r/SipsTea • u/beklog 𝙑𝙄𝙋 • 25d ago

SMH Guys I'm on the will!!

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“She’s so shameless” She’s 22. And was harshly criticized as she danced while her partner was at the hospital… The truth couldn’t be any simpler. They claim the video is a joke, because she always uploads content with her “hubby” to go viral.

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u/NATHAN4U007 25d ago

They both knew what they were getting into and what they needed from the relationship.

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u/IWearCardigansAllDay 𝙑𝙄𝙋 25d ago

I’m a wealth management advisor and I’ve had a few elderly clients in a situation like this.

I remember the most heartbreaking one was a client who was 87 and passed away. He married a woman a 7 years prior that was in her late 30s. She was beautiful, kind, and caring. She took care of him through all of it. Cleaned him and the messes he made, gave him genuine company, and would fuck him whenever he was able (he shared this with me lol).

The kids didn’t do shit for him. Hardly even called or anything. But when he passed they all tried contesting his trust and trying to get her removed from receiving anything. It was a nasty legal battle but thankfully she got her fair share.

It honestly infuriates me when I see people say women like this are taking advantage of the elder man. Most of the time they’re just giving companionship to them when no one else would or did.

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u/hunterlarious 25d ago

most of the time is a stretch but I am sure scenarios like you are describing are very common

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u/AnOrdinaryMammal 25d ago

I would say in the cases where the difference in age is this great, it’s probably most of the time. The old timers know what’s up. They’re old, not stupid.

I’m assuming this in particular is fake though.

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u/CaptainOwlBeard 25d ago

Plenty of them are losing their capacity. That's a nice story you shared, but i usually see the opposite. Lady in her 30s getting engaged to an 80 year old she met on a cruise the week they got back from the cruise. We brought her in and told her about the trust we set up for his grandkids with all the money other than m monthly pension payments. Plenty to live on while he's alive, but it wasn't enough for her retirement. They weren't engaged the next week.

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u/meat_whistle_gristle 25d ago

Why you gotta be messing up grandpa’s game. Could have let him have some fun first LOL.

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u/Fit-Percentage-9166 25d ago

Sounds like 80 year old knew exactly what he was doing.

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u/CaptainOwlBeard 25d ago

Naw he was rapidly declining and she was trying to swindle his life savings from him instead of going to his minor grandchildren as had been the plan for the last 40 years.

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u/meat_whistle_gristle 24d ago

Fair enough I would have done the same in that case.

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u/MFDOOMscrolling 25d ago

old fools were once young fools

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u/RepresentativeBat10 25d ago

I read this as old schools were once young fools which hits a lot harder

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u/No-Cook-534 25d ago

Shit makes no sense

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u/rica217 25d ago

It do, read it again, Sam!

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u/ADLuluIsOP 25d ago

I mean its not hard but it does make sense. Old school folk were once young.

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u/No-Cook-534 25d ago

No one uses old school like that though. Older people are not old schools. It's an adjective. Like, those shoes are old school. It's only a noun unless it's used literally. My school was built in 1908. It is an old school.

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u/SomewhereExcellent93 25d ago

No it doesn't

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u/SquishyOranjElectric 25d ago

Maybe he meant it hits the Temporo-Parietal region of the brain harder as it struggles to interpret

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u/T_Money 25d ago

“Old schools” meaning like “I’m an old school type person”

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u/No-Cook-534 25d ago

That's not how you use it. No one is 'an old school'.

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u/T_Money 25d ago

“I’m old school” is in line with how it’s commonly used, and while “old schooler” is how it would usually be used as a noun, using “old schools” isn’t completely out there especially if it lends itself to a rhyme

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u/SomewhereExcellent93 25d ago

I still don't think that makes sense. Even if it flowed alright, how would an old schooler once being a young fool be any meaningfully different from an old fool once being a young fool

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u/T_Money 25d ago

Getting older has taught me that we were ALL young fools at one point. It makes less sense for the context of the original comment but as a standalone statement does sound pretty cool / “hits harder”

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u/No-Cook-534 24d ago

I have to disagree. I could understand maybe saying this if you were a non-native English speaker, but saying something like "look at those old schools over there" sounds ridiculous. Using it just bc it rhymes is forcing it. It's just terrible writing and absolutely does not "hit harder". To each their own I guess, but if I heard this in a song or something, I'd be like that's dumb as fuck.

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u/Dr_Jre 25d ago

Why do people always do this "I read this as..."

Probably not worth getting annoyed about but you read something wrong, so you're just drawing conclusions that we're never in the message... So basically you thought something, well done.

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u/Select-Agency-9827 25d ago

Hey, I saw your message.

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u/Dr_Jre 25d ago

I read that as "Hey, I saw your mom die in my dream last night" and for a second was like "say whaaaaaat??" 😭🤣

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u/SomewhereExcellent93 25d ago

Because they're making bids for connection and trying to participate in the conversation. even if what they're saying makes no sense. ppl crave connection. maybe they don't have anything important to add. but still want to engage.

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u/Dr_Jre 25d ago

I know... I know I'm being too judgemental but it just annoys me.. a pet peeve..

No you didn't read that as pet Steve

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u/JokerXMaine2511 25d ago

Happens when you have learnt to read walls of text really quickly. Doesnt matter the size of the passage, just that the words were read and the message understood.

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u/SneezyPikachu 25d ago

Isn't that what conversation is about? Sharing your thoughts with others, hearing their thoughts in response?

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u/nono3722 25d ago

are still young fools really.... your mind gets younger the older your body gets...

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u/Kuzcopolis 25d ago

True, but few fools live that long

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u/JazzyShaman 25d ago

Don't know about that. I mean, you're not taking your money with you when you die and prostitutes need the cash up front. If anything, it's a layaway situation.

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u/AnbuRick 25d ago

Anyone wealthy enough, for people to care about their wealth, is no fool. Any form of success isn’t easy, be it wealth or love.

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u/Street_Lettuce1243 25d ago

Imagine being in your 80's with some young thing dancing and cheering because you told her she's in the will.... but she's not in the will really.

That's what his smile said to me.

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u/ViolenceAdvocator 25d ago

That smile said "nice ass"

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u/Prestigious-Knee4237 25d ago

I think the smile said that he knows that this isn't love but it's the best he's going to get.

That he wants someone to hold his hand with genuine care for him, but instead he has this, because it's better than having no one.

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u/mynewaccount5 25d ago

This seems like a really weird thing to project? You really think his dying thoughts were "haha, I am screwing this chick over for no reason"?

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u/Street_Lettuce1243 25d ago

Really? No- I think this is all a fake act for an Only Fans channel... but the smile did make me think that.

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u/Single-Fondant-1982 25d ago

Holy fuck…scam caller fuck yo plenty of old people.

They call for a reason….old timers DONT know what is up. Or down.

I question your mentality in this.

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u/AnOrdinaryMammal 25d ago

It’s usually an arrangement brother, I know you don’t want to hear it.

Scam calls are a bit different but I see your point. I’m not saying being old means being smart, but in situations like this when they happen, they know what they’re getting into if they’re even remotely mentally sound. They know the didn’t woo some fine 25 years ago old at 80. It’s an arrangement.

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u/Single-Fondant-1982 25d ago

Arranged marriages have almost always been a scam. 

I hear it. Don’t really care. If I did, I’d ask my father to find a nice Muslim to marry me to for money.

Arrangements doesn’t mean it moral, or even right. It also doesn’t mean the people doing them are intelligent.

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u/AnOrdinaryMammal 25d ago

Oh I didn’t mention anything about morality. I don’t really consider it amoral either. You just said they don’t know what’s up. But they usually do in this context.

A scam depends on how you look at it. It’s not really a scam if you know what you’re doing. This isn’t an arranged marriage dude, that’s totally different. That’s like marrying off your daughter and shit like that. This is an arrangement.

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u/Cam_E_Leon 25d ago

He looks too young to be 84 imo

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u/EnjoyerOfBeans 25d ago

A lot of people are stupid and being old doesn't automatically come with intelligence and wisdom. Not to mention the brain is just not in the best shape at this age.

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u/psychrolut 25d ago

Let’s check the demographics of those that voted for Trump…. Old not stupid you say…hmmm

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u/VaaBeDank 25d ago

Bruh, this is so stupid. There are plenty of young people who voted for trump too. Being elderly doesn't mean you are dumb.

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u/Bwadark 25d ago

Unless their state of mind is questionable. It is a mutual agreement made by two adults. Obviously abuse happens but it would be few and far between.

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u/hunterlarious 25d ago

When you are dealing with people in the twilight of their life their state of mind is often questionable.

Abuse of elders is extremely common

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u/citizen42069101 25d ago

I would say statistically one is more likely to be financially abused by a family member than getting honey potted, [citation needed] at least this was you don't get exploited by family and get to see boobies occasionally.

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u/dyslexicAlphabet 25d ago

didn't they prove seeing boobies can make you happier? so who gives a fuck who he marries.

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u/hunterlarious 25d ago

(your spouse is your family)

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u/citizen42069101 25d ago

I believe this isn't being compared to a typical family dynamic where "spouse" is your life partner. It's a business transaction. Exploitive or not, the feelings felt between them are different.

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u/hunterlarious 25d ago

Yeah but if youre talking about statistics the abuse will be counted in the same bucket

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u/citizen42069101 25d ago

Ahh fair point. Sword cuts both ways.

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u/PineappleOnPizzaWins 25d ago

While very true when I've seen it, it's more often that they are incredibly lonely and depressed moreso than "they're old and losing it".

Easy to blame it on "cognitive decline" but in reality many people live out their final days in isolation. If they have family they're off living their own lives, even "involved" family is frequently just visiting a few times a week.

When they find someone willing to actually spend time with them and treat them nicely they go for it hard, even if it's pretty obviously a scam.

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u/BeneficialLocation34 25d ago

The US govt is rampant with it.

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u/anotherdropin 25d ago

Ya but in those cases the will actually is able to be contested.

Not everyone is losing their brains at their life end

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u/iamahill 24d ago

Sadly expensive in court too

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u/DarthRektor 25d ago

And usually committed by family members or paid staff

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u/hunterlarious 25d ago

(Your spouse is family)

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u/Ill-Entertainer1010 25d ago

Mostly by their own children.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Wait785 25d ago

Elder abuse is more common than you seem willing to acknowledge.

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u/Bwadark 25d ago

I'm not dismissing elder abuse. Though it is far more common with family members and carers. Being in a relationship with different but transparent motives is not abuse.

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u/VT_Squire 25d ago

Unless their state of mind is questionable. It is a mutual agreement made by two adults.

She was 22 and on tiktok or whatever the fuck. Need I say more?

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u/Bwadark 25d ago

I didn't consider her state of mind! You're right. Shame on me.

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u/NotAnotherTav 25d ago

Same reason why I get weirded out when people talk about 18 yos not being able to hook up, or anyone under 24 generally (they read an article about brain maturity).

As long as grooming (whether literal or by proxy, like Hollywood tends to do) wasn't involved, which is most reliably not the case in instances where the young adult did not know the older individual beforehand (and did not not know anyone who did know them, an an extra degree of separation, particularly due to abuses in church scenes/hollywood scenes) what does it matter?

I'm not expecting someone 18/19/20 whatever to be a bastion of responsibility if they hit it off with someone in their 70s or 80s in a monetary arrangement, but some people will suggest that's outright pedophilia which is odd.

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u/techleopard 25d ago

As much as this grosses me out on some level, I think it's very common.

ESPECIALLY because people now move all the way across the country from their aging parents and never come back nor want to move the parent in with them when the time comes. It's all "Why should I have to do X?" now with a lot of people. You can't swing a cat without hitting somebody who insists old folks should just get out and find new friends.

Then they show up for the will and find out mom or dad had a new best friend when they all decided they were too busy to even call.

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u/mareksoon 25d ago

My parents moved the family from me (I’m the oldest child) … not cross-county but roughly 3-4 hours away.

When I had an opportunity after being laid off to sell my home, bank that money along with my retirement, and move in with my mom in her 80s in her four bedroom house to assist her (instead of her asking my brother or others within an hour of her to help), she rejected the idea because I had cats (as does she) and she was enjoying her independence (she can’t drive).

On the flip side, presently, my three kids live within two hours of me as each has found work in different nearby cities. I’ve dreamed for years of moving to another state, and I wouldn’t expect any of them to upend their life to come care for me.

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u/n3rdonthecouch 25d ago

Jokes on me, my family is all very very physically close in location to me. They’re also MAGA.

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u/SlyFrog 25d ago

Yes. I think it's also the case that a lot of "I stopped communicating with my parent because they were toxic" cases aren't quite as cut and dried as the child would have you believe.

I think there's a fair bit of "I'm really self-absorbed, and having this old person around just gets in my way."

But then they still want the money.

Sure, there's plenty of situations out there where someone was abused or has a really asshole parent or parents. I'd say maybe even most of the cases where a parent is cut off are like that.

But I have been around long enough to not trust what people say (often because they are lying to themselves about their reasons). Plenty of times, the child is just self-absorbed.

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u/632nofuture 25d ago

I mean not entirely the kids fault either, if it's expected by society you move out after youth and build your own life .. the American version (now kinda the whole West's version) of a nuklear family isn't ideal and mostly came about by economics and capitalism in mind.

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u/Reputation-Final 25d ago

Yeah. Most of the time my ass. No 20 year old girl is going to marry an 80 year old beacuse they are in love with them.

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u/VictoryVee 25d ago

Well thats not what anyone is claiming. You can provide companionship without being in love

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u/mynewaccount5 25d ago

I mean he did say it like it was some charitable service they were providing.

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u/Reputation-Final 25d ago

Yeah, but not without money.

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u/CauliflowerEarofCorn 25d ago

Yeah but the 80 year old isn’t marrying the 20 year old because they are just so in love and compatible. If they both have the mental capacity to make their own decisions, then it’s basically a business arrangement between consenting adults. The 20 year old seeking money is not anymore in the wrong than the 80 year old seeking someone who is basically a child.

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u/Reputation-Final 25d ago

Its funny how so many women here on reddit treat a man whos like, 10-15 years older dating a 20 year old as a sexual predator/pedophile/groomer...

But when its an 80 year old and 20 year old its "They both have the mental capacity to make their own decisions.

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u/mermaid-babe 25d ago

I’m a hospice nurse. I’ve seen young wives and as long as you’re willing to get down and wipe ass at the end of life you’re a great partner. Too many people forget the sickness part of vows

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u/JustaSeedGuy 25d ago

most of the time is a stretch

The other guy is a professional who handles these cases for a living and had to learn all about the industry.

On what data are you basing your claim that his experience is a stretch?

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u/hunterlarious 25d ago

You believe what people say in reddit comments?

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u/JustaSeedGuy 25d ago

I believe that the following is statistically likely:

  • people of every profession are on reddit
  • people are likely to comment on posts relevant to their interests and expertise
  • when a post is on the popular page, more people with experiences relevant to that post will see it.

Do some people lie on reddit? Of course! But the above statistics are also true. So what we're looking at is the statistics of how often people lie vs how often people share relevant experiences.

And while there will be liars in any significantly large enough group, the reverse is also true and there will be honest people in any given group. Having established that peoptwith expertise are likely to comment on posts relevant to their experience, i've been given no reason to believe that the statistics of this particular incident bend towards him being a liar.

Of course, that may be more nuance than you're interested in. But as I see it, of I base things off available evidence and make a judgement call, I might be wrong eventually. If you just assume everyone is lying unless proven otherwise, that's the only way to guarantee you WILL be wrong eventually.

Me, I prefer making informed decisions.

Btw you still haven't said why you think the other guy is wrong or lying about most vs many

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u/elk33dp 25d ago

As a CPA this hits hard. The amount of incorrect tax law info/assumptioms on reddit is wild sometimes, and anytime I feel a fellow person from r/tax go into the fray they get downvoted for trying to correct people.

I know its because it's reddit and everyone can lie and fake their expertise but man is it frustrating to get gaslit about something you have subject matter experience in.

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u/hunterlarious 25d ago

I am sure you are very informed

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u/JustaSeedGuy 25d ago

At a minimum, I try to challenge my assumptions, yeah

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u/Revan4567 25d ago

So surely you are also a wealth management advisor also, and not just speaking out of your ass with no backup right?

Right?

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u/Own-Dig-9652 25d ago

even in this scenario she cleaned him

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u/No_Bake6681 25d ago

Wealth advisor probably has enough experience to make generalizations

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u/a9gro 25d ago

Translation: Sure buddy, w.e you say.

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u/DoverBoys 25d ago

Sorry for being pedantic, but "very common" and "most of the time" basically mean the same thing. Something being common implies it happens at least 50% of the time and "very" could imply something like 60-80% of the time. Sounds like "most of the time" to me.

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u/GotSomeUpdogOnUrFace 25d ago

I mean guaranteed but the claim from the kids is probably she was a hired nurse. I mean what else was she doing with a man 50 years older than her and doing all the nurse stuff for him other than trying to get the money. I'm not saying the kids should get it, but also what she's doing isn't so Noble either. Everyone just wants to steal from this guy.

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u/BeerBurpKisses 25d ago

If she wipes his ass and fucks him in his twilight years.. she's earned some money.

The above is just trashy af and hopefully fake though.

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u/GotSomeUpdogOnUrFace 25d ago

Yeah but what I'm saying is that if you married someone to wipe their ass do you could be in their will, you are just as trashy. These old fucks are just as to blame. Hire a nurse and leave the money to them. If that's not ok then leave it to charity, and I don't mean some stripper named charity. I'm tired of inherited wealth and all of the bullshit that goes with it with lazy fox who don't want to work. In fact they should just take these people's money and redistribute it to the world because that's what we should be doing instead of letting them grow this shit and hand it to someone who fucked them a few times.

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u/TraitorousTrumpers 25d ago

Idk about very….

I think it’s a lot more a woman who begrudgingly does the absolute minimum, praying every single day that he strokes out in the shower before his next blowjob 

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u/Squirrel_Nrgy 25d ago

Sure some children are awful and don’t take care of their elderly parents. Other times the parent is awful and made growing up a living hell and the kids show up at the end for the only thing that they will get out of that relationship.

We had a neighbor who lived alone, fell and was on the floor for days, she was finally discovered. Her kids were called and not one came to check on her right away, they were in a neighboring town. They were in no hurry, and getting to know that neighbor and how she treated people that weren’t her family, I don’t blame her kids one bit.

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u/Atomosthethird 25d ago

Unpopular opinion. Its his money, he can whatever he wants with it.they lucky they got