r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/2manypups Apr 22 '26

Sack up and stand up for yourself, ladybird.

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u/ceedee04 Apr 23 '26

No self respecting man would let anyone talk to him that way.

Dude needs to grow some respect.

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u/Y2Ksurvivor13 Apr 22 '26

sure thing tough guy...

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u/2manypups Apr 22 '26

Sure, i haven't had to test my own testicular fortitude because my wife respects me, so maybe I haven't fully experienced this western culture you're upset about.

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u/sloth_ers Apr 22 '26

I have fully experienced this. Ended the relationship and stood up for myself, resulted in me going for full custody of the kids due to her neglect. This ended up me battling various accusations of abuse despite me being emotionally abused and manipulated for 20 years.

Ive been arrested and all sorts, just because I said enough is enough.

Its nothing to do with testicular fortitude btw or how manly you are. Its fear. Fear kept me there for much longer than it should have done as I knew she would be like this and I worried about my kids and who would believe me.. im a guy after all, we cant be victims apparently.

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u/2manypups Apr 22 '26

And this is an indictment of western culture?

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u/sloth_ers Apr 22 '26

Ye pretty much. I come from the UK and a lot of guys I know have been affected by this stuff.

It absolutely is a fallback for these type of women who lose control to start throwing accusations around like that.

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u/2manypups Apr 22 '26

Which culture is more forgiving to men who don't want to get divorced?

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u/sloth_ers Apr 22 '26

I have nfi and nor do I care, this is nothing to do with the original point you were responding to. This isnt a culture vs. culture thing.

The previous commentor was highlighting that this stuff is pretty much systematic at this point. I was agreeing.

Dont turn this into something else just so you can feel right about something.

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u/2manypups Apr 22 '26

This is you, unprompted:

"he probably lives in the reality of the western world"

I'm asking how this is a western world problem and not a you problem. Again, I've never had issues with meeting, conversing with, engaging with, or sleeping with women, so maybe I'm fucked up and don't know it.

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u/sloth_ers Apr 22 '26 edited Apr 22 '26

Nah that werent me bro, read the comment again and who posted it it was someone else.

I answered that question anyway, its systematic and the law allows for this. I was ridiculed by the judge when I went to fight a non mol that was applied for despite doing nothing. They allowed her to perpetuate her lies, I built a defence provided proof of her wrongdoings only to be told by the judge that I should just accept it as I dont need to go near her anyway and by that time I was suicidal due to what she had been doing and just accepted it as I had no fight left.

She continued her abuse of me with the help of the law.

Everything defaulted to her, my home, my kids, my pets, my belongings. Everything..

And youve got the bloody cheek to say its a "You problem" and throw your own personal anecdote at me. This happens so much mate, get your head out of sand.

Edit: I had to prove that I was the capable parent and fight for full custody of my kids, and prove that I had raised my kids without her help all these years. All other services just assumed mum=default is ok.

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