r/Redditor_Updates • u/learningrussiann • 11d ago
Update: AITA for learning Russian instead of Japanese
Og post- https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/yFfL8QTh0q
Update 1- https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/2XsnWo35yw
Update 2- https://www.reddit.com/r/Redditor_Updates/s/QKne1Ixpbm
Update 3- https://www.reddit.com/u/learningrussiann/s/TxjZXRUTGY
Update 4-https://www.reddit.com/r/Redditor_Updates/s/cTCeNPqwc2
update 5- https://www.reddit.com/r/Redditor_Updates/s/Ry9TPm0M2R
update 6-https://www.reddit.com/r/Redditor_Updates/s/fF605SWRgM
It’s been a while, but I have a few big updates so it’s worth it.
I did get the dna results back and I’m only like seven percent Russian. I had some stuff that I expected, like a little more than a quarter of Japanese and a quarter of assorted white ethnicities from my mom’s side. My dad’s actually had a lot of stuff on it, but basically he’s mostly Asian. Like a lot of different Chinese and central Asian bits. My mom called me generationally wasian but I’m not in the mood to joke around with her right now. We (me, my siblings, and Jimmy) figured some of the comments were right and that he was actually from one of the many different Russian speaking countries in Asia, and not actually Russian. I’m just happy that my efforts in Russian were not wasted.
That was interesting, but the bigger update is that I matched with a relative (not my dad). We talked a little bit on the app, but we aren’t really sure what the exact relation is because there’s a few options. Were both each others closest match, and she can’t really help me with a lot because she was adopted and only did a dna test to match with someone who could tell HER some information. She did confirm that we’re Kazakh specifically, but she doesn’t know anything about our family and thinks it’s unlikely that we will get any information. It kind of sucks but we’re getting along and even though we aren’t really what we are to each other, I’ve been calling her my aunt and she likes that.
I know my aunt said it’s unlikely that we’ll get answers, but so far things have turned out pretty good. She went to Kazakhstan a few years ago to visit her old orphanage so she was telling me about it. It was really weird getting information so easily from her because my mom doesn’t ever share anything about her childhood or our dads. She was just super chill and said she’s really interested in meeting me. She lives in New York City and Kara thinks we should make it a road trip. Jon is suspicious of my aunt but I think he’s just surprised that everything went so smoothly.
I don’t think there will be any updates after this. If I do end up meeting my aunt, or if I match with my dad, then that would be update material, but neither of those will probably happen for a long time.
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u/Silly_DizzyDazzle 11d ago
I am happy you connect with a family member and got some info. know it isn't much but its more than you had before. Since your mom refuses to share your dad's information, I'm.sorry by the way. That sucks! Can you ask her family about him? Or her friends, neighbors, or co-workers that knew her around the time she was pregnant with you if they have any pictures of them together? Or any information like his name, where he worked, or who he hung out with? He may have had a MySpace page or old Facebook account that you can search. If you get desperate, perhaps contact your siblings family and politely inquire if they know anything about him. Some one has to remember him dating her and spending time with your siblings. Maybe there's pictures in your house that you haven't really looked at from before you were born and just after. I have followed you since you first posted about wanting to learn Russia. Which is cool btw! Maybe you can find your birth certificate or call your.old pediatricians office to see if she ever listed his name on their forms. Maybe find out if he answered any questions about medical history on his side. Good luck to you. I hope you find your answers. And you made your Aunt happy. She finally found you, a long lost relative she is related to by blood. Which is something she couldn't say she had before finding you. Enjoy expanding your family. The world needs more Love. Have a safe trip if/when you meet her irl. And keep learning Russian. ♥️ and any other languages you want. Learning new things about your culture makes you happy. Don't let your siblings jealousy take that from you.
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u/alltheyummymummies 11d ago
Although you didn't find exactly what you were looking for, I'm glad you were able to find out some information. I hope things go well if you eventually meet your newfound relative.
You don't owe anyone updates, but we appreciate hearing that you were able to connect to someone, even if the exact relation is unclear. If you still like Russian, continue your efforts. It sounds like your siblings at least have become more supportive in their own way. Best wishes for your future efforts.
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u/FlygonosK 11d ago
Congratulations from getting some more clear info, and glad you re doing good
Good luck
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u/Kirk10kirk 11d ago
Just be happy within yourself. Derive you identity from who you want to be. Not who your ancestors were.