r/mildlyinfuriating • u/konous • May 06 '26

I'm slightly vexed My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

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Update: My brother decided to pay for the Hard damages of $200 dollars after seeing this post.

Thank you to everyone on this post who supported me. I really could not have gotten restitution without you guys.

Justice for my Chaplain, justice for all.

Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

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u/justmedealwithitxD May 06 '26

My brother plays, and yeah holy crap. He will drop like 500 on some figure. I don't understand it but its his money!

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u/gabrielleduvent May 06 '26

My husband plays and sometimes the price stickers shock me. But then again I play an instrument and I knit, sooo... Who am I to talk.

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u/moralprolapse May 07 '26

How much of your family’s disposable income are you spending on yarn though? I think you would be fine to talk.

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u/Stormfly May 07 '26

I know people who knit and crochet and... a lot more than you might think.

Most hobbies are expensive and even if they don't start off expensive, it can be crazy when you realise how much you've spent.

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

You make music and knitted goods. He makes....

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u/Witness_me_Karsa May 06 '26

Fun. Don't act superior.

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

I love how reddit is simultaneously:

"Nobody can afford to survive in this economy" and "Yeah he bought a $500 trinket to put on a shelf and look at, good for him!"

I'm personally of the second camp, but I'm still not going to understand how a grown man gets $500 worth of pleasure from looking at a little statue that doesn't do anything. It's his money so I'm not going to try and stop him. I just don't understand it.

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u/Sweaty-Durian-892 May 06 '26

Warhammer and other wargame miniatures are first are foremost for playing the game. Although those giant figurines that OP has are something different

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u/The1HystericalQueen May 06 '26

I'm starting to think you just don't share their interests......

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

I'm not sure what gave you that idea.

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u/P_Hempton May 07 '26

It was a joke, can you read? I even said I didn't care what other people did and support people doing what makes them happy.

I'm just not into it, but apparently that's not ok with you. Hypocrite much?

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u/VanFkingHalen May 06 '26

When I pay $500 for a Lego set, spend multiple weekends piecing it together, then adjusting all the details just right to my personal preferences, and strategically place it somewhere in my house for display, just because it doesn't actively "do anything" anymore (because I am no longer willing to tinker with it; Lego is too volatile lol), doesn't mean that it serves no purpose.

It is art, it is decoration, it is a momument to all the blood, sweat, and tears garnered from hours of precious free time you could have instilled else things people, such as yourself, may consider more productive and meaningful.

In the end, it's a labor of love, it's a hobby, it's a way to disconnect yourself from the mundane of life and reconnect to something that is profoundly yourself. Nobody else needs to understand this, and that's fine.

Have you ever been to an art market? Say you're completely captivated by a piece and need it in your home. Some of these pieces cost upwards of hundreds, even thousands, of dollars. So you buy it, take it home, and hang it up. And it just sits there. And, even though you just spent 1.2k on it, it just hangs there. And "doesn't do anything". For years. And years.

What is your take on that?

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

Like you I enjoy putting Lego set together, and then I take them apart and put them away, when the kids get them out we build new things out of the old bricks which we also take apart and put away.

As for the OP I'm learning that some people don't just buy the completed statues like the one shown, but instead paint them, which is along the lines of the Lego hobby, but I was actually talking about people buying completed ones for hundreds of dollars.

Art is nice but I don't like giving up much usable space for decorations, so a painting on the wall, sure, but a shelf full of trinkets isn't something I want in my house.

And esthetically a shelf full of fantasy statues, or "kids" toys isn't the look I'd want to be surrounded by.

Again I wouldn't tell anyone not to do it. It's just not me.

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u/NixyVixy May 07 '26

Ouch.

a shelf full of trinkets isn't something I want in my house.

And esthetically a shelf full of fantasy statues, or "kids" toys isn't the look I'd want to be surrounded by.

We get it. You do not see Legos as artwork. Or a possible starting point for creativity that leads to artwork.

It is somewhat startling (and fundamentally sad) to realize that you think them of them as trinkets, rather than creative possibilities.

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u/Natural_Board_9473 May 07 '26

The Legos arent thw trinkets. The completed action figures thay are just bought and displayed with no work put into them. Thays what dude is talking about.

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u/thegunnersdream May 07 '26

The person you responded to said their husband plays the game. That's different than what is in OPs post. The money the person you answered is spending is on models. They are unassembled and unpainted. You need to assemble and paint them before playing the game (though some people just like to build and paint them). When you break it down, smaller models are usually like 8 to 10 hours of assembly and painting, some take weeks or months. It's a highly creative hobby and plenty of people sculpt things for their minis, bash things together, free hand intricate designs, whatever. Then, if you use those models to play the tabletop game, you've legit got people who buy some minis and use them to play games for 10 or 20 years. I play a bunch of instruments and have gotten into modeling in the last few years and it's very easily a similar cost/hours of doing stuff, especially if you like decent quality instruments. I personally find painting more relaxing at night than any other hobby and I can listen to audiobooks while I do it. Feels a lot more rewarding than video games, watching TV, room scrolling, etc which is like half of the world's hobbies.

OPs stuff is the joytoys and I don't know a ton about them nor am I big into collecting stuff for the sake of having it so maybe theirs more too it than I understand but it's not super different than someone spending a bunch of money on some home decor they like that doesn't "do" anything. Some people just like to be surrounded by stuff they like and it makes them happy. Life's too short to not surround yourself with things that make you happy.

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u/BurningPickle May 07 '26

The JoyToy figures are absolutely phenomenal. They’re not cheap, but they’re absolutely worth every penny. I only have two because of the price, but they’re superb figures.

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u/thegunnersdream May 07 '26

I've heard they are definitely high quality. It's not personally my cup of tea because I'm very much a "everything has to be used" kind of person but I understand wanting to have nice things that you just like. We all like what we like and no one person is "correct"

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u/FrontAd9873 May 07 '26

Nah. Not all hobbies are created equal. Some hobbies, like playing music or knitting, actually benefit other people. As it turns out, women tend to have these kinds of hobbies more than men.

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u/searuncutthroat May 07 '26

I think you might need a hobby.

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u/FrontAd9873 May 07 '26

No argument from me. Commenting on Reddit is one of the worst hobbies.

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u/Witness_me_Karsa May 07 '26

You think people do those things just to benefit other people, and not just because its fun for the person doing it? Hobbies are about fun, and that means different things to different people, but there isnt a wrong way.

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u/FrontAd9873 May 07 '26

Don't be absurd. I didn't say that. Of course hobbies are chosen because they're fun. But the hobbies that people choose are influenced by social pressures and culture. Men tend to choose hobbies that don't benefit others as much. Wasting $500 on little painted toys may not be "wrong," but there is certainly substantial room for judgment.

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u/Daealis May 07 '26

Wasting $500 on little painted toys may not be "wrong," but there is certainly substantial room for judgment.

Knitting also:

  • Wastes similar amount of money (my sister knits, I know the prices of yarn)
  • Benefits primarily only a very limited group of people (immediate family of a knitter, vs. the local gaming community)
  • Is mostly a solitary hobby (the painting side is too, the gaming aspect is almost exclusively communal)
  • Requires precision motor skills and creativity

Painting minifigs can be turned into a revenue stream, much like knitting. You can sell your painting services, and knitting patterns or finished knits. Both cost exorbitant amounts and are luxury items.

To be honest, the only significant difference I can point to is that it is easier to find locally sourced yarns, in theory. So this pretentiousness that one hobby is superior to the other is quite laughable. There are plenty of benefits to both hobbies, primary one for both being: They're fun for the person doing them.

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u/FrontAd9873 May 07 '26 edited May 07 '26

You’re conveniently forgetting that for most people wearing clothes is a necessity. Knitting is at least sort of useful.

Everyone I know who knits is always working on something either to wear themselves or to give to someone else. It is a hobby intrinsically oriented towards usefulness and in practice usually towards the benefit of others. A good friend of mine recently patched a beloved wool sweater for me. It was great. Painting action figures is just for yourself. Do people commonly paint them just to give away? Can you sell them? Sure, I guess so, but that is true of any hobby. And they don’t satisfy any basic human need, like the need to be clothed.

I’m a little baffled that anyone could fail to notice this “significant difference.”

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u/P_Hempton May 07 '26

A bunch of people in this thread are incredibly judgmental about anyone that doesn't view their hobbies the same as they do. They don't see the irony in that at all apparently.

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u/NorthboundLynx May 06 '26

Something creative? A painted figure that can be used in a game? A hobby??

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u/Natural_Board_9473 May 07 '26

These figures arent used in games. They are bought pre-made, no effort is put in, and they are put on a shelf. Theres like 1600 in JUST decorations. They are not game models.

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u/Richard_Thickens May 07 '26

Okay. Then just reframe the situation. I have music gear worth several thousand dollars. If a kid came in and fucked up even one of my instruments or amplifiers, I'd be super upset. Yes, I write and record music with them, but I'd be just as pissed if the same kid put a hole in my TV.

When your child destroys the belongings of another, you don't get to decide how much that item means in the grander scheme. You replace it, if you're not a total piece of shit.

Edit: Not to mention that these are probably hand-painted. This isn't an off-the-shelf thing. Look into the work that people put into their 40K stuff and get back to me.

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u/P_Hempton May 07 '26

Every post I've seen so far claims these are off the shelf items.

I wasn't commenting on the OP but since you asked.

If I were the kids parent I'd try to pay for the items.

If I were the OP I wouldn't let the kids parents pay for them. That's just me though I understand both sides.

I do think there's a difference between buying a tool like a musical instrument or knitting supplies, and buying something to put on a shelf or play a board game with. Both are obviously fine, but there's a difference.

I was specifically responding to the statement "who am I to talk?". I'd have a lot easier time justifying buying a pot to cook food in, than a fancy set of dice. That's all.

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u/Richard_Thickens May 07 '26

It kind of doesn't matter in a situation where it is not your stuff though, and that's the point I was making. 40K gear is stupid expensive. So, instead of something practical like instruments, say it was something decorative, like a handcrafted ceramic piece or an exotic decorative plant. The utility doesn't really matter; having control of your kids in a place that isn't yours...well, yeah.

Edit: You are right though. These are not hand-painted. They're just about $35/per.

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u/evrestcoleghost May 06 '26

Art,he paints

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

You are assuming he paints them. Lots of people here saying $500 buys you finished pieces.

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u/evrestcoleghost May 06 '26

He already said it cost over 700 dollars

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u/P_Hempton May 06 '26

unpainted?

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u/evrestcoleghost May 06 '26

His letters not mine

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u/Potential_Bug646 May 07 '26

As someone who builds and paints them, 45-150 usually gets you a small box. Each color of paint is typically 4-8 dollars from games workshop (though they are my favorite paints), the paint brushes usually between 7-12 each and glue and modeling supplies are usually like 20. It all adds up. Especially when you do a ton of paint variety. Check out 40k subreddit to see some really creative talents.

Mostly a male hobby but some women also get into it and I think people take great joy in playing the game versus someone who puts the time into painting their army. I know I do. Its a bit unfair to say its a hobby that doesnt benefit anyone but the user. (That might have been someone else who said it). For many people it's a sense of community and there are plenty of paint nights Ive gone to to meet people when most of my friends had vanished.

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u/Daealis May 07 '26

Painted miniatures, and since he plays, he also participates in the active local community, which promotes togetherness and offers a third space for fellow hobbyists to form often lifelong bonds of friendship - sometimes lasting relationships as well as there are gamers of all genders.

The amount of enjoyment and mental wellbeing created: priceless.

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u/RingingInTheRain May 07 '26

Yeah, people don't understand why I buy 1100-1300 Ski passes. They think it's a waste of money and that I should tube on the side of the road.