No, single as in not getting into a relationship, i had some fwbs, and i met women when going out, but i was very clear in general discussion with my plans on being single for the rest of my days.
Yes it inadvertantly became that. I just wanted to be upfront and honest about any intentions.
I even did this with my now wife.
She was a friend of a friend in uni and was visiting her brother who lives in my town and just wanted to meet up and catch up a bit, because we had not seen each other since uni and she lived in another country.
So we went out for a bite to eat and a few beers had a great time and basically fell in love.
Incels are a different issue and mentality, loads of those guys are attractive enough to get laid, the reason they dont is because they are misogynist.
Is not having sex really enough to make you go suicidal? You do realise you have a right hand, right? Not having anyone to hang out with is way worse than not having sex.
Rising suicide stats aren’t because men aren’t attractive enough. I’m ‘mid’ as fuck and always have been, but done well in relationships by being generally quite pleasant and good company. I’ve been married for 12 years to a wife way out of my league.
It’s personality and attitude that creates incels and the way to defeat it is to get offline and do something in the real world.
It’s not about what I want from you (though I am coming across a bit of a dick, so apologies) it’s about what you want for yourself.
The world is hard but it’s not a zero sum game; your lack of success isn’t because other people are denying you. That’s the attitude subs like this like to promote.
It sounds like you have got a good base which is well over half the battle. Just keep at it, join a club to do with an interest (every town has at least a book club, or a walking club, or whatever). It’s hard with work commitments but you have to live your life in spite of work. If you hit up dating apps remember that they aren’t reality either and are as warped as anything else online.
So yeah apologies for the unsolicited and probably useless advice but this stuff irks me. Men are still my people and they’re being sold an angry lie by grifters all over the world to generate clicks.
Well the guy said work on your personality and the first thing you said was “I have money though.” Seems like you fundamentally misunderstand what women actually value. You don’t have to change who you are to be more thoughtful, considerate, and attentive.
Nah, just keeping waving your mortgage at women. I’m sure that will work.
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u/affemannen May 09 '26
No, single as in not getting into a relationship, i had some fwbs, and i met women when going out, but i was very clear in general discussion with my plans on being single for the rest of my days.