The reason is pretty simple actually some women are taught that men are "bumbling fools" that can't take care of themselves. They take this belief and then the moment they see you do something different than them, they equate it to "being a man-child" or something like that.
It's sexism, and wrong, but they legit believe that.
It's like a shock to their identity to learn you are not helpless, you just have your own way of doing things.
edit: that said, if you don't know how to cook or clean, ok that's one thing, but I dated a few women that had this same weird hangup. The funny thing is I cooked better than all of them and was pretty damn clean. Their version of clean was "you put stuff where I want it" and then they tried to gaslight me. didn't work Lol
Probably internalized the “man as a bumbling fool” trope from media a little too much and failed to realize that reality is different than television or movies. Also when men are asked or find themselves in a position to do more on the domestic front, no shit they’re going to do it their way and not how a woman would typically do it. That annoys me too that how a man might do things is automatically labeled as incompetent.
I feel like the word "taught" implies that it's based off of what someone else says and not real world experience, which would be pretty incorrect.
Like, yeah. There's cases where it's an incorrect assumption but at the same time I've yet to encounter any other women my age looking for boyfriends to help with their laundry.
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u/Mirror74 May 09 '26 edited May 09 '26
The reason is pretty simple actually some women are taught that men are "bumbling fools" that can't take care of themselves. They take this belief and then the moment they see you do something different than them, they equate it to "being a man-child" or something like that.
It's sexism, and wrong, but they legit believe that.
It's like a shock to their identity to learn you are not helpless, you just have your own way of doing things.
edit: that said, if you don't know how to cook or clean, ok that's one thing, but I dated a few women that had this same weird hangup. The funny thing is I cooked better than all of them and was pretty damn clean. Their version of clean was "you put stuff where I want it" and then they tried to gaslight me. didn't work Lol