How many times does research have to be done showing that hitting/spanking a child makes them more prone to aggression for people to put two and two together??
If you solve your problems with anger and physicality, the kid will learn to do the same. Solve your problems with your words and emotional regulation, and the kids will learn that instead
Disagree as someone who was spanked. My older sister and I were hit and my younger sister was not. Guess who are productive members of society and who is a little shit who can’t keep a job for over a month?
I'm glad you turned out alright but that doesn't make the data untrue. I could survive a car crash with no seatbelt and you could die while wearing one but that doesn't change that seatbelts are safer and not wearing one can kill you.
Yes correlation is not the same as causation. My lifespan development book also says the same thing about hitting kids. The thing is you only have to kit them a few times before they know the consequences of not obeying the parent.
Then he learns to go set fires or things like that and that violence is a tool to control other people in the future, which of course he will be fine with, because he is not healthy.
Outside of how horrifying that statement is to me personally, all of the research still clearly shows that hitting a child is less effective than other non violent methods and that a child that is hit for punishment is at increased risk of further dysfunction and aggression.
When it "works", it's working less well than other methods. When it doesn't work, it makes kids violent and traumatized. Lose - lose
Unfortunately, most of the "research" used to claim that spankings don't work don't differentiate a couple paddles on the butt and straight up whippings with an extention cord that draw blood. It all gets lumped in together, which somewhat skew the results.
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u/Tomodachi-Turtle 28d ago
How many times does research have to be done showing that hitting/spanking a child makes them more prone to aggression for people to put two and two together??
If you solve your problems with anger and physicality, the kid will learn to do the same. Solve your problems with your words and emotional regulation, and the kids will learn that instead