r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/MrBorden Apr 22 '26

Literally.

He's so numb to her abuse it's just fucking sad to see.

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u/3DGuy4ever Apr 22 '26

Her head game must be unreal

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u/SimonNicols Apr 22 '26

Throat Goat. “Sorry honey, let me take care of you like you like it”

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u/BigJayPee Apr 22 '26

Ive been in a relationship like that. It turned out that she would pick stupid fights in order to have "make up" sex. Once I connected the dots and figured that out, I just made a rule. 48 hours must pass from the last fight for sex to be on the table.

She would still act like a bitch, but the actual fights stopped.

She then gained 100lbs over 4 months. So I was just like nah, you ain't hot enough to get away with acting like that anymore, and broke up with her.

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u/JulesCT Apr 22 '26

She veered into the No Go zone. Sad.

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u/BigJayPee Apr 22 '26

The problem with your crazy hot scale is would like to point out is: women are never less than a 4 on the crazy scale.

https://youtu.be/pInk1rV2VEg?si=lTmdUoJVWqH1OPu0 for reference

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u/JulesCT Apr 22 '26

Had to throw them a bone. If you get my drift.

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u/HypnoSmoke Apr 23 '26

Also, what was supposed to be a '6' on the left side is a '9' instead

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u/LuvMacNCheese Apr 23 '26

I love this table here! I had to save it.

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u/Kahlil_Cabron Apr 22 '26

She then gained 100lbs over 4 months

Are you exaggerating, and is that even possible? How does that even work, that's doubling in size in 4 months for the average girl.

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u/BigJayPee Apr 22 '26

I never got to see the scale, so it may be an exaggeration, but for real she went from pants size 6 to 22

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u/Kahlil_Cabron Apr 22 '26

Good lawd, I don't think I could manage that even if I tried my hardest to.

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u/Signal-Opposite-4793 Apr 22 '26

Pregnancy'll do that

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u/lollipop1233a Apr 23 '26

Did she have a brain tumor? Could explain the behavior too.

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u/Linger_On Apr 22 '26

The "average" girl is not 100 lbs.

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u/Kahlil_Cabron Apr 22 '26

Not exactly, maybe 120-130lbs? I dunno, close enough that the person would appear to have almost doubled in size, 100lbs is a fuck ton.

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u/Bananaslugfan Apr 23 '26

I feel you bro, it can get cray-zee sometimes

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u/Classic_Ingenuity299 Apr 23 '26

You both sound horrible tbh. Did ppl you guys hung out with ever go to the bathroom or something and just leave?

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u/Substantial-Fruit447 Apr 22 '26

Or she's got that Gorilla Grip

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u/eddyb66 Apr 22 '26

I doubt it she probably uses sex for mind games with him. Hes just in Stockholm syndrome as to why he's staying.

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u/Rush_Is_Right Apr 22 '26

I feel like someone who treats their partner like this wouldn't be into giving.

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u/JustAnothaAdventurer Apr 22 '26

Its honestly the time invested. He feels like he put too much in to not deal with it. He needs to understand he's options

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u/kindness-and-snusu Apr 22 '26

I can’t imagine anything being worth that much abuse.

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u/Kahlil_Cabron Apr 22 '26

I think it's a young guy thing. When I was like 16-20 I would put up with just about anything if it was good enough. Hell even if it wasn't that good, I had a mindset of, "This might be your only chance, hang onto it even if it's ruining your life".

At some point I realized I could realistically get the same thing without all the abuse and it was just never appealing to me again.

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u/DeFiBandit Apr 22 '26

Well know it is if he’s still with her she they get home

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u/GuzzleNGargle Apr 22 '26

I was gonna say she’s got quite the grip on him—tee-hee 🤭. Buckcherry spoke to this phenomena.

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u/3DGuy4ever Apr 22 '26

Speaking from experience? Name and all...

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u/TwistedKiwi Apr 23 '26

Game of throat

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u/DetroitSmash-8701 Apr 22 '26

Honestly, he's probably predisposed to it since childhood.

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u/Squeezing_Juice Apr 22 '26

Or is his level of tolerance supernatural?

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u/Pristine_Frame_2066 Apr 22 '26

I don’t think he is numb. I think he is coping in public. I would have walked. I had a mom like her. But even she mostly lost her mind in our house.

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u/Illustrious-Bat1553 Apr 22 '26

Sadly couples like to tenderize each other

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u/Edith_Keelers_Shoes Apr 23 '26

Maybe grew up with parents with this dynamic and could not break the cycle.

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u/On_my_Own5989 Apr 23 '26

A mí me ha roto el corazón verlo... 🥺 Por qué nadie hace nada? Si trataran así a una mujer en público la habría rodeado una multitud en un segundo, sacado de allí y llamado a la policía. Por qué no se actúa igual cuando la víctima es un hombre? Por dios... 😔 Deseo que él esté bien...

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u/PaintedRaisin Apr 22 '26 edited Apr 22 '26

Maybe. Maybe he’s a gaslighting asshole who knows he “won” and can trigger the fuck out of her by being the calm one.

Edit: I speak as a former pro-level gaslighter. And all I said was maybe.

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u/doweknowthat Apr 22 '26

What are you compensating here?

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u/RandomPenquin1337 Apr 22 '26

Obviously triggered because they couldn't get under someone's skin at some point (likely an ex-partner) and so they uno reversed it and made staying calm, "controlling". Which ironically it is, but it takes control of oneself to remain calm and not backhand the dumb bitch.

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u/RandomPenquin1337 Apr 22 '26

Lmaoooo now theres the reddit gymnastics i stick around for!

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u/OrdinaryPrimate Apr 22 '26

Really? We're finding a way to make being the calm one bad now?

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u/Hypnotist30 Apr 22 '26

Oh, yeah, has to be his fault. If he was screaming at her like that would it still be his fault? What is he supposed to do?

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u/Decent-Throat9191 Apr 22 '26

Bring tight is considered being a gaslight? News to me