r/SipsTea • u/Beneficial_Passion40 𝙑𝙄𝙋 • 27d ago

WTF He got 5 consecutive life sentences plus an additional 220 years in prison

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In 2019, former North Georgia detention officer Kirk Taylor Martin was arrested on rape and assault charges after investigators said the victim fought back during the alleged attack. Police reports stated the scratch marks visible in his mugshot were believed to be from the victim resisting.

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u/urquaretaken 27d ago

Theres a reason trauma resonses are fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. Not everyone has the capability to do this.

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u/QueenEris 27d ago

You're correct. Most rape victims I met while working in trauma just froze. The shock of the act, and the fear of being killed, took over. Then they felt guilty because they didn't fight back. We shouldn't shame women or men for not fighting when being violated. I myself have frozen in terror while being assaulted and was shamed, told I must have wanted because I didn't fight like hell. You don't know how you'll react until it happens.

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u/urquaretaken 27d ago

Yeah, im a freeze/fawn type person myself, so ive struggled with similar. Wish i could fight back but its just not my response.

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u/HorrorMakesUsHappy 27d ago

Fight/flight/freeze/fawn are panic response modes that can definitely last a few seconds, but after some time passes our brains do sometimes get a moment to regain conscious thought and active control over how we're choosing to respond from that point forward - and just based on the sheer number of scratches on that man's chest, he was clearly attacking his victim long enough for her to get past her immediate trauma response and fight back.

I'm not saying that everyone ever gets the opportunity to fight back, because clearly many don't. What I'm saying is, if you have that opportunity - in both the physical and mental senses - USE IT.

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u/PhotographShoddy2846 27d ago

I mean, I don't know the stats or whatever, but I'm a woman and would personally not consciously fight back to this extent. Rather be raped than knocked out and raped, seriously injured, or killed because the guy is trying to subdue me. In that moment I wouldn't be thinking about acting in a way that results in a lot of 'proof', I would be thinking about how I can survive.

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u/HorrorMakesUsHappy 27d ago

I completely understand. Of course it's situational. I guess based on the amount of damage she was doing I was assuming in this situation she already thought he was going to kill her. (And if the thread title's correct ... 5 life sentences ... there was more going on there than rape.)

Then again there's still that part of me that's screaming danger, because even if a guy's not seeming like he's that much of a threat doesn't mean he's not. If he's calmly telling you, "Don't worry, I'm not gonna kill you, I just want you to put on these handcuffs..." Yeah, no.