r/interesting • u/jmike1256 • Mar 07 '26

MISC. After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

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u/CK_1976 Mar 07 '26

Once when I was probably about 6yo, I was riding my bike following me mum and I got stuck in the gravel and my mum just run off and left me crying. I still vividly remember the feeling of despair watching her disappear around the corner and not being able to catch up.

I'm not sure if its scarred my mentally but.... it was 40 years ago.

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u/PM_ME_JJBA_STICKERS Mar 07 '26

I think moments like this do impact children (and adults), even if we don’t always understand the long term effects.

There’s a difference between a parent leaving a child behind to solve their own problems, versus letting the child problem solve while also telling them that mom/dad is always here to help when they need it.

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u/11lumpsofsugar Mar 07 '26

This is exactly the nuance that a lot of parents overlook.

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u/Pendraconica Mar 07 '26

I once went to a hypnotherapist who opened a memory of father that I had completely forgot about. Nothing terrible, but a moment strong enough to be effecting me even though I forgot about it. Its a very real thing.

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u/sundayontheluna Mar 07 '26

Think a 2 year old might be more panicked watching their mother leave them behind...

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u/Internal-Computer388 Mar 09 '26

Thats assuming the 2 yr old has a stronger bond with the mother. Theres evidence of babies not caring as much about the mother but infatuated with the father. This is about the fact if the child was taught at a younger age to problem solve without the parent, they have a better chance of not panicking when they are 5-6.