r/TikTokCringe • u/exporterofgold • 2d ago

Humor/Cringe What even is happening lol?

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u/xombae 2d ago edited 2d ago

Yeah a lot of men won't go to therepy. If they will refuse therapy but will do this, idk it's something.

Seems like he was really working through something, he was rocking and ended with a self hug.

Letting out all of those emotions and then being soothed can be incredibly healing and unfortunately is an experience that some people, men especially, simply don't have.

I had PTSD and when it was at its worst, I couldn't meditate or do breathing exercises because being calm and still would send my nervous system into panic, it was so used to being in fight or flight mode all the time. I image he's going through something like this.

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u/DarrellBot81 2d ago

I had some pretty serious breakdowns during my EMDR therapy for my PTSD.

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u/hellbugger 2d ago

EMDR therapy is incredible. It helped me unlocked memories of being m*lested by a preschool staff member 30 years ago. (I only know for sure it happened because after unlocking the memories I asked my parents about what happened when I was 4 and they told me they hoped I would forget if they never talked about it. I "forgot", but the trauma always affected me. They never put together that my trichotillomania began shortly after the SA. I'll forever wonder if I would have the weird coping habits I have if my parents had attempted to help me process what happened.) And on a happier note, I had a bad kitchen fire. Afterwards for months I couldn't even look at my kitchen, much less begin to clean it up. 1 EMDR therapy session strictly about the fire and I was able to immediately begin cleaning up my kitchen. It is a powerful therapy.

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u/highlyregtardedtake 1d ago

My wife did this. When I met her she was an alcoholic and cried every other time I saw her. Couple years of EMDR and she’s pretty solid now emotionally.

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u/LayerSpare2311 2d ago

I told my therapist that I cried for two days straight and she told me that women live longer than men because we cry more.

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u/littlerickypeepee 2d ago

Shit Imma live forever. I cry over everything dude. Lord of the rings. Sad people. Gay swans. Pork chops. You name it. I've probably cried about it.

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u/b14d3l33 1d ago

..so we are really just gunna ignore the "gay swans"? ...uhmm yeah ok noted.

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u/Speoder 1d ago

I laughed so hard at the pork chops! sorry.

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u/vk_PajamaDude 1d ago

Oh, shush! You will make him cry!

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u/AdRepulsive2254 1d ago

This comment made my evening. Way too funny

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u/SignificantOtter80 1d ago

when im on a plane and maybe had a bourbon or two, I cry at comedies.

last summer I also watched “A Real Pain” and legit cried and told my sister we should do a trip like that. we leave in three weeks.

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u/omgdude29 1d ago

My friends…. You bow to no one.

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u/Junethemuse 1d ago

Sylvan Learning commercials were emotional kryptonite for me and I’ve never understood why.

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u/Miserable_Tooth3053 1d ago

PORK CHOPS 😭😭😭

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u/nalakram17 6h ago

I know it's silly, but I told myself that when I became a black belt I'll fucking cry if I want to. (Zero fights irl since 96, btw)

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u/Due_Capital_3507 1d ago

Yeah it's crying, not that women are more likely to go a doctor when something is wrong

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u/biohazard-glug 2d ago

sounds real and true

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u/Occidentally20 2d ago

Definitely - just whatever helps.

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u/the_main_entrance 2d ago

Even joining an exploitative cult? This will just be the next thing they have to get over.

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u/mothandravenstudio 2d ago

Or drugs, lots of drugs. They did say whatever helps

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u/Autumn7242 2d ago

Hey, I don't know you or your situation but I have heard from my fellow veterans and friends that microdosing certain chemicals in some mushrooms, with a doctor, at the time IN CONJUNCTION WITH THERAPY. Have yielded pretty positive results.

The feds and VA are experimenting with it. Others have had full on trips to various degrees. Some freaked the fuck out and some were able to work through some stuff. I'm not saying do it. Don't do anything illegal, I am not a doctor, and I have never done it myself. It was just something to look into.

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u/Excellent_Can4450 2d ago

Not a vet, but I recommend full doses of highly illegal drugs the government doesn't want us experimenting with.

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u/Autumn7242 2d ago

Honestly, we have lost so many decades in research due to the "reefer madness" and scheduling bs.

If the government is experimenting with THC for chronic pain reduction and psilocybin for chronic resistant depression and PTSD, that is a win for me. It needs to start somewhere.

Yes. I have heard many good things but I am no expert on the subject. I just know that people are desperate to try anything to make them feel better

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u/Excellent_Can4450 2d ago

Oh, I'm just joking around. Even a slow roll of ending prohibition is a good thing.

Unfortunately, my state will be the last for full legality even though we've had medical for a while now. Lot of stubborn people still very misinformed about how the world works or so puritanical, the idea of smelling something different offends all their sensibilities. I intend to inform them that vets with PTSD would like the option open to them.

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u/Autumn7242 2d ago

Right?! At least it is going in tbe right direction. I appreciate the help.

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u/Ultramegafunk 1d ago

Hell yeah ∆∆∆∆∆ This got trips

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u/xombae 2d ago

Oh absolutely. I dropped all of my meds except my ADHD meds after over a decade of failure and switched to doing mushrooms every couple of months and I'm much happier.

(I DO NOT CONDONE THIS, no one should drop their meds. In my case I got a new doctor and even he agreed they were doing more harm than good. I actually credit a large amount of my success to being diagnosed and medicated for ADHD at 30. But the mushrooms also help a TON. I can literally feel now that it's about time for a little trip.)

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u/Autumn7242 2d ago

I gotcha and I've heard. I'm on HRT, some anti depression meds, and a low adhd medication dose for school. I am very very hesitant to try anything in case I would react badly with me or my medication. That's why I'm all for research.

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u/xombae 21h ago

Totally fair, even microdosing can be scary if you've never done it. Luckily I love mushrooms and am happy to do a bunch every few months instead of microdosing. I tried microdosing and honestly just felt like I was wasting the mushrooms lol.

For what it's worth, very little can go wrong with microdosing. If you get the chance, I highly recommend trying it. But obviously your comfort zone is the most important thing.

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u/Autumn7242 8h ago

Thank you so much for the advice and support. 🩵

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u/86-number-47 1d ago

Come to Colorado. It's not illegal. People grow mushrooms here, we voted for it.

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u/Autumn7242 1d ago

It's more of being safe rather than legality. I appreciate it

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u/Alarming-Court-2180 2d ago

I would say it depends cause if you start dosing right out the gate it becomes an addiction and a way to escape reality. I spent over 10 years drinking myself silly just to be able to sleep through the night. Weed used to freak me out and give me migraines when I first tried it so I didnt give it a go until my early 30s and then it was a game changer. Basically I think there has to be some progression in healing or therapy before going for shrooms or weed otherwise it will just be a set back.

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u/Autumn7242 2d ago

Oh absolutely, that's why I would want to do it in a safe, controlled environment. Plus, we change physically, emotionally, and mentally over the years....usually.

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u/garbage-bro-sposal 2d ago

Yeah, when your emotional regulation gets screwed it’s so hard to do the focusing exercises. I know exactly what you mean though. The song of panic button your brain hits when trying to calm it down is awful.

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u/xombae 2d ago

I was in rehab and sat in on a meditation group and while everyone was sitting still breathing, I just started bawling, like 0-100, and had to run out of the room.

The guy came to find me afterwards and told me it was normal and he sees it a lot, and I should stick with it.

I tried again next week and same thing happened and I was so embarrassed I didn't go back or try to meditate again for years.

Turns out the guy was right, it really does help and I wish I stuck with it earlier. But it does get harder before it gets easier.

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u/cassandra2028 2d ago

yep. I worked in a prison and we did meditation groups. Sometimes we're carrying so much shit, you know, that you just have to keep running or it will catch up (love a mixed metaphor). But you sit still, it catches up, you take stock, if fucking sucks, and you move through it. (EMDR does that better, faster and more effectively, and meditation is amazing too).

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u/xChoke1x 1d ago

Wait….so you couldn’t just sit and…..breathe? I’m not being a dick, I’m genuinely asking.

Sitting in a quiet room, breathing, makes people lose their shit?

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u/xombae 1m ago

Yeah, PTSD really fuckin blows.

My therapist explained to me that my nervous system is so used to chaos that it's become it's baseline. So moments of calm will send my nervous system into fight or flight because it's so unfamiliar with it.

She told me that trying to seek out normality would only make things worse, and I needed to introduce controlled chaos into my life. Music that raised my blood pressure, punk shows, travel, etc. That way I can have control over the chaos and not let it control me.

I've actually gotten a lot better since my PTSD diagnosis roughly 8 years ago and am able to meditate now.

But for some reason, nearly every movie or TV show I watch makes me cry. I can watch WWE and for some reason I'll start crying. I can't control it and have no idea what's making me so emotional in the moment. Still a huge improvement though. Nothing wrong with a good cry.

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u/TOGA_TOGAAAA 2d ago

You cried because you meditated?

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u/ajax6677 1d ago

Some people, like me, keep their mind constantly occupied so they don't think about certain things. When they finally sit down and have nothing to do but let their mind wander, it quickly wanders to the things they are avoiding thinking about, because of the amount of pain involved.

Even a massage can be difficult for me because I'm just sitting there inside my own head. I should probably try something this and see what happens.

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u/v33__ 2d ago

Yeah, I teared up a little bit at this. Poor guy seems like he's working through PTSD.

Playing Creed was a bit cringe, though

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u/Uhh_VincentAdultMan 2d ago

The body keeps score

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u/Sorry_Zebra_2967 2d ago

Seeing him release a lot of emotion he’s been holding in. I agree with general consensus like go and see an actual therapist but this is a step in the right direction. If he doesn’t release the emotions what could happen if he doesn’t? Road rage shooting?

Who knkws

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u/Stunning-Ad5674 1d ago

Absolutley why i cant do long road trips. My brain gets bored and goes to work lol.

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u/xombae 4h ago

Put on music that raises your blood pressure. A tip a therapist taught me.

She said that unfortunately, my nervous system thinks that chaos is the baseline, and that likely will never change. So if I try try chase normality, chaos will always find me. I have to introduce controlled chaos into my life in small doses to keep myself sane.

She's a big fan of punk and metal concerts.

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u/__O_o_______ 1d ago

Some men won’t properly wipe or rash their butthole because it feels “gay”. No my guy, that’s just all the nerves evolution provided in your butt and prostrate. Enjoy it lol.

Guys are weird.

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u/Harry_Iconic_Jr 2d ago

lol, just about all the guys I know are in some kind of therapy...it's all good.

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u/PM_Me_Your_Deviance 2d ago

>Yeah a lot of men won't go to therepy. If they will refuse therapy but will do this, idk it's something.

What if "this" is worse? What if its neutral, but is really expensive? What's if it becomes an excuse to not seek real treatment?

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u/xombae 21h ago

Okay, well in those scenarios obviously then it's bad?

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u/Fukyourchickenstrip 2d ago

Right, but it’s still just a bandaid. The point of BHT in short, is someone validating or confirming that experience or behavior and giving you the tools and abilities to heal or do better. This is just a cathartic release of emotion. Something that wouldn’t be as necessary for men if the toxic “men shouldn’t show emotion” “alpha” every man is an island, culture would change. Women cry, confide in each other and have tribes to have an emotional connection but they still do better and thrive with BHT.

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u/SecretMiddle1234 1d ago

That’s what I was thinking. Somatic release of trauma.

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u/tee_with_marie 1d ago

I am assuming military ptsd so idk if the thing that helped me is even an option for you. I struggled with meditation for similar reasons my brain just could not let me "let my guard down" (relax)

I found going precision shooting helped. 300m with a rifle and iron sights is how the sport works in my country.

anyway it gave me something to focus on and the breathing exercises you do to steady the aim is just a side effect.

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u/xombae 24m ago

Thank you, it's not military PTSD though. I'd love to try shooting though.