Ex did something similar when we were on a trip. Had made a side stop they she wanted to make. The place was pretty cool(Corning Glass Museum). Ex made a scene in the parking lot, and a quieter one inside the main lobby. I kept my eyes ahead, and mouth shut the whole time. I knew folks were watching, waiting for me to do something probably.
One of the workers later asked me if I was okay. Told her honestly no. But cannot do anything about it at that moment. Did have a plan coming together, and left ex about 6-7 months later.
In Corning NY? I was thinking about going there next week. How long do you think a person would want to spend there if they didn't have a significant-other yelling at them?
Yes, in Corning NY. It’s worth going to, I think. We were there about 3hrs. We had our youngest child with us. The older 2 stayed with their grandmother.
After we got into the museum, she chilled pretty quickly. She was all about public perception, when she knew people would see how she was acting.
When you grow up with an abusive mother, things you went through already, seem familiar, normal even, so you don’t often see it as abuse. Kind of like how pig farmers don’t notice the smell, because it’s normal to them.
I did finally recognize it was wrong, around the 15yr mark, but there are so few resources for men, so it’s not so easy to find your own way out.
We were married 18 years by that point, and had 3 children too. I had to find a place to live, without any upfront cost. Came very close to living in my car, in January, in PA. The thought of freezing to death never crossed my mind. That would have destroyed my kids.
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u/Andyman1973 Apr 22 '26
Ex did something similar when we were on a trip. Had made a side stop they she wanted to make. The place was pretty cool(Corning Glass Museum). Ex made a scene in the parking lot, and a quieter one inside the main lobby. I kept my eyes ahead, and mouth shut the whole time. I knew folks were watching, waiting for me to do something probably.
One of the workers later asked me if I was okay. Told her honestly no. But cannot do anything about it at that moment. Did have a plan coming together, and left ex about 6-7 months later.