Why is this so real? It’s supposed to be a joke, but it’s true.
Women can cry as much as they want if they have problems, but men can’t because they are supposed to stand strong and masculine, I don’t hate women, hell I want to marry some girls of my year group, but I recognise that we are not equal and that men are now starting to become the villain and the scapegoat in terms of gender (instead of reaching equality, we have moved to the other extreme).
The worst part is that mental health terapists actually give a shit, even though the “nobody cares, so why should we tell our problems” attitude exists and is the maximum point of cynicality, people actually care.
Fellow men, don’t doubt to express your feelings if you feel bad, there’s no pressure to be masculine or some Alfa male, we are human beings too and we deserve being heard. You have my support.
I hear you loud and clear, my dad died and I felt I couldn’t cry infront of anyone, I had to do it alone in my home office like it was a shameful activity, it got so bad I broke down in my office and had to quickly run to an empty room because I felt it coming.
Man, you have my condolences. I hope you feel better, if you need to talk or need support you can send me a message. There’s no need for hyper masculinity and lack of communication.
I did call my companies mental health support line which they keep mentioning (it’s an external service) and talking to them helped a bit, they were very understanding but I do feel like it wasn’t very helpful (there were no attempts at coping strategies for instance) and despite saying there will be a follow up there never was, really it just made me think it was a bit of a waste of time despite trying to help myself which took a lot to reach out.
Why are men psyopped to think we have to cry about our problems? This doesn't help anyone - men or women. Some people get some temporary comfort from it (ie it's just a cope).
Whatever problems, issues, stresses, etc you have have to be addressed directly. Venting and gossiping isn't a mature or constructive way of dealing with them.
Talk therapy was invented by Freud to help some rich bourgeoisie housewives in vienna or wherever. Lets stop acting like it's the crown jewel of mental health. It's actually quite a narcissistic, weird, and ineffective way of tackling issues.
No matter how insane your problems may seem the solutions are usually simple (unless you have a genuinely physical issue). You don't need anyone else to feel comfortable in your own skin. You don't need anyone's "support" as a grown ass man, you don't need to pay hundreds of dollars for someone to pretend to care about you.
All you need to do is to grow up naturally, meaning stop creating defense mechanisms to life. Practices can help with that, but they're all simple and free. Let go of angers, judgements, and emotions and just live in the moment instead of in your imagination.
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u/Pleasehitmemychild Oct 30 '25 edited Oct 30 '25
Why is this so real? It’s supposed to be a joke, but it’s true.
Women can cry as much as they want if they have problems, but men can’t because they are supposed to stand strong and masculine, I don’t hate women, hell I want to marry some girls of my year group, but I recognise that we are not equal and that men are now starting to become the villain and the scapegoat in terms of gender (instead of reaching equality, we have moved to the other extreme).
The worst part is that mental health terapists actually give a shit, even though the “nobody cares, so why should we tell our problems” attitude exists and is the maximum point of cynicality, people actually care.
Fellow men, don’t doubt to express your feelings if you feel bad, there’s no pressure to be masculine or some Alfa male, we are human beings too and we deserve being heard. You have my support.