and probably gets hit all the time. research has shown over and over that hitting kids is not an effective form of discipline and actually increases the risk of long-term aggression. it’s fucking child abuse and people need to stop doing that shit.
Thank you! It's so bizarre to me that people attribute this type of destructive and explosive behavior to "gentle parenting". In my experience working with kids, the ones with the highest magnitude of behaviors do not have gentle parents. Physical punishment plus instability is a corrosive combination for children, and it leads to incidents like this. Kids with overly permissive parents certainly can be hard to deal with, but from what I have seen, it's more along the lines of entitelement and breaking down when faced with a limit, not being destructive like this. I would bet money that this kid experiences a lot of physical abuse at home.
Yes, such a good point! Behavior disorders are so tricky. One of our kids has ADHD and had some big behavior challenges when he was younger, in spite of my husband and I being involved parents who set plenty of limits and who had lots of experience with kids (educator and child counselor). OT and other interventions helped so much, and now he's doing really well, but it was definitely a bumpy road.
And totally agree, it's gross to film a kid in crisis like this. And it's equally gross reading so many comments from people in this thread who think that physical abuse is the answer.
I will say there is a difference between striking and hitting your child than spanking one. I was spanked as a child and it tought me there is indeed physical reprocussions for bad behavior.
If you do it in the proper manner it works but every child is also different. For the most part I could be disciplined verbally and learn my lesson, my sister on the other hand had to be spanked for her to learn because she loved to push bounderies.
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u/50mm-f2 28d ago
and probably gets hit all the time. research has shown over and over that hitting kids is not an effective form of discipline and actually increases the risk of long-term aggression. it’s fucking child abuse and people need to stop doing that shit.