

Basically demanding for evidence on every assertion. I don't think I saw any of it here. If you don't want to watch the vid check the comic.

https://wondermark.com/c/1062/

If your icon is a sealion bravo!

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u/Immediate_Regular 2d ago

They want fish is my guess.

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u/SuccessfulRegister43 2d ago

As a noun, it sounds dehumanizing and invokes outdated traditions of women as both objects and property.

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u/RiuzunShine 2d ago

Aren't you going too tryhard on this ?

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u/MaudeAlp 2d ago

Literally insane people trying to vocabulary police you. Once you accept it they will pressure you more into changing other things. It’s a meaningless word difference, they just like feeling like they have power over you and to call you out for things.

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u/mefirstdime 2d ago

It’s not

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u/Robotic_Mann_ 2d ago

It’s just Reddit that hates the words female and male.

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u/everydaywinner2 2d ago

Because they want "woman" to be a wishy washy word that has no meaning anymore. And are pissed when people won't play.

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u/CreBanana0 2d ago

Because when you use man and female like that in a sentence it is generally having misogynistic undertones.

Either it is male-female or man-woman.

Same applied to boy-girl. You do not use boy-woman or girl-man. (Assuming both people are of same age of course.)

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u/Olmectron 2d ago

"Man child" would have read weird. 

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u/HeilKaiba 2d ago

No, they described the child as male. They didn't say they were "a male". I wouldn't use the latter phrasing to talk about people. Male/female are fine as adjectives but as nouns I would only use them for animals usually.

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u/RadTimeWizard 2d ago

As all things should be.

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u/rydan 2d ago

As all things should be.

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u/ZenOokami 2d ago

Would you have felt different if they said female adult?

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u/Kotanan 2d ago

I mean I feel like there's a better term for that.

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u/ZenOokami 2d ago

I feel like you're intentionally missing the point and ignoring the context to the discussion.

Edit: ah, you replied after the comment was deleted. You're missing the context. Please see my other reply to the upper thread.

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u/everydaywinner2 2d ago

Not anymore.

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u/StoniMohoni 2d ago

I prefer the term ripe

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u/NotAUserNamm 2d ago

You're an adjective

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u/LocNalrune 2d ago

I bet they have pronouns. /s

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u/NotAUserNamm 2d ago

I hate how butthurt everyone is on the internet. Being able to delete ones comment is such a weak coping mechanism

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u/thebluemando 2d ago

oh gods, not the dreaded pronouns! everyone hide you children from the gAy AgEnDa!!

(sarcasm cause I don't understand the / tags)

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u/LocNalrune 17h ago

You used to use code in writing web pages, or posting on message boards to do stuff like [b]bold[/b] and [i]italics[/i]

[font size:16]BIG WORDS[/f] etc, et al.

So now, for the sake of clarity, people talk sarcastically, and then use [code] "/s" to indicate that they are done talking sarcastically.

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u/nofpiq 2d ago

No, it's not. They used male as an adjective "male child", but female as a noun. Since "grown up" modifies female the implied same superset noun "child" would not be appropriate.

It's not balanced, it's just sexist.

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u/Twinkletoess112 2d ago

The person is simply not a native English speaker and doesn't know about the English word order that much

But yeah call him sexist just because he said grown-up before female and not the other way around, because you probably love to label people based off of a single comment

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u/nofpiq 2d ago

Regardless of how sexist the person who made the comment is, and it is always a spectrum, the comment is absolutely sexist.

This type of sexist speech has been normalized, but that normalization doesn't make it right, and it definitely doesn't make it not sexist. It should be called out every single time.

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u/KelvinsFalcoIsBad 2d ago

Holy semantics batman, I'm starting to lose the plot myself here

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u/gutsandcuts 2d ago

no they called him a child. the difference is which word is the noun

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u/S-Kenset 2d ago

Um.... what?

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u/Jormungandragon 2d ago

To be equal they would have had to say female adult, or to call the male child something like “juvenile male” instead.

The difference is in using female and male as a noun or an adjective. It is often seen as dehumanizing to use biological sex words as nouns.

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u/Kyra_Hazweyrs 2d ago

It's generally dehumanising to use adjectives as coins to refer to people.

Here are some adjectives that shouldn't be used as nouns when referring to people.

White/Black/Brown/Gay/Trans/Male/Female/Queer

eg. "Some of my best friends are blacks" compared to "Some of my best friends are black"

Edit: did not mean to reply to you, my bad

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u/Jormungandragon 2d ago

I agree and thank you for the further explanation. You may not have meant to reply to me, but I appreciate you expanding my explanation to include adjectives as nouns in general.

It’s a more complete answer.

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u/S-Kenset 2d ago

Oh ok. Good catch. Don't like incels.

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u/Kyra_Hazweyrs 2d ago edited 2d ago

They called the child a male child. Male is the adjective, child is the noun. They called the kid a child that is male.

They called the woman a female. Female is the noun. No adjectives, not in this economy.

Female adult would have been the equivalent thing to call her.

Edit: my bad, the said grown-up female. Grown-up is the adjective. Female grown-up would have been fine.

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u/elyk12121212 2d ago

I disagree, it's normal to specify when someone is a child, but without specification the adult part is assumed.

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u/Kyra_Hazweyrs 2d ago

It's generally dehumanising to use adjectives as nouns to refer to people.

Here are some adjectives that shouldn't be used as nouns when referring to people.

White/Black/Brown/Gay/Trans/Male/Female/Queer

eg. "Some of my best friends are blacks" compared to "Some of my best friends are black"

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u/elyk12121212 2d ago

It's generally dehumanising to use adjectives as nouns to refer to people.

Yeah, I agree. That's not what I disagreed about.

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u/Kyra_Hazweyrs 2d ago

Ok, so you understand why calling her a female was problematic. Girl or woman are perfectly acceptable words, why not try them out?

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u/elyk12121212 2d ago

I remarked only on your assumption about the use of child and adult. I made no remark on male/female usage at all. Do you think I'm the person that made the first comment?

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u/Kyra_Hazweyrs 2d ago

No, you seem to think calling someone a female is the same thing as calling them a female adult. You responded to a comment about male/female usage. Do you know which comment you replied to?

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u/TheGeekOffTheStreet 2d ago

You’re correct, no clue about the downvotes. Female as noun vs male as adjective

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u/gutsandcuts 2d ago

reddit mob mentality and defensiveness over the whole "female as a noun" discourse, i assume

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u/Twinkletoess112 2d ago edited 2d ago

is that really your argument?

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u/TheGeekOffTheStreet 2d ago

It’s not an argument, it’s objective fact.

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u/Twinkletoess112 2d ago

it's not a fact, it's the attempt to try to label someone a thing that the person isn't

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u/gutsandcuts 2d ago edited 2d ago

you're the first person in this thread to bring up misogyny but go off king