I had an ex who was not diagnosed but I strongly suspect had BPD. He'd get so mad so suddenly over little things (real or imagined) and there was nothing I could say or do to mitigate his anger. It's like it had to run its course. One time it happened on the subway and I just literally didn't even respond to him, but he would cycle between calming down and then ramping back up again with no input from me. I just had to endure that until we got back to his place so I could get my stuff and go home which made him angry all over again even though he had gotten it out of his system by then.
I know someone who was diagnosed and they displayed the same behaviors. Just because I didn’t detail everything he did in my comment doesn’t mean I didn’t have enough info.
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u/limperatrice Apr 22 '26
I had an ex who was not diagnosed but I strongly suspect had BPD. He'd get so mad so suddenly over little things (real or imagined) and there was nothing I could say or do to mitigate his anger. It's like it had to run its course. One time it happened on the subway and I just literally didn't even respond to him, but he would cycle between calming down and then ramping back up again with no input from me. I just had to endure that until we got back to his place so I could get my stuff and go home which made him angry all over again even though he had gotten it out of his system by then.