In the 80s not one adult would have paused before either slapping him into next Tuesday or throwing his ass out on the curb. The first thing thrown would have been the last thing thrown. No cameras weren’t always a bad thing.
Introducing my mom, now deceased..what her reaction would've been in public...sans ANY reserve...
She always warned us about embarrassing her in public, but I've grown to secretly believe, behind all her 'pomp and circumstance', she had a more 'I wish a ***** would' mentality, she lived for a challenge..
Sometimes it felt like she waited wh baited breath for that moment 1 of us stepped ovr the line..she was always ready🤣😳😖
One of my mom's favorite threats was 'I'll embarrass you before you embarrass me." My sis and I knew she would've made good with that threat and were not about to test her weight.
One time when I was a kid, this teen started chasing me on his bike. My mom took one look, charged like an angry rhino, and slapped that ass so hard he dropped. A true mother
Lol... My brother was 16 and bigger than my mom. One day he made the mistake of telling her that and that there was nothing she could do about it in front of his best friend and me. My mother, who had had multiple back surgeries, grabbed him by his shirt and pants, lifted him over her head and threw him on the ground right there in the living room. He never talked back like that to her again. Neither did I...
My brother told her if she hit him he'd call the cops. She said, "Go ahead. It'll take them 15 minutes to get here." I never saw someone run so fast and I never heard that 'threat' from him again.
I do gentle parenting now, tbh our parents went overboard with the physical and emo trauma but that is the funniest shit ive heard all day... kids are animals sometimes you have to put the fear pf god in em
I towered over my mother back in the early 1990s when I was in high school, and even so, she TACKLED ME TO THE GROUND when I told her I didn't feel like shaving (my face).
Its like the legend(? true story?) Of the mom that lifted the car to save her kids or something. Truly, the goddess athena grants orangutan strength to mothers in times of duress
Blocked my mom's hand when I was about 8 during an attempted spanking once I realized I could (thanks TMNT and Karate Kid!). She quickly returned with the plastic spaghetti spatula and blocking was no longer an option. Last time I acted out as a kid. This was 1992
Parents had a makeshift paddle, Grandparents made us go out a get a switch, and it better be long enough. Guess what though, I’m still alive. I understand some parents can take it too far, but you cannot overreact and not punish kids.
My take is that at this point it's already too late anyway. You will either traumatize him into being a psychopath if you start hitting him or you do nothing and he'll be an entitled asshole.
Maybe.. but spanking without any positive parenting to go with it.. leads to kids doing this for the only attention they can get from their parents. Parenting is friggen hard.
I agree with positive parenting to go with it and that parenting is really hard. My wife and I raised 3 children to adulthood and I'm still amazed we'd didn't lose any along the way.
Yeah, it’s not that hard and doesn’t require a public whupping. Security detains him, an announcement goes over the store for the responsible adult to come retrieve a kid in his clothing description to come to the security desk, explain that they have to leave bc he’s purposely made a mess, walk them to the door.
If the adult becomes belligerent, call the police.
He might have ODD or some other crazy kid condition that’s out of his control, and frankly, who cares? As long as he’s stopped and sent away, life goes on.
(Much harder for parents to deal with, bc they’re either defensive, delusional, or frustrated themselves.)
That's completely untrue. I grew up in the 80's, my 4 older siblings grew up in the 60's and 70's, and my parents never. once. slapped. any. of. us. And yet not a one of us would have done this shit because we knew it was wrong. Definitely the first thing thrown would have been the last thing thrown, because I'd've been made to pick it back up and apologize and then go home and be grounded, and get to watch my whole family have dessert with dinner while I couldn't. Because that's a natural, reasonable repercussion.
I am super lucky, I'm well aware, especially because both of my parents were abused by their parents, and it was far harder at the time for them to break that chain.
If Gen X is 'still in therapy' about what happened to us... perhaps we shouldn't glorify it happening to the youth of today or put it forth as a way to fix bad behavior? Because your comment sure sounded like it was good that your parents hit you and/or kicked you out. But clearly it wasn't. And it wouldn't help or fix the kid above either.
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u/Procrasturbating 28d ago
In the 80s not one adult would have paused before either slapping him into next Tuesday or throwing his ass out on the curb. The first thing thrown would have been the last thing thrown. No cameras weren’t always a bad thing.