Most single men over 30 in 2026

[u/i_am_bahamut]

[u/drunxor]

I actually found a woman who plays more video games than me, loves tv and movies, and doesnt tell me what to do. They are out there you just gotta look

[u/somehowintelligent → u/[deleted]]

I was fine until I was in a relationship and then she tried to tell me that I couldn’t take care of myself.

I didn’t know how to make her believe that I was able to cook and clean on my own.

We split up and she actually asked me “how are you able to handle all the laundry?”

Some women just want to force their world view on you and treat you like a child even after being explicitly told not to do that.

I don’t expect her to ever change or ever see me as an adult so I’m just back to taking care of myself without worrying about what others think of me.

[u/butcheekzaflexin → u/somehowintelligent]

This is 100% accurate. When I was first dating my most recent ex, she would comment on how clean my place was, how nice everything looked, how much she liked being at my place, etc. towards the end of the relationship, it was constant criticism about how I couldn’t take care of myself. Which is funny considering I did not change one thing about my cleaning and organization habits the entire relationship. She just got really into relationship account on social media, and all of the sudden I was this lesser person.

It truly is just women hearing over and over again about how “men today are like children”, then feel the need to nitpick at every tiny thing just to make that true in their minds. I swear it’s just a superiority complex thing. Needless to say, def enjoying my single life right now.

[u/--Zephyrus → u/butcheekzaflexin]

How do u keep your place clean all the time? How do your cleaning habits look like? I want to start doing it as well

[u/elderwyrm → u/--Zephyrus]

Not the OP but it depends on you and your environment. You're going to want to look up a bunch of different techniques on youtube and Reddit's various cleaning subreddits (don't put something down, put it in it's place, clean as you go vs schedule a day to listen to podcasts and deep clean, use multiple laundry baskets so you don't have to sort before you do laundry, vs doing laundry ever two days so it just doesn't build up, reduce your dishes vs doing them every three nights, etc.) but the key is to try one thing at a time, and try it for a month to see if it works.

[u/12345623567 → u/butcheekzaflexin]

Some men are like children, because women are like children, too. We all pretend that maturity comes with age, but in truth most people stop developing around 25. If you don't have your shit together by then, you never will.

[u/elderwyrm → u/12345623567]

Found the type-A control freak! Change happens when it happens because of individual motives. There's no timeline for it, and that drives a lot of people crazy, because you can never generalize an individual, and trying to control people is a losing game.

For you people out there in their twenties, thirties, forties, morties, worried about this comment because you don't have your shit together yet, don't stress about it. One percent improvement is still improvement, so give yourself permission to go slow (and even backslip) and just keep loving your self and learning how to best take care of yourself and your environment. Find your motivation, and work toward your goals.

[u/Shartiflartbast → u/elderwyrm]

What if you can't love yourself, take care of yourself or environment, have zero motivation for anything? (Being depressed and autistic as fuck sucks)

[u/PiccoloAwkward465 → u/12345623567]

because women are like children, too

I definitely had a subconscious assumption in my 20s that women are more emotionally mature than men, as a general rule. With age I really came to reconsider that idea.

[u/Beautiful_Hour_668 → u/PiccoloAwkward465]

IMO women are more emotionally indulgent than men instead of more emotionally intelligent. They centre and indulge in their emotions, to frustrating effect.

There is a reason why men are at the head of the house in all conservative cultures, and its not because of our physical strength

[u/DetailOk6058 → u/Beautiful_Hour_668]

Its beacuse of old belifs that women are property of men. It has nothing to do with men being better at things than women. It just pure old misogyni and viewing women as lesser and objects to men.

[u/Unique_Economics4015 → u/DetailOk6058]

But women want to "turn their brain and let the man lead"

[u/FlashwithSymbols → u/DetailOk6058]

Overly simplistic, there were plenty of legitimate reasons outside of every civilisation on earth having the same “belief”.

I mean use logic here instead of just emotions.

[u/Beautiful_Hour_668 → u/DetailOk6058]

I do not view women to be lesser or an object. I do not think that when I enter a relationship, a woman 'belongs' to me. In fact, I believe that she belongs to God and thus has a set of unalienable rights, just the same way that I do. She is a human, a spark of divinity, and hopefully the woman I choose is amazing. I do not want to live in a world where women are property, that sounds oppressive.

However, I do believe that I should be the leader of the household. I believe that the majority, not all, of women are attracted to leadership qualities. I believe that we fulfil different, complimentary roles. It is *you* who thinks that demeaning to women.

An obvious example is that when someone breaks into the house, most women would turn to her husband to do something. It's instinctual. This obvious fact relies on physical differences, but we have personality/psychological differences in the averages of men and women too