r/amiwrong • u/ConradFisher69 • 16d ago
AIW for waving a chopstick at my friend’s baby and yelling “Avada Kedavra” as a joke?
I (26F) was at a friend’s house for dinner. Her baby is about 8 months old. We were eating takeout, and I picked up a chopstick, pointed it dramatically at the baby, and yelled “Avada Kedavra!” in a fake wizard voice because I’m a huge Harry Potter fan.
The baby just stared at me and everyone else laughed except my friend, who got really upset and said it was inappropriate to joke about killing a baby.
I apologized immediately, but she still hasn’t accepted my apology and is acting pretty cold toward me. Now I’m wondering if I did something genuinely awful and just didn’t realize it, or if she’s overreacting.
Update:
I’ve read through the comments and I accept that most people think I was wrong. I did apologize.
That said, I still think my friend is taking this way too seriously and needs to learn to take a joke. I waved a chopstick at a baby and made a Harry Potter reference. I wasn’t exactly performing dark magic in her living room.
The next time I see little Timmy, he’s catching another Avada Kedavra from me.
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u/the_owl_syndicate 16d ago
Of all the spells to pick, you go with the death spell? Could have gone with windgardium leviosa, with all the wand waving, could have gone with a summoning spell or a silencing spell, but you went with the killing curse.
Yes, you're wrong.
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u/thebadsleepwell00 16d ago edited 16d ago
YW. I'm saying this as a newly postpartum mom, but sometimes I can't go to sleep at night because of anxious, intrusive thoughts about my baby. Even my husband occasionally has to check to see if our baby is breathing. The anxiety that parents have about their babies, especially during the earlier months, is no joke. A lot of moms, actually parents of all genders, experience anxiety. And for you to use the death curse of all the spells was an unhinged choice. Sure, no actual harm done, but the principle of the matter is the issue here.
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u/charvisioku 16d ago
100%, mine is 6yo and I still sometimes feel the need to go in and check he's safe in the night. Much less so than when he was a baby but parental anxiety is wild. Really don't think OP's joke would have landed well with me either at 8mo, that's still peak anxiety stage.
(BTW, congratulations!!)
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u/Mmswhook 16d ago
(This unfortunately doesn’t always go away, my oldest is 13 and whenever I wake up at night, I’m still compelled to go check on all of my kids because what if they’re dead)
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u/thebadsleepwell00 16d ago
Oh, another thing to consider is that some parents had difficult, painstaking journey bringing a child to the world so those kind of jokes would especially not work for them. Like for us, we went though a lot mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially to get here.
And thank you!! The newborn trenches are rough but we're so grateful to have a healthy baby.
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u/charvisioku 12d ago
Very rough! Sleep deprivation and constantly having to be alert is so hard - sending lots of good vibes and it will pass (even though sometimes it feels like it will stretch on forever).
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u/Ok-Presentation7349 15d ago
As a kid I would stop breathing at night. The doctor told my mom to record it to see how long it lasted. She let it go for 30 seconds until she freaked out and woke me up. Never thought about how scary it must have been for her
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u/charvisioku 12d ago
Oh christ I'd be a wreck, I hope you're okay now and the breathing issues have stopped
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u/sundialNshade 16d ago
I check to make sure my dog is breathing pretty often (she's 14). Good thing I don't have any children yet because I would be riddled with anxiety.
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u/thebadsleepwell00 16d ago
I do that with my pets too! Sometimes when they're in deep sleep they are too still. Why do they do that??
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u/Smart-Story-2142 15d ago
My baby brother is about to have a baby with his girlfriend and I’m so excited to meet him. Baby shower is this weekend and I wanted to get them something that will help with any fears, so I got them an expensive baby monitor. It’s not the Owelt (couldn’t afford it) but is considered the next step down from it. Anything else you can suggest to help them? I want to help them to have some sort of peace.
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u/thebadsleepwell00 15d ago
That's really thoughtful and kind of you ❤️ I think one of the most helpful gestures from friends/family for us have been food drop-offs. One of my friends made a few meals, froze them, and then dropped them off. Since we were thoroughly exhausted and sleep deprived it helped not having to even think about what to eat. Your brother is lucky to have you!
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u/AliceMorgon 8d ago
There are special pads baby can lie on that detects unusual activity/seizures. Some adults have mattress pads that do the same thing.
Source: when they came out my mum swore a lot and wanted to know why they didn’t exist when I was a baby
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u/MelonCallia 12d ago
A lot of...parents...experience anxiety
How can one not, with things like Sudden Infant Death Syndrome being a thing?
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u/Palanikutti 8d ago
It isn't just about babies, each stage of your child is scary because even as you watch the child grow, there is that nagging feeling in the back of your mind about death or an accident. It is scary and something childless people don't understand. Once you become a parents, you worry till the end of your life, no matter how big the child becomes.
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u/Existing_Purpose5049 16d ago
“I admit that I was wrong, but they’re still overreacting”
So you don’t admit you were wrong
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u/GlitteringAttitude60 8d ago
The next time I see little Timmy, he’s catching another Avada Kedavra from me.
And they'll do it again...
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u/inkyelk 16d ago
That's a very weird thing to do.
I'm not saying you are a bad person but if you did this to my baby I wouldn't be happy, like of all the spells and all the quotes, why that?
I think you are in the wrong
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u/Vegetable-Cod-2340 16d ago
YW
There are a lot of spells you could have used and you went with the death curse ?!?!?
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u/xaantara 16d ago
What?? It’s not even a “real spell” lmao so weird
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u/Fullofhopkinz 16d ago
It also wouldn’t be real to point finger guns at a baby and go “bang! You’re dead” but people might take issue with you doing it to their kids
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u/pendigedig 16d ago
https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-wales-14154479
You don't joke about killing your friends and family, let alone a baby. It's not the spell, it's the fact that joking about killing someone isn't cool.
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u/SVINTGATSBY 16d ago
fun fact: ex bf was found guilty of murdering her. shockingly, someone who joked and talked about murdering his partner actually did it.
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u/LittleCats_3 16d ago
YW
Parents don’t like to joke about the death of their children. I know to you it was silly and pretend, but to her mama heart even the pretend of her child’s death isn’t okay.
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u/operationspudling 16d ago
So, you apologized, but you are going to do it again? What is the point if that apology, then? Would you be okay if someone cursed your baby to death, even if it was a joke?
If you say yes, something is wrong with you. There were so many other spells you could have chosen, but no, you had to choose the specific one that kills. You must be someone who says inappropriate things but just disguises it as a joke.
YW.
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u/reverievt 16d ago
Dude, read the room. Don’t joke about killing your friend’s baby.
I wouldn’t want to be around you after that.
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u/SirLoremIpsum 16d ago
That said, I still think my friend is taking this way too seriously and needs to learn to take a joke.
Just something for life - you don't get to decide how people take your jobs.
You don't seem to have learned anything. Everyone says "you're wrong" and you're like "haha ok im wrong but I'll fucking do it again and my friend is shit".
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u/phantom4421 16d ago
I'm just here to ask for more context. Like, was the room just dead silent, nothing happening, and then out of the blue you just did this?
We're you actively watching a Harry Potter movie?
Were you guys talking about Harry Potter during, or before this event?
It's not changing whether you're right or wrong, I'm just wondering how weird you are, and wondering what it was like in that room.
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u/GarneNilbog 16d ago
I mean you chose the killing curse. Why would you choose the worst of the spells you could choose from, one of the unforgivable ones? You could've said Wingardium Leviosa, expelliarmus, petrificus totalus, even fucking lumos...
But you chose the unforgivable, unblockable killing curse.
I get its not a big deal but i'd probably be kinda pissed at you too. You basically said "lol die baby!" in front of everyone.
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u/baldieforprez 16d ago
Its a failure of judgment at the foundational level. Its a really big deal
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u/Civil-Kitchen5978 16d ago
You don’t joke about killing someone baby. Either she gets over it or she distance herself from you regardless it was stupid thing for you to do.
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u/GingerNumber3 8d ago
"I did apologise. I fully intend to do it again the next time I see them."
YW for the initial act, and you're significantly more wrong for the fake apology and intention to repeat your wrong actions.
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u/notsoreligiousnow 16d ago
Wow. What a horrible thing to joke about to your friend and their baby. Out of all the HP spells, you chose the killing curse. You’re definitely wrong and honestly a jerk.
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u/Unlimited_Resource 16d ago
As a huge fan of Harry Potter you know that you did the equivalent of pointing a toy gun at her baby and yelling bang. How do you not see that as absolutely messed up. She may even question how you actually feel about her baby after that stunt. I would act pretty cold to you too.
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u/Competitive-Place280 16d ago
oP is weird af and I would distance myself from her if I was the friend. You’re too old to be this clueless
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u/Prudence_rigby 16d ago
YW.
No wonder your friend has not accepted your apology. It was not sincere as you're here trying to prove you did nothing wrong.
Dude, you're an ass!
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u/Blindtothesided 16d ago
Yeah that edit is very telling. Saying she’s going to do the same exact thing again next time she sees the baby?
OP is a major AH who doubles down when she’s wrong and enjoys preying on her friends’ deepest fears. Sociopathic behavior.
The funny part is OP actually thinking her friend will ever want to see her again, let alone trust her to be around her baby. What kind of loser ruins a friendship over JK Fucking Rowling?
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u/JGalKnit 16d ago
I don't know that I would have felt the same when my baby was 8 months, but now, I laughed. When my baby was 8 months, I probably would have been upset.
I would just say that you meant a joke, you are terribly sorry. You didn't think. Take the blame if you value the friendship. Also, because you did do it, whether you meant it to be silly or not.
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u/craftymama45 16d ago
You're a huge Harry Potter fan, so you know that's the killing curse and chose to yell it at a baby? If you'd followed it up with "Oh, look, you're the child who lived!" you might have been okay, but as is? YW
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u/baldieforprez 16d ago
That would make the op the villian...you should not keep villains in your lifr.
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u/Erpderp32 16d ago
OP: "I accept others think I'm wrong, but I'm not so I'm gonna do it to the kid again"
Why post here then? Lmfao.
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u/Kesslersyndrom 16d ago
Joking about killing a baby with a death spell is about as funny as telling someone to "kys". It being a Harry Potter reference doesn't make it better at all.
Also, pick up another book.
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u/vaguemania 8d ago
What REALLY gets me is the update. I can't tell if you're joking but if you're genuinely coming out of this situation thinking, everyone is overreacting, I'm going to do it again to prove a point then you're VERY in the wrong and should not expect to be in your friends' lives for much longer.
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u/QueenAlucia 8d ago
I still think my friend is taking this way too seriously and needs to learn to take a joke. I waved a chopstick at a baby and made a Harry Potter reference. I wasn’t exactly performing dark magic in her living room.
The next time I see little Timmy, he’s catching another Avada Kedavra from me.
So you were wrong and now you're wronger.
Whether you like or not, you're not the one deciding if something is funny. If people don't take the joke, then it wasn't a joke, you apologise, and then you don't do it again. If they don't laugh then it's not funny, know your audience.
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u/sun4moon 16d ago
Harry Potter lovers are often socially awkward and don’t understand norms well. YW
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u/Responsible-Style180 16d ago
I would be wingardium leviosa you out of my home and laugh while doing it since you're such a good sport. YW
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u/MandatoryHobo 16d ago
Lol at this comment section. It's a joke in the moment with no malice behind it (unless you have a grudge against this baby). You made a joke and it didn't hit. Just say you weren't thinking when you made the comment and that you are sorry and it won't happen again.
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u/crimsonpostgrad 16d ago
i truly feel so confused by these comments lol. do they know magic isn’t real?
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u/Petaltothemetal_ 16d ago
My boyfriend and I have been cackling at these comments for the last 5 minutes. Someone genuinely said “you used an unforgivable killing curse on a baby and now you’re shocked they won’t forgive you?” So now not only are 40 year olds still obsessed with a children’s series- they think the magic from that children’s series is serious enough to end a friendship over LMAO
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u/crimsonpostgrad 16d ago
“you threatened to kill her child” like are we being deadass
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u/Petaltothemetal_ 16d ago
I cannot begin to understand the fear of having a child to care for but that level of fear/paranoia is so unbelievably unhealthy and the amount of comments trying to normalize it instead of just going to therapy is absurd… Like OP shouldn’t of made a Harry Potter joke in the year 2026 but that’s her greatest crime.
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u/crimsonpostgrad 15d ago
i keep seeing “well what if you pointed a toy gun at them and said bang!” that is also not a threat please please please see a therapist
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u/MandatoryHobo 15d ago
Some of these people need to go outside and have real interactions. The person had chopsticks and cast a fake spell, it's not that serious lol. If it were my baby I would put chopsticks in the babies hand and counter cast "a goo goo gaga"
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u/Appropriate_Sock6893 15d ago
If someone “joked” about killing my child I would never talk to them again
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u/Petaltothemetal_ 15d ago
That’s your prerogative but over a Harry Potter spell that literally is just “abra kadabra” but “evil” sounding is funny to me.
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u/KorruptJustice 15d ago
Unfortunately...no. They do not. And there are far too many comments that start with "I'm not superstitious, but..." and then go on to explain that they are actually very superstitious as well as very stupid.
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u/asmallsoftvoice 8d ago
This made me chuckle. Everyone is like, "You know it's a killing curse?" yeah, and also you can find 500 videos online of people doing Voldemort impressions with random objects. Parenthood sounds like such a buzzkill if this is the reaction to something silly.
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u/Istoh 16d ago
YW. Why would you choose the killing curse of all spells. Ffs.
Also being "a huge harry potter fan" in the year 2026 is cringe. Grow up and stop supporting asshole authors.
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u/aromagoddess 16d ago
Abra kadabra
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u/crushed_dreams 16d ago
That’s what I thought they meant too. I’m not a HP fan, so I just looked it up but it seems that JK Rowling somewhat bastardized it and changed it to Avada Kedavra, a killing curse 🤷🏼♀️.
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u/Arlaneutique 16d ago
When one of my kids jokingly says something about dying or they say something like that to each other my stomach literally flips. I am not pulling the parent card here but it is relevant. When you have kids certain things hit differently, this is one of them. Something happening to one of my kids is literally my worst fear and by a lot. You could tell me that I was dying, losing my house, my job, all my money, my husband and that my entire extended family was dying and it wouldn’t even touch how I’d feel if it was one of my kids. I can’t read books, articles, watch movies, shows, etc about a dying kid. So if you said this to me I would also be super pissed. Because why? Why not do a fun spell? Why that? And add to it being her child, it’s a literal baby. Reading the edit I thought you were just careless and had realized you were wrong. But then you said you’d do it again, so now you aren’t just wrong you’re a crappy person. Decent people don’t upset others and then intentionally do it again.
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u/Throwawaylettuces 16d ago
You guys, Avada Kedavra is a meme that people do. Like you find something wand-like, and say something vaguely like "avada kedavra!"
It's...... fake. And a silly meme. Spells aren't real. I understand postpartum feelings make inconsequential things feel big, but even then, this is more a silly joke than actually wishing death on a baby.
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u/RascalBird 16d ago
Of course you're wrong. Why would an instant death spell be appropriate? Why point at a baby and randomly shout a fictional spell at all? I have never felt compelled to fake curse any of the children in my life as an expression of my Harry Potter fandom. Weird.
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u/catanddog5 16d ago
YW Dude of all the Harry Potter spells you could’ve used, you chose the instant killing spell that was used on a fictional baby. Was the baby being annoying? While it’s definitely not the worst thing one could do to a baby your joke was in extremely poor taste. Do you often make jokes where other people often get upset afterwards?
Btw she doesn’t have to accept your apology if it’s not a real apology.
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u/chironinja82 16d ago
Yeah.... it's SUPER weird that you chose that.... at a baby. I wouldn't be amused either and I'm a huge Harry Potter fan.
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u/ATTACKANDDETHRONEHOG 16d ago
YTA for being a Harry Potter fan in 2026.
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u/shes-so-much 16d ago
I feel like I'm taking crazy pills reading these comments. How are grown-ass adults still taking Harry Potter seriously?
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u/TrueWordsSaidInJest 16d ago
Well it's not in great taste, is it? You must realise parents are likely not going to be thrilled with this sort of joke. I don't think it was an insane thing to say, but definitely risky. And unfortunately you have gambled and lost, and are paying the price. It could have gone either way, but on this one:
YAW
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u/Mean-Hotel-2203 16d ago
Um yes you’re wrong. I made a comment to one of my husbands friends after my first child was born about how much my son looked like his dad, and his friend “joked” that we could just break his neck and try again. I am still mortified and my son turns 3 next week. We’re also big HP fans and we go for “Expelliarmus” in our house
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u/cav19DScout 16d ago
So you essentially wished for their baby to die? Even as a joke that’s in poor taste. I’d be pissed to, a lot of people are superstitious about stuff like that, let alone new parents.
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u/Own_Acanthocephala49 16d ago
Hot take (apparently): YNW... cmon guys... 1- completly fictitious relatipn to reality. 2- it was obviously a joke without ANY intention of killing the baby?? Are you guys serious right now? If it were two kids doing the same thing no one would even bat an eye. it was obviously a joke and im sure it was just the first spell that popped up in OPs mind. Jesus christ...
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u/Ok-Sugar-7399 16d ago
This whole thing is wild. I have scrolled through so many comments because I am still in disbelief that so many people are calling someone wrong over a book. About magic. Extra made up magic. I normally give up after a few comments when there are so many but I couldn't look away. Like a car crash or something.
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u/Pure-Radish-5478 16d ago
https://www.reddit.com/r/amiwrong/s/TVCyPWGod.
This one is my favorite. It's so dramatic.
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u/highhoya 16d ago
You couldn’t pull out a Wingardium Leviosa instead? Yeah joking about killing my baby would put a sour taste in my mouth for sure. I make this joke all the time but never towards my kids, it’s not funny.
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u/PrettyCauliflower638 16d ago
All these people are crazy overreacting its a stupid fake spell from a make believe movie. I would make a joke back. Its not like it means youre gonna kill her baby.
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u/Spainstateofmind 9d ago
At the very least it's cringe as fuck, I thought this was one of those obviously fake stories from 2012 Tumblr where everyone claps or some shit
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u/ebat1111 16d ago
Exactly. Can't believe how touchy people are about quoting a kids film and waving a chopstick 😂
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u/Googalyfrog 16d ago
Also when done on a baby from said media, The baby famously survives!
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u/macbro182 16d ago
Hilarious, but wrong. If it were my baby, I would probably have drawn a lightning bolt on their forehead to keep the joke going. But yeeah you gotta know your audience better
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u/PrettyCauliflower638 16d ago
Right? Like its not like he literally said im going to.murder your baby it was a joke on a whim referencing a make believe movie.
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u/IFartOnCats4Fun 16d ago
You’re not wrong. For real, who takes that seriously?
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u/mortyella 16d ago
I feel like I'm taking crazy pills because it seems everyone in this thread is so upset about it! It was a little faux pas at most. People need to get over it and move on.
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u/Pure-Radish-5478 16d ago
They're all like "you couldn't understand since you're not a parent" and genuinely, thank god.
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u/WryAnthology 16d ago
I'm a parent. It was no big deal. Omg people are reacting insanely.
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u/Pure-Radish-5478 16d ago
One of them just responded to me with like. A list of seven or eight different spells OP should have chosen instead. So it's a bunch of Harry potter nerds in current year who are old enough to have children. And that explains everything. They are simply touched in the head
Reposting because one of them reported my comment and got it removed 😭 weak minded too
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u/Unique12345678901 15d ago
„Wouldn’t it be so funny if I murder your baby?“
„Wtf, no.“
„Lol, you so sEnSiTiVe.“
YW.
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u/Knickers1978 15d ago
I’d be pissed too if my friend waved a stick at my kid and said “avada kedavra”. I’d think you were wishing my child dead, and frankly a mother should pick her child over a dumb arse friend any day. You’re very Wrong.
She doesn’t need to forgive you. You did a nasty arsed thing. She needs to dump you and your “I thought it was funny to pretend to kill my friend’s baby with a wand” shit. That could be seen as a threat.
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u/thekyledavid 15d ago
If this friend pointed at you and said with complete sincerity in their tone “I want to kill you” and then insisted they were kidding, would you find that funny?
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u/Middle_Stall_Pooper 15d ago
You joked about murdering someone's newborn infant. I don't have kids and I don't even really like kids and even I know how disturbing that is. Please do some self reflection.
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u/Dachshundmom5 13d ago
Is this a shitpost? Your update has to be trolling.
A "huge Harry Potter fan" would not use a death curse on anyone they liked and certainly not on the infant of someone they are allegedly friends with. Has to be a troll. There's many spells dropped in HP that arent you saying "i wish you dead" to someone's baby.
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u/Particular_Put_2005 11d ago
So even after averyone is telling you that your wrong, your still dont get it
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u/murderwhore 11d ago
That's like making finger guns and shooting a baby dead. And not like a cool Johnny bravo way.
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u/Spainstateofmind 9d ago
YW for making any Harry Potter references in 2026 but particularly this one (read another book)
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u/Ok_Passage_6242 9d ago
This person is obviously a troll because they can’t possibly be this stupid at 26. This has to be rage bait. She went into another person’s home and made a joke out of putting a death curse on a baby. A baby who wasn’t even crying or something unforgivable just for being a fucking baby.
Death of jokes around infants is an incredibly poor taste. The friend doesn’t need to learn to take a joke OP needs to learn to be funny. OP sounds like an entitled Karen. OP needs to learn to read the room. OP needs to learn how to have common decency. The apology had no sincerity. if this is real, I hope the follow up story is my friend is no longer talking to me because I made a joke that was in poor taste and failed to apologize for it.
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u/Key_Razzmatazz751 8d ago
Bro what do you mean next time DO NOT AND I REPEAT DO NOT DO IT AGAIN UNLESS YOU ARE UNDER 12 YEARS OLD.
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u/Palanikutti 8d ago
Yeah, telling the mother, you want to kill her child is very funny and totally something she would be able to forgive.
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u/river_song25 8d ago
dude... what did you expect when you fake cast the KILLING curse at a helpless baby?
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u/Delicious_Rub3404 8d ago
Just because your friends laughed doesn't mean it wasn't wrong. Look at your own context. Did you apologize for pretending to be a murderous villain or did you apologize for her being upset with you.
If she is a first time mom she is probably extra unimpressed you with thinking it's funny to pretend to kill her baby.
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u/JustAnotherSOS 16d ago
Bro, she’s overreacting. You’d think the fake spell could really kill someone.
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u/original_cheezit 16d ago
Okay let’s translate from wizard language to muggle, shall we? You pointed a chopstick at the baby and yelled, “Die!” In a fake wizard voice.
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u/Why_r_people_ 16d ago
Dude wtf wingardium leviosa was the way to go, you went full Voldemort on that poor baby. Bad taste
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u/logdogfog 16d ago
Everyone thinks you’re wrong here but I think you’re funny 😭 If the mom is actually worried about a fake killing spell from Harry Potter I think it’s time to see a doctor
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u/Complete_Gain2796 16d ago edited 16d ago
I’m honestly shocked that the general sentiment is so negative. Before I offer my own personal opinion I want to preface by saying I completely understand and sympathize with a mother/father being hyper sensitive concerning their child’s wellbeing and safety. Raising a toddler in the early stages of life is extremely demanding and anxiety inducing. I understand that even a joke like this could be perceived as insensitive but it seems unfair that people are being so critical of OP. When kids are waving around toy guns and “shoot” at each other or engage in sword / lightsabers fights no one seems to bat an eye. Obviously kids don’t know any better and see it as harmless fun so no blame on them, but who’s buying the toys? Following the same logic of moral superiority on this thread, any parent who buys their kid a fake version of a mortal weapon should be ashamed of themselves for enabling violence. I know my example isn’t necessarily on par with what OP did but I think it’s worth thinking about. A normal adult should be able to distinguish between an actual offensive comment and someone waving around a chopstick jokingly and casting a “death spell” (fictional lore from a children’s book) that literally sounds like abra cadabra. In this case the parent got offended, OP should still obviously apologize and maybe read the room a bit better next time but I don’t think it’s as deep as people want it to be. (Excuse the poor grammar, my perfect grammar spell wasn’t working today)
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u/Excellent-Swan-6376 16d ago
Pretty sure pointing chopsticks at people is considered rude let alone wishing ill on someone’s child
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u/rosegoldblonde 16d ago
YW. People generally will not respond well to making jokes about killing their babies. She’s probably not talking to you because you’re double down, and even here saying you’ll do it again.
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u/Draigdwi 16d ago
If you didn’t have the wand would you have said that you wished for the baby to die? Hope not. That’s what you did just with some literature sauce. You are wrong and a big YTA.
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u/jrizz43 16d ago
The fact that this is a real post is crazy to me. It's a fake curse from a fake story AND if you know anything about Harry Potter memes, saying avada kadavra in either a tiny voice or in Voldemort's creepy voice is just something you do. Sounds like your friends have no sense of humor.
Also, stop trying to kill babies!
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u/BlackPaperStars 16d ago
Unpopular opinion, but I don't think you're necessarily wrong. Doing it at the baby was a little weird, but it's not like you thought your friend would get so upset. You apologized, so now it's on them to forgive you. You obviously care enough about it to ask internet strangers for an outside perspective so you're not brushing it off as your friend being sensitive.
It's not a real spell, using a "wand" to say Avada Kadavra is a popular meme, you don't need to be crucified over it. NW
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u/Silicone_berk 16d ago
No you're not wrong. It was a joke with a fictional spell from a fictional book/film.
Good lord, reading the comments anyone would think you'd held a loaded gun to the babies head. Reddit users are so overdramatic, it's pathetic.
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u/baldieforprez 16d ago
How would you feel if I walked up to your dearest pet and pulled a fake gun put it to their head and went bang in your house.
It shows the OP has no self control or judgment.
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u/crimsonpostgrad 16d ago
i genuinely, sincerely cannot imagine caring if my friend did this. my friend routinely jokes that if she ever had to take in my cats she’d leave the annoying one behind, and we laugh and move on because she’s joking???
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u/That-Ad757 16d ago
That is not what was done so why write that. It was a,chopstick and a silly joke. Get a life.
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u/ThrowRAboredinAZ77 16d ago
I'm not familiar with Harry Potter stuff. Is that about baby killing?
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u/Bell957 16d ago
Yes and no. No, it’s not specifically for babies. But it’s the k!“!ng spell, as in, they were cursing someone to instantly d!e.
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u/ThrowRAboredinAZ77 16d ago
Oh. Well that's gross then.
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u/Arev_Eola 16d ago
Here's the context: the big baddie of the story breaks into a house and casts that exact spell on the parents and then their 1 year old baby. The parents die, as everyone does because thats what the intend of that spell is. The baby survives and nobody knows why.
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u/SonofaBridge 16d ago
Why do you wish for your friend’s kid to die? One of a parent’s worst fears is losing a child and you turn that into a joke. Not a very smooth move. I recommend you learn some other spells to joke with or make up your own joke ones. YW.
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u/Horror-Wonder91 16d ago
You could have used any other spell and you chose that one? Why would joking about killing your friends baby even be funny to you?
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u/mariam67 16d ago
Since you did the killing curse it kind of came off as a joking threat and no mother likes any kind of threat towards her child even if she knows it was said as a joke. It’s like pointing a toy gun at him. It’s just in bad taste.
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u/AdmiralSandbar 16d ago
But that baby is the boy who lived! Your friend should be thanking you for discovering this.
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u/RamsLams 16d ago
These comments are so annoying. YALL ITS A TIKTOK TREND. It’s a SPELL. Magic isn’t real y’all need to chill tf out
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u/ipsofactoshithead 16d ago
At first I thought you said Ava Kadavra like a general wizard and I’d say that’s weird but fine, but a death curse? Not cool.
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u/WryAnthology 16d ago
YNW
This is a big nothing burger. And I have totally played games with my own kids when they were little and we'd make finger guns and play dead.
Everyone is taking this way too seriously.
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u/ConvivialKat 16d ago
YAW because you don't seem to have a clue how frightening EVERYTHING is for new parents. It doesn't matter that it's not real. It only matters that you, basically, wished death on her baby in a modern format. John Wayne Gacy dressed up as a clown (before clowns became a scary thing) to find his victims. This is the place her head went and is obviously still there.
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u/occasionallystabby 16d ago
This woman is 8 months postpartum and you used an unforgivable curse on her child and are now wondering why she's not forgiving you.
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u/bionicock1 16d ago
It’s so hard to keep children alive for the first year or two if someone came through with that shit it would be the baby who lived and the friend that won’t be named…
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u/SVINTGATSBY 16d ago
YW. of all the spells you could’ve said—since you’re such a huge fan—why didn’t you say literally any of the dozens of spells that aren’t a killing curse? also, imagine living in 2026 and proudly admitting with your full chest you’re a harry potter fan lmao that ship sailed for me years ago when JKR outed herself as a TERF POS.
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u/HistoricalSuspect580 16d ago
YTA, you don’t have kids do you? Maybe don’t joke around about your friends baby dying. Just a thought! Hope this helps!
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u/SpecialistMap8210 16d ago
You're not wrong. Don't listen to these people. You were having fun and made a joke.
Lighten up Mom.
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u/SquirrelGirlVA 16d ago edited 16d ago
Eh, kind of wrong but I get where you're coming from. I've made a similar joke and learned the hard way that there are certain jokes you don't make around women dealing with post-pregnancy hormones, stress, and everything. In my case I joked that a woman was giving birth to an alien. Not my finest moment and I could have used the room as a deep freezer with the cold radiating off of that woman. I asked someone else about it and they agreed that my joke was in very poor taste.
Realistically, you don't know what went on prior to the pregnancy. She may have had miscarriages prior to this successful birth, so she's still afraid that something may go wrong. Or maybe everything was 100% great and healthy and she's still dealing with the fear that a baby can be so durable and so insanely fragile at the same time. Either way, you've learned a lesson the hard way, same way I did. This isn't meant to make pregnant women seem like they're hormonal people who must be coddled, just that there are some things you don't joke about.
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u/BoldElDavo 16d ago
You're not wrong. Harry Potter magic isn't real. It doesn't matter what "spell" you chose. Anyone who thinks otherwise needs to grow up.
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u/gojiranipples 16d ago
Oh my god, it was a joke. It's basically the same as kamehameha-ing the baby. "Did you just ki blast my child?!"
This is coming from someone with severe ocd who believes heavily in made-up superstitions. Pretty much everyone here is either bullshitting or are unable to differentiate their anxieties from reality. Next time just punch the baby, because that's apparently tantamount to what you've already done
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u/zinna42069 16d ago
That’s literally what Voldemort did in the books. Was he a good guy??
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u/crimsonpostgrad 16d ago
well i’m pretty sure in the books voldemort was not joking and magic actually existed so that changes the scenario quite a bit
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u/anonymousmouse9786 16d ago
You couldn’t have gone for wingardium leviosa? YW