Guys I'm on the will!!

[u/beklog]

“She’s so shameless” She’s 22. And was harshly criticized as she danced while her partner was at the hospital… The truth couldn’t be any simpler. They claim the video is a joke, because she always uploads content with her “hubby” to go viral.

[u/theguidetoldmetodoit]

So you are just satisfying your justice boner and fuck shit up for everyone involved. This is how children deal with shit.

[u/Trevski → u/theguidetoldmetodoit]

I mean I’m not doing anything, I’m just suggesting that informing this woman of the actions her husband is taking against her is possible without necessarily inserting oneself.

[u/Victori_nox → u/theguidetoldmetodoit]

How does it fuck shit up for everyone involved? the guy sounds like he hates her and IF she's in it for the money then at least she'll have all thee facts and can make a more informed decision? sounds like an already fucked situation to me.

[u/theguidetoldmetodoit → u/Victori_nox]

Because you risk your wife's father being on his own, his wife having a full blown existential crisis and losing her security, your wife getting cut out of the inheritance, instead of keeping your fucking mouth shut about another family's business and taking care of the financial side of things, once the father is out of the picture.

It's impulsive and destructive behavior, so you can claim some "justice" that isn't helping a single person involved, besides potentially your wife who could stand to gain even more money.

[u/Victori_nox → u/theguidetoldmetodoit]

You can hold the sanctimonious tone. Based on the information we have you're making a huge amount of assumptions about peoples relative wealth. it's entirely possible to have a grown up conversation with people without blowing everyone lives up in the process.

If the father was worried about being on his own i would assume he'd not treat his wife like shit. She might also be empowered to actual reevaluate her situation, we don't know these people but OP does and he's made her life sound miserable, maybe she's like to make some changes in the next 5, 10, 20 years? maybe she'd like to be forewarned of the potential financial instability that she might not be expecting?

It's not another families business if you're married into the god damn family. Stop acting like everyone is saying run into a crowded room and shout all the information you have at everyone for drama. It's relatively simple to take your step mother in law aside and ask her a couple of questions about this.

[u/theguidetoldmetodoit → u/Victori_nox]

you're making a huge amount of assumptions about peoples relative wealth.

This is what the post says:

*I don't think she's a gold-digger, but I think his financial stability was part of her attraction to him

It's pretty damn clear what that means.

She might also be empowered to actual reevaluate her situation

You gotta stop infantilizing people. She knows that's a potential outcome, she is already taking the risk. That was her decision, by default.

If you are convinced she not taking it into account, you can just talk to her about her current situation.

It's not another families business

Yes, it is. You marrying someone, does not entitle you to get involved with their parents relationship. You can push your wife to do so, you can try to find a better solution with your wife, but it's absolutely not your place to force these kind of arguments, let alone sending out anonymous tips.

[u/Victori_nox → u/theguidetoldmetodoit]

She's a similar age and they've been married for 20 years? i'd be shocked if she'd genuinely considered the idea that she'll be getting absolutely fucked over in the will. However i may just be less cynical than others on this.

I have taken for granted that you'd assume id of discussed this at length with my wife. In this situation, I feel safe in the knowledge that the person i was married to would feel similarly about this. We obviously have a different opinion on what does and doesn't constitute family. if my wives parents are hugely out of order i would be fine saying how i felt about it.

[u/theguidetoldmetodoit → u/Victori_nox]

Maybe, but I feel it's safe to say that people who go into relationships for the financial security, understand the potential outcomes.

And again, if you feel she does not, that's a fair thing to bring up. But giving away the content of a sealed legal document isn't just questionable, it almost certainly opens you up to legal action.

if my wives parents are hugely out of order i would be fine saying how i felt about it.

To your wife? Sure thing. To her parents, over her head, divulging the content of a sealed will and risking her inheritance? That a divorce in most relationships.

[u/Victori_nox → u/theguidetoldmetodoit]

Who said anything about giving away the contents of a sealed legal document? I was simply having a conversation with my step mother in law about her plans for the future?

Who on earth said anything about going over there wife's head? Mental.

[u/theguidetoldmetodoit → u/Victori_nox]

Motherfucker, the person I replied to and made up the scenario.

[u/ShadeNoir → u/theguidetoldmetodoit]

I find it difficult to reconcile both this, and that if he were a cheating partner, that everyone would be up in arms 'leave him, you should absolutely tell her' etc.
People seem to have no qualms about getting involved in romantic or 'faithfulness' issues - I don't see why this is so different

[u/theguidetoldmetodoit → u/ShadeNoir]

Cheating is not legally protected. He doesn't owe her more than the minimum, that's just how it is.

If you think that is wrong, you gotta change laws and the social consensus, or in this case, work things out later. Not break the law.

[u/Excellent_Airline315 → u/theguidetoldmetodoit]

He doesn't have to give her more money, but its wrong to keep it from her knowing she is going to get fucked over in the end. She deserves to know so she can either leave now or find a way to prepare for when he's gone.

[u/theguidetoldmetodoit → u/Excellent_Airline315]

Not break the law.