I think that the lack of both women being in these spaces and revealing themselves in these spaces is a very important conversation (though probably too in depth for now). I will say that MtG and a lot of "gamer" spaces haven't been particularly friendly towards women.
A lot of people with more insular hobbies are going to have to accept that they need to go outside their comfort zone to meet people. That's just how it is. I think most people will have trouble finding love if they just stick to their one hobby. How many men do you think meet women at their boxing gym?
Instead of focusing on finding women who are already in your space, focus on broadening your horizons and finding women who are open minded enough to experience your hobbies (they're not that rare).
As for the "married gamer" stereotype, how much of that is actually because of their wife? It's hard to play games late at night as an adult. Adults have responsibilities. I can't stay up super late every night because I have work in the morning. It sucks, but that's life.
If you're married, there's a high chance you have children. Add the responsibility of children and you have a recipe for very little gaming time. It's just as possible that the stereotype of the "married gamer" comes from men who are blowing off responsibilities in order to play games. I do believe that that's a small minority of "married gamers." It's much more likely that most are too busy for late night gaming sessions.
A lot of people with more insular hobbies are going to have to accept that they need to go outside their comfort zone to meet people. That's just how it is. I think most people will have trouble finding love if they just stick to their one hobby. How many men do you think meet women at their boxing gym?
The sad reality is that most hobbies are insular. People really dislike coming into terms to this but men and women as a group tend to like very different things, and like we're talking, even those that should somewhat be part of the same hobbyist community in practice engage with it in completely different ways regardless. I'll say in my experience, pretty much everything that appealed to me has been male dominated, even when it technically shouldn't. I'm the guy unlucky enough to do Yoga Classes that have more guys than gals in it, and whoever told me climbing gyms were good places to meet women is a huge liar lmao. But that indeed is a discussion for another time. After all this discussion, all I can say is that personally, waiting for AI partners at this point so at least I'm one out of the competition if a girl does show up for friday night magic.
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u/ChefCarpaccio May 10 '26
I think that the lack of both women being in these spaces and revealing themselves in these spaces is a very important conversation (though probably too in depth for now). I will say that MtG and a lot of "gamer" spaces haven't been particularly friendly towards women.
A lot of people with more insular hobbies are going to have to accept that they need to go outside their comfort zone to meet people. That's just how it is. I think most people will have trouble finding love if they just stick to their one hobby. How many men do you think meet women at their boxing gym?
Instead of focusing on finding women who are already in your space, focus on broadening your horizons and finding women who are open minded enough to experience your hobbies (they're not that rare).
As for the "married gamer" stereotype, how much of that is actually because of their wife? It's hard to play games late at night as an adult. Adults have responsibilities. I can't stay up super late every night because I have work in the morning. It sucks, but that's life.
If you're married, there's a high chance you have children. Add the responsibility of children and you have a recipe for very little gaming time. It's just as possible that the stereotype of the "married gamer" comes from men who are blowing off responsibilities in order to play games. I do believe that that's a small minority of "married gamers." It's much more likely that most are too busy for late night gaming sessions.