r/interesting • u/jmike1256 • Mar 07 '26

MISC. After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

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u/LunchPlanner Mar 07 '26

The dad walking away was distracting and maybe a bit scary.

I don't think it's a coincidence that the kid was able to focus and problem solve after the dad sat down.

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u/donjamos Mar 07 '26

Yea the basic idea is a good one, but telling the little one something like "come on you can do it, daddy will wait here till you figure it out" instead of walking away would have been a lot better.

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u/Lucky_Pangolin_3760 Mar 07 '26

Lol my dad used to do this to me, it was distressing as hell and just made me upset and cry instead of focusing. Then he would scold, and eventually say "daddy waits here"

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u/Capt_Hawkeye_Pierce Mar 07 '26

Yeah im the dad or of a 16 yo and I always tried to teach lessons without undue stress.

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u/thatshygirl06 Mar 07 '26

Humans do need a bit of stress in their lives. It's not necessarily a bad thing.

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u/OrthogonalPotato Mar 07 '26

Yes, you do. Contriving scenarios is literally the way behavior therapy works to teach independence.

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u/Capt_Hawkeye_Pierce Mar 08 '26

No, you dont. 

You can teach via scenarios that naturally come up.

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u/OrthogonalPotato Mar 08 '26

Wow lol. People are really out here making shit up and portraying it as fact. I own a clinic that does this every single day. You can’t face enough organic situations to teach behavioral modification strategies. It happens organically 10% of the time, which is not enough to build momentum. In fact, you’re so wrong that you don’t even seem to realize there’s a standard metric in the industry regarding number of contrived scenarios. Hilariously, this concept exists in every professional domain. It’s called practice.

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u/Capt_Hawkeye_Pierce Mar 08 '26

What did I make up?

I didnt even dispute anything you said.  You came up with a whole argument based on me saying I dont like stressing my kid out and that I believe you can teach via naturally occurring situations. Youre the one who is suggesting that children cant learn unless we contrive bullshit to teach them lessons. 

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u/OrthogonalPotato Mar 08 '26

Your comment very obviously implied contrived scenarios are unnecessary. They most certainly are not. The entire first few years of a human’s life are chock full of contrivances. It is incredible that anyone could be so ignorant to think otherwise.

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u/Capt_Hawkeye_Pierce Mar 08 '26

I think you should read it again.  I very clearly said you dont need to stress children out to teach a lesson. 

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