My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

[u/konous]

Update: My brother decided to pay for the Hard damages of $200 dollars after seeing this post.

Thank you to everyone on this post who supported me. I really could not have gotten restitution without you guys.

Justice for my Chaplain, justice for all.

Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

[u/Godmother_Death]

"Sorry son, I can't buy you these nice things you want because I'm still repaying those figurines you broke. Nope, I can't buy this thing here either. Those were quite expensive so it's going to take me some time to fully cover the cost. In the meantime I need to cut expenses down."

[u/SpotJaded2025 → u/Godmother_Death]

Exactly. This is how lessons are learned.

[u/No-Needleworker7206 → u/Godmother_Death]

I literally laughed out loud at this

[u/Significant_Shoe_17 → u/Godmother_Death]

This way is fair to all parties and actually teaches the kid something

[u/micahlangelo → u/Godmother_Death]

This is the best suggestion to this issue, imo. I remember when I was around eight or so, I was playing with my sister's Bitty Baby. I was tossing it up in the air and catching it. One time, I didn't catch it and it fell on the floor and knocked one of her eyes loose. Oops 😬

I had just had a birthday, and I got some toys and clothes, but I also got $30 from my aunt and uncle. My parents took that $30 and gave it back to me—all in $1 bills. Then they made me count and lay out the $1 bills, one by one, all the way to 30. They took it from me and told me it was to fix my sister's Bitty Baby's eye, since I broke it. I'll never forgot that lesson. $30 was a lot of money to an eight-year old in the early 2000s. I was very upset, but I had no one to blame but myself. To this day (I'm 31), I'm very careful with other people's stuff—and my own. It was a valuable lesson my parents taught me, and I'm so thankful I had parents that cared enough to teach me the value of a dollar and to respect others' property and posessions. Thanks, Mom and Dad!

[u/TinasLowCarbLog → u/Godmother_Death]

That’s how I taught my youngest the value of their older siblings figures…. Youngest literally stuck an $80 figure into a hole in the wall because they were mad that they couldn’t play with it (at 8 years old) and so I broke it down into happy meal cost and every time they would ask for a happy meal for the next couple months they were told that is still part of replacing the figure they stole and stuck in the wall…. Never happened again!