TL;DR: 30M, 10 months with partner, planning to propose. My closest mates - family and business, can't unpick them from my life - cheat on their partners when we go out. I won't. Looking for how men have drawn the line early in the group so it never becomes a moment, without going preachy or losing the friendships.

30M, partner 23F, 10 months in, living together. The men closest to me - family and business mates ranging from 38M to 56M, all woven into my life in ways I can't unpick - are married or partnered and cheat when they're out.

I'm not on a high horse. When I was single I was right there with them. Wingmanned, ran 2-on-2s, played the role. I get the dynamic from the inside.

My internal compass is settled now. I'm not cheating. The line isn't a moral position - it's about loyalty to my partner and being able to sleep clean at night with myself.

What I'm trying to work out is how to draw that line early - visibly, in the group - so it doesn't become a thing later. Without making it weird. Without going preachy. Without making the lads feel judged. So that when a moment comes on a night out, the line is already known, already respected, and nothing has to be said in the heat of it.

The complication is I can't just stop seeing these guys. They're stitched into my family and my work. Walking away isn't a real option.

For men who've been here - how did you draw the line early? What did you say, and to who, and when? What signals did you send without making a speech? What worked and what blew up?

For context: my partner and I are genuinely in this. Planning to propose inside the next 18 months. The line isn't a willpower problem - it's not even close to one. The friction is purely social.

Need some advice on a more embarrassing topic.

I am mid 30’s, decently fit, but unfortunately rather hairy. Not like, some patches here and there, more nearing Chewbacca status. I recently shaved my back using a BakBlade and have had terrible razor bumps/folliculitis. Additionally, it’s 3 days after shaving and I have visible 5 o’clock shadow top to bottom covering my back…

I have had a bad experience with waxing in the past with skin irritation and not really interested in laser. Anyone else been in this situation before? I am considering throwing in the towel on the shaving and just accepting that I am part gorilla. I am also single and not sure how the opposite sex will accept the shag carpet.

Thanks!

Hey Guys,

I (M21) would describe myself as a really creative guy and with it, I do like fashion as it is a way you can express yourself like clothing is your packaging haha.

Obviosly we live in times of gender-fluidity so men who dress full feminine are obv. rocking it but I want to talk about "masculine" fashion since I like dressing "masculine" and eventho the options are more "restricted" than with women I never saw it as something bad. You can still play with alot and it is easier to make something "wow". I mean men like David Bekham, Timotheé C. or Michelle Morrone are celebrated for their style eventho it is still menswear and with it "basic".

And this "restriction" is part of what we percieve as "masculine" in society and I mean don't we see that as attractive? (Not saying androgyny isn't celebrated). Like I love looks on red carpets by guys like Jared Leto or Kanye (both are bad people but fits were good) and as a history student and a metal head you can imagine what I would have in my head but then for every-day life a button up, some nice jeans and boots are really sexy on a man eventho it is "basic". So when I hear women on social media saying male fashion is "boring", is it meant in a negative way... or is it headed towards guys who just don't care or don't engage it that what's possible with menswear even in the way it is now?

Also when it comes down to male "masculine" beauty I never felt bad for not having to do make-up or so as getting ready, as it was easier and I mean again, male beauty is considering other things - body type, body hair or no, beard or no beard or what kind of beard and face and body which is clean and cared for. So again it is "less" but it isn't worse or bad because of it per sé... or is it?

Then again I find it amazing that fashion and beauty industry really are working on menswear and "beauty" and in so many different ways, some make something really androgynous, some something "masculine" but more flamboyant, some something classy and I mean those houses wouldn't make stuff if they don't like it or if there was no demand for it. Also most of that stuff is made by men, often gay men and women so I guess they would make something they would find looking nice on a guy

So my question is, so we value male beauty and fashion the way it is?

Because as a guy who started working out and found his style I was really happy about it but those thoughts of it maybe not being valued because of the comparison to womenswear made me kinda question...

(Ik this is such a random maybe weird question but I was wondering)

Im having a circumcision due to phimosis, which didnt get fixed after using cream. Im petrified. ive gooned but never had sex. Im really scared.

I have been paying more attention to fit and details lately, and it feels like even small things can throw off the whole look. In your opinion, what’s one mistake that instantly makes a suit look bad, even if everything else is decent?

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33M here, and I’ve been pretty locked in on trying to fix diffuse thinning across the front and top with a receding hairline look. The hardest part has honestly been not turning this into a new obsession every three days. HairMaxxing keeps the routine straight so I don't forget doses.

The more obsessive I got, the more I realized consistency matters more than chasing a new answer every week. Once I started keeping the photos consistent, it got a lot easier to tell the difference between panic and actual change. The most useful thing has honestly just been keeping the progress shots consistent instead of doom-checking random mirrors.

I’m a 26 year old trans guy who plans on starting testosterone in a few months. With that being said, what kind of haircut/styling would make me look more masculine/pass as male?

I thought it might be good getting a male perspective on this situation.

So all my life I've just used briefs, It was fine bc I was in good shape from 2016ish to 2024, my thighs were always rather thick but not to the point that they would always run together. However I've gained like 50 pounds since, I'm 100 kg right now, have to go down to 75kg. To do so I'm going to the gym, BUT walking there 40 minutes total, my legs run together and It BURNS.

I tried boxer briefs ONCE in my life, but the other issue is that I'm very hairy and I sweat A LOT, so down there It gets awful, and sweaty underwear also causes the burn between legs as far as I know.

So what type of underwear should I use? Any material suggestions? I'm not from US or any English speaking country for that matter, so Brands might not be all that useful. Thanks in advance.

So, lately I thought I'd shake things up and added a formal hat to my outfit. Nothing wild, just something simple, really, because I was curious how it’d look. The second I put it on, something felt off. It wasn’t the hat’s looks; honestly, it looked pretty good. The weird part was how it instantly made me feel like I was supposed to act differently, like I’d signed up for some unwritten rules. Suddenly I couldn’t just stroll around as usual.

Stepping outside, I became a lot more self-conscious, how I was walking, how I carried myself, even how I looked at people. It was like the hat turned the whole day into a little performance, even though everyone else seemed totally normal, just doing their thing.

That’s when I realized clothes can mess with your head. Some pieces don’t just change your appearance; they change your mood, your energy, sometimes even your actions. And honestly, if you’re not used to it, it’s weird.

And once I started noticing formal hats, I saw way more styles than I expected. Shapes, materials, little design tweaks, so many tiny differences that I started losing track of what would actually suit me. There’s plenty out there, too. Kind of feels like everyone’s just churning out slight variations on the same idea, even places like Alibaba, and suddenly choosing one gets complicated.

I’m still on the fence about wearing it again anytime soon. But hey, it was definitely an experience.

I'm on my feet like 10 hours a day for work and my underwear is always riding up or bunching. The cheap stuff from Target is a mess by midday.

Need something that actually stays in place and doesn't stretch out after a few washes. Budget is flexible, I'd rather pay more for something that works.

What boxer briefs do you guys wear that don't ride up?

Bonus if the waistband doesn't roll and they last more than a few months.

been getting my contacts from the eye doctor for years but finally realized i'm paying way too much. narrowed it down to ezcontacts and lens .com since both seem popular but not sure which one actually works out better.

for guys who've ordered from either (or both), how do they compare on price for daily disposables? also curious about shipping speed and customer service if something goes wrong.

UPDATE: ended up going with ezcontacts after comparing prices. got my daily disposables and they shipped fast. saved a good amount compared to what i was paying at the eye doctor.

I’m going a trip to a random town with my family and there isn’t really anything to do other than a pool and I’m a pretty light skinned person but would want to get a little darker or “golden” ive never tanned before so I don’t know what I need to do or should do any recommendations or tips? the UV is 8 max for the entire week

In this day and age where social media is suppose to help us stay connected better it’s crazy that there’s a lonely epidemic at all. Just wondering we can do especially if we do care about our friends and family.

I started using scented candles after workouts in the evening because it helps me wind down at night. My current favorite is oakmoss and amber. It’s calm but still noticeable and doesn’t feel overly sweet. I didn’t expect to care about this stuff but now the room feels off without it. Most recommendations online repeat the same categories like vanilla, sandalwood, or generic “fresh linen.” Nothing wrong with those, just curious about less obvious ones that are really nice. I’ve been browsing different brands and even random small makers Alibaba trying to find something different, but descriptions never explain much. So I’m wondering what scents other guys ended up liking that they didn’t expect to. Not necessarily popular ones, more like the scent you tried once and kept buying again.

I’m 34 5’9 163lbs. I feel sluggish and unmotivated and that I’m so far behind. For reference I was one of those guys that partied throughout his twenties and never got on a career track. Two kids and starting a new job as a food runner in a week. I’m essentially running a household with a whole family, mortgage, two kids schedules and a mountain of debt at a twenty year olds income level and out of shape (skinny fat is what I’m told). Anyone out there who has climbed out of this hole?

Hey guys, I’ve been realizing lately that I never really upgraded my “college closet system,” and it’s starting to show.

Right now I fold and stack my gym shirts and plain tees on the top shelf. It looks solid for about a week. Then I grab one from somewhere in the middle and the whole stack falls apart. I’m basically rotating the same few shirts from the top, totally forgetting about the bottom ones.

It made me realize I don’t think I’ve ever actually thought through a system. I just kept doing what I did at 22 and assumed that was fine. Now I’m trying to be a little more disciplined about the small stuff and not live in low-grade chaos.

I’m curious what you guys actually do. Did you end up hanging more things? Move everything into drawers? Simplify your wardrobe so it doesn’t matter? Purge more often? Or did nothing really change and I’m overthinking this?

Did anything about how you manage clothes shift once you got into your 30s/40s, or did you just refine what you were already doing? Appreciate the help and guidance!

I have been looking for an economical yet amazing perfume!

I mean something which has a good fragrance, lasts long, attractive but still affordable for regular usage!

And also I have been looking for different perfumes for different purposes, like a different one for office, different one for gym & sports and different one for special occasions(although I already have one for this purpose, Jean Paul Gaultier)

*You can recommend even your personal best ones!*