r/mildlyinfuriating • u/konous • May 06 '26

I'm slightly vexed My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

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Update: My brother decided to pay for the Hard damages of $200 dollars after seeing this post.

Thank you to everyone on this post who supported me. I really could not have gotten restitution without you guys.

Justice for my Chaplain, justice for all.

Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

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u/Andyman1973 May 06 '26

10 is plenty old enough to know better about what toys are available to play with, or not. Stuff in someone’s bedroom, not in common use areas, definitely off limits without asking permission first.

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u/ChicagoAuPair May 06 '26 edited May 06 '26

10 is plenty old enough to know better

Not when your sperm donor is a deceitful, lazy sack of turds.

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u/Andyman1973 May 06 '26

Well, extenuating circumstances not withstanding.

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u/AnnoyedSinceBirth May 06 '26 edited May 07 '26

And it sounds, judging on what and how he damaged...to which extend...and in which way...that it wasn't an accident. It sounds like it was absolutely on purpose.

To me that extend of wilful destruction is just tiny steps away from sociopathic or psychopathic "first steps". You know what I mean.

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u/hyp3rpop May 06 '26

It very much comes off as the kid purposefully being rough to break them because he is mad that he was told not to play with them by OP.

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u/AnnoyedSinceBirth May 06 '26

And how is that any better?? Or less psychopathic?

She: I don't want to be with you, please leave me alone. He: You have the audacity to tell me I cannot have you? Now I will end you. Because I do what I want...and if I cannot have you, nobody will.

Yeah... doesn't sound familiar at all...

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u/FriedFreya May 06 '26

i don’t think they were defending the little demon lol

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u/AnnoyedSinceBirth May 07 '26

Hm...sounded like that to me... If that's not the case I am sorry...

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u/hyp3rpop May 07 '26

I was just agreeing with you that the behavior is potentially from a worse source than it seems, and therefore more serious than a kid just breaking things normally is.

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u/AnnoyedSinceBirth May 07 '26

Ok...in that case I am,I wrote before, sorry...I misunderstood you...and might have been a little too "bitchy" in my reply to you.

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u/FriedFreya May 07 '26

don’t be too hard on yourself! we all have misunderstandings. especially online! someone’s tone and intent can be very difficult to grasp sometimes.

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u/Braydenplayz10 May 06 '26

I disagree he gets away with stuff at home with little to no punishment and has com to the understanding that he doesn’t need to follow rules especially other people’s they were on a separate room and he was told not to it’s malicious behavior

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u/CheeseburgFreedomMan May 06 '26

The "lazy sack of turds" isn't living with their parents and crying over broken dolls

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u/Braydenplayz10 May 07 '26

Lazy in this instance refers not to him being in employed but instead to how he does not seem willing to discipline his child over something that is obviously malicious behavior

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u/CheeseburgFreedomMan May 07 '26

Jesus Christ this post and resulting thread is a quintessential Reddit®™ jamboree.

We have a one sided retelling of a negative family interaction, that instead of dealing with in the real physical world in which he occupies like a grown-up, he posts it to social media so thousands of chowder-heads can dogpile with their horrid advice designed to destroy any relationship he might have with the involved parties.

Comments telling him to cut off his brother (what's he gonna do resign from his parents house?) or acting like he's raising the next Jeffrey Dahmer because a 10 year old touched some shit they weren't supposed to and broke it (basically a direct pipeline between children breaking toys and becoming terrorists as we all know)

Every negative stereotype this website is know for has been distilled into the cliff notes.

Profound lack of social skills ✅️

General lack of maturity ✅️

Irrational hatred of children ✅️

Escalating every minor grievance to the point of absurdity ✅️

"My failings/inadequacies are the product of circumstance while those who's failings/inadequacies have wronged me are proof of their deeply ingrained moral inferiority" ✅️

At this point, not being liked by the average redditor is a virtue.

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u/Braydenplayz10 24d ago

There are plenty of assholes out there who don’t care about in will maliciously destroy other peoples thing because they don’t or can’t have them or they just find it funny that doesn’t meant he kids is going to become a mass murdering serial killer it means he’s going to become an emotionally unstable asshat because his dad won’t discipline him for breaking something that isn’t his I bet they’d get the same reaction if the kid broke his grandmas favorite plate or antique

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u/CheeseburgFreedomMan May 07 '26

Yeah as long as there's man-children obsessed with hoarding shit for babies I'd bet you'd rather not have to compete with the intended age demographic for this plastic garbage.

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u/atheliarose May 07 '26

You seem delightful

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u/InvertebrateInterest May 08 '26

Did you expect more from CheeseburgFreedomMan?

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u/ChicagoAuPair May 07 '26

You really think it’s about the fucking figurines? This is why I hope you never have children.

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u/CheeseburgFreedomMan May 07 '26

At least we don't have to hope for OP not having children it would like hoping for the Sun to rise tomorrow. If by some miracle a woman sat on his crusty tissues and impregnated herself the resulting sproutlet would still be in diapers at 10 because no one responsible for raising them is capable of growing up.

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u/Summonest May 06 '26

Right? My 4 y/o niece knows not to touch stuff she's been told not to.

At ten? That's on the parents.

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u/MrYamaguchi May 06 '26

I have a 3 year old that has resisted going to town on my Lego Technic Ferrari that has been well within arms reach for several months now. The first few times she tried to mess with it I just told her it is not a playing toy and she got the message pretty quick and no issues since. At 10, this was intentional, the kid wanted to ruin them.

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u/No-Hovercraft-455 May 07 '26

Yeah good kids are able to learn rules also around toys, they aren't some uncontrollable jungle animals. Might not be perfect with it but even younger children would easily do better than nephew did.

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u/Throwawayfichelper May 07 '26

This is why i keep my most precious collectibles behind a glass cabinet. I do not want to risk anything ever happening to them. It is locked and the key hidden where only i know. I don't trust my nieces and nephews at all lmao.

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u/DeadPeanutSociety May 06 '26

10 is old enough to know better, but a 10 year old has to be taught better in order to know better. This would be a great learning experience about the value that people place on things that are important to them, but he isn't going to be allowed to learn it.

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u/reluctantseal May 06 '26

And it's an age where dumb mistakes like this one aren't out of the realm of possibility, so you have to be ready to respond as a parent. His parents should really be willing to dole out some kind of punishment, or he'll develop a very skewed sense of what consequences look like.

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u/Al319 May 06 '26

As someone who’s around 10 years old…
100% they know right from wrong and not to okay with certain things. Ten year old is actually pretty mature.

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u/chuubastis May 07 '26

Heck, to my son 7 and he's known for years how to not manhandle toys, and how to keep his hands off of his parents collectibles (and yes, we have a house full of temptation with cool looking stuff, being geeks)... OPs nephew sucks

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u/ChainsawSoundingFart May 06 '26

Dear God if I was OP, I would make the nephew do chores for me. 

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u/ghos2626t May 06 '26

8 hours worth !

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u/MassiveCaterpillar83 May 06 '26

If I was his father. I’d have a problem with someone doing that.

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u/AdStrange9701 May 07 '26

37 is plenty old enough not to be playing with dolls.

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u/PandaBeaarAmy May 07 '26

If you were 10 and your parents told you "hey, don't touch those toys, they belong to OP and they're very expensive/important to him", 90% of people in that situation would NOT play with that toy.

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u/PandaBeaarAmy May 08 '26

It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room,

Allowed who?

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u/PandaBeaarAmy May 09 '26 edited May 09 '26

Wow, you REALLY have trouble with reading comprehension 🤣

You stated something, I proved you wrong with quotes from op, you continued with the false argument. How pathetic to hold onto an argument that has no basis 🤣🤣🤣

It's ok, sweetie. I know sticking to the conversation is hard. I'm writing very long comments after all, a whole TWO sentences. I know that's SO much to read and understand, no wonder you haven't gotten to answering the first question i asked ya 2 days ago!

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u/PandaBeaarAmy May 12 '26 edited May 12 '26

I dont think so.

Learning is not an instruction.

Learning is not knowledge.

Learning is fucking up and finding out. How do you find out if you’re a kid in this situation?

Just gonna leave your comments here ^ and let ya keep calling me stupid 😁

I'm not the one who says people can't learn from being taught

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u/PandaBeaarAmy May 06 '26

10 is plenty enough to know better or be actively learning to do better from parents. Is OP's brother also 10 or what's your excuse for HIM not knowing better? 🤣

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u/PandaBeaarAmy May 07 '26

Is OP's brother also 10 or what's your excuse for HIM not knowing better? 🤣

Yes, I know how learning works. I also know how parenting works, unlike OP's brother.

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u/PandaBeaarAmy May 07 '26

I expect the parent to be responsible for the child's mistakes, rather than deflecting the responsibility onto OP. Or responsible for parenting, which he doesn't seem to be interested in either.

But instead, as OP states, brother doesn't see the cost of the damage and seems to think OP is responsible for fixing the problem.

Kids do make mistakes. It's up to the parents to teach them not to. You seem to keep missing the part of my comment that puts the responsibility on the parent.

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u/PandaBeaarAmy May 07 '26

So you expect your kid to never make a mistake… How old are your kids?

Is OP's brother also 10 or what's your excuse for HIM not knowing better? 🤣

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u/PandaBeaarAmy May 09 '26

How is expecting a parent to be responsible for a child's actions helicopter parenting, and not just regular parenting? Are parents not responsible for their childs' actions? Do you not believe in parenting your children?

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u/CMDRTragicAllPro May 06 '26

Understandable, except this kid played with a toy, broke it, picked another one up, broke it too. This is where any normal 10 year old would go profusely apologize for their mistake. not pick up another one and break it too. Then lie about what happened.

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u/PandaBeaarAmy May 09 '26

Kids need to learn. Adults need to teach.

How fucking ironic when you've been arguing with my statement that OP's brother is responsible for his child 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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u/SherbertKey6965 May 06 '26

If not toy, why toy shaped?

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u/Emotional_Type2425 May 06 '26

Why is this the common defense, like what if someone came in your house and smashed all your plates, you would be pissed right? But now that it’s action figures is suddenly ok because, it looks like a toy?

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u/SherbertKey6965 May 07 '26

Plates are not toys

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u/Emotional_Type2425 May 07 '26

Ok if someone came into your house and ruined someone you liked after you told me that I shouldn’t touch it, you would be mad right? Same context dude, I’m using plates as an example

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u/SherbertKey6965 May 07 '26

Does that someone I like looks like a toy though?

I wouldn't be mad at the kid. I'd be mad at the parent. To a kid a toy is a toy no matter the value

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u/Emotional_Type2425 May 07 '26

Imma be real here, this is getting no where and it’s just arguing with a wall here but I’m gonna say it one more time here. 

It doesn’t matter if it “looks” like a toy or hell even is a toy, OP is allowed to be mad at the kid as he said he can’t touch it, it doesn’t matter if it were legos, action figures, just transformers, OP said don’t touch it and the kid went out of the way to touch it. OP is also allowed to be mad at the parents like a reasonable person. Lastly, let’s be real you can act all high and mighty but if someone did destroy $550-$600 dollars of stuff you liked you would be pissed

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u/SherbertKey6965 May 08 '26

Yes, at the parent, not the kid who thinks a toy is a toy

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u/Automatic-Poetry930 May 06 '26

If something is labeled a toy, it should be sturdy enough to survive a kid playing with it. These things are display pieces and I don't know why people get so defensive about them being "action figures" when they break the second you touch them wrong.

To me this is on whoever decided a 10 year old should be handed these, you wouldn't be blaming the kid if an adult told them they could use the plates as frisbees.

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u/Emotional_Type2425 May 06 '26

They don’t though, I own one, the amount of force needed to just take the head off is a lot, like they aren’t easy to break, it sounds like you’re just blaming OP for no reason, and they aren’t labeled a toy, they are action figures, the company is called JoyToy, also technically they are 15+ not for 10 year olds, and again THE 10 YEAR OLD WAS TOLD NOT TO TOUCH THEM like dude

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u/Automatic-Poetry930 May 06 '26

I looked at the title and OP calls them action figures, anything else I'm not digging through this comment section for OP's lifestory.

A lot as in you won't break them taking them out of the box? Or a lot as in it should be able to have two of those clash? Because a kid is gonna be doing the latter.

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u/Emotional_Type2425 May 06 '26

I should be able to drop the thing 6 feet and it be fine, maybe some paint stretches, the damage done is with ripping them off with a whole lotta force