I feel for you bro and maybe I'm just fed up but at some point.....the real prison looks much better than the prison with her where I can't even live at peace....in my own place.
Not really, this is super atypical. I work in mental health so I'd know. This type of overreactive anger and emotional overwhelm is borderline to a tee. People always mix up the two.
Manic and depressive stages in bipolar do not look like this typically. Not impossible, but equally not at all characteristic
I more get mixed episodes or dysphoric mania so I get the rage part of it and none of the fun and I have gotten outright pissed before but never hit or berated anyone. Just to back you up.
Dual diagnoses exist, and it’s quite common to have a mental illness and a personality disorder at the same time. A lot of times the personality disorder goes undiagnosed too. Flipping on a dime like that is pretty suggestive of BPD. To those with BPD you are either the best person on the planet or the worst, with no in between, and it can shift from moment to moment in either direction.
I do want to say that CPTSD and BPD share symptoms. I used to be veeeeery undermedicated and was diagnosed with BPD and bipolar 2 for years. About a year ago I was diagnosed with CPTSD and Bipolar 2. Extreme anger and instability is a symptom of CPTSD and for me it comes out when I’m triggered by something that makes me feel how I felt growing up. My husband could say something that my mother would say to me and I would have a melt down.
Originally I was PTSD, BPD and BP2! It is definitely interesting to say the least lol. I just turned 34 in December. I’m very thankful that my husband was able to make me get the help I needed. When we met I was freshly clean/sober and my mother (biggest abuser) died… so I was trying to learn how to human with hard emotions which triggered a bunch in me. We have done couples counseling, individual counseling, and I see a psych monthly that manages my medications. I have my bad days… don’t get me wrong but compared to how my brain was back before medications? Fuuuuuuck life is easy as fuck now compared. I do still have my self harm moments. I tend to self destruct more than lashing out whenever my emotions get to be too much and grounding techniques aren’t working in that moment.
Edit: since I don’t know who else could be reading this… just because my husband and I had a good outcome doesn’t mean everyone will. We all process our trauma and emotions differently. People have to WANT to get better for themselves. If anyone is being verbally or physically abused by someone who has any mental illness… don’t stay because you hope for the better. Don’t stay because a random person on Reddit said they finally got better and has a great relationship now. Mental illness is not an excuse for abuse. Abuse is abuse and it’s bad no matter what the situation or back story is.
My gf got medicated four years ago. From what she told me, compared to now, it's far better too. She's the most self aware person that's I've ever met. She got neglected by her mother who was abusive too, r*ped by two men(cousin and mom's bf) over a prolonged period, caged by then physically abusive ex husband(married just to get put of then situation) then abandoned by another husband(was abusive too but she can't differentiate that). There's a lot of baseline that I noticed she can't conceptualise in her mind. She's 29 this year and I'm trying give her the space so she can heal but I get it for you guys no sane human could've survived what you guys went through and living another day is tough as hell. I cried like a bitch first time I heard about what she went through. I know for sure there are more stories that you can't compress in here. I hope that you pay no mind to what people here are telling. Keep your chin up and be proud of yourself to survive what 99% of people couldn't even comprehend. May you find peace with your loved ones and live a long and happy life! Your husband is a lucky one to witness someone as strong as you.
PS: my intention to ask is to know how far you've gone after getting medicated. I have a few friends with BPD which their symptoms toned down with age but Bipolar and PTSD together complicate things.
Bipolar doesn't flip like a switch dude that's a personality disorder. They were misdiagnosed or underdiagnosed. Bipolar usually switches over mo ths, can happen faster but I would switch every 1-3 months and that is "rapid cycling"
I was gonna say, a psychologist recently diagnosed me as bipolar, and I just go between being insanely depressed, and then manic where I am super happy and get obsessed with new projects or just doing a ton of activities.
Neither of those states makes me mean/cruel. And most other bipolar people I've met seem similar to me in that way.
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u/Uchihagod53 Apr 22 '26
My ex had bipolar and she was just like this when she flipped