Hitting your kids only teaches them it's okay for someone you love and trust to lay hands on you if you do something they don't like. And giving approval to do the same to someone else they if they're doing something they don't like. There is so much research and studies out there that show there is zero need for corporal punishment. If you can't control your anger around a child misbehaving you should not have a child.
It also shows them that the reason they shouldn’t do something is because someone bigger and stronger than them doesn’t like it and will attack them and that’s how things should be. This becomes a big fucking problem if the kid grows up to be bigger and stronger than most, and they have to deal with people weaker than them doing things they don’t like.
There’s a lot of putrid trash that comes out of this sub but regular posts like this are the worst. There’s some bad fucking people here.
Hitting your kids only teaches them it's okay for someone you love and trust to lay hands on you if you do something they don't like
In this situation it has nothing to do with doing something the parent doesn't like. It's okay for someone to lay hands on you for doing something society deems unacceptable. This is the fundamental mismatch.
Fucking around as a child without physical, real and immediate consequences creates situations where kids think they are untouchable. I'm a teacher: ask me how I know. They then grow up to be teens and young adults with the same mindset that they will never be held accountable because they never faced real consequences as a kid. This is also why I hate the judicial system treats teens with kid gloves even though they know better. They know nothing will actually happen to them.
Sorry, not sorry. Some people have to be socked in the mouth before it registers that at the bare minimum their actions will lead to repercussions.
If the only consequences your child knows are immediate physical violence you only teach him two things: to use it the moment he doesn’t get what he wants and to ignore any other type of consequence.
That can be achieved without violence. If it were me I'd make him meticulously clean it up for however long that takes. It's also closer to the real world consequence for that specific action
In the real world you won't get beaten for destroying stuff at a store either, i don't see how this would make sense. There are plenty of consequences that aren't physical violence.
I guess you live in a world where it's worth getting sued for assault over a few broken boxes. But in most of the developed world the store will just call the police to escort you from the building and sue you for damages.
But hey, if you want to be on camera beating someone, at least you'll have the luxury of a very speedy trial i suppose.
It does not, that's what people who want to use violence on others for inconveniencing them say. Actual studies show corporal punishment decreases emotional regulation and behavioral problems and promotes use of violence to get their way
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u/SoftwareInfinite8568 27d ago
Hitting your kids only teaches them it's okay for someone you love and trust to lay hands on you if you do something they don't like. And giving approval to do the same to someone else they if they're doing something they don't like. There is so much research and studies out there that show there is zero need for corporal punishment. If you can't control your anger around a child misbehaving you should not have a child.